My bestfriend likes me?

[BabyOranges]

So my bestfriend (F, 21) told my husband (M,22) that she likes me more than a friend and that she wants our relationship to be more intimate. (Me and husband are open). She told him not to tell me, but he did anyways. So some back story I've known her since middle school and freshman yr of highschool I told her that I liked her more than a friend she told me she didn't feel the same and I was like okay cool end of story. Welllll now she likes me 6 years later, she thinks I don't like her like that anymore but I do. And I don't know how to tell her without her knowing my husband told me... so any advice?

[Anonymous]

It sounds like a complicated situation. Here are a few suggestions on how to handle it:

1. Be honest: It's important to be honest with your friend about your feelings, but you may want to approach the conversation carefully since she asked your husband not to tell you. You could start by telling her that you appreciate her as a friend and that you value your friendship, but that you also have feelings for her that go beyond friendship. You can explain that you found out about her feelings from your husband and apologize for any hurt or confusion that may have caused.

2. Listen to her perspective: It's important to listen to your friend's perspective and understand how she's feeling. Be open to hearing her thoughts and feelings about the situation, and try to approach the conversation with empathy and understanding.

3. Set boundaries: If you do decide to pursue a more intimate relationship with your friend, it's important to set clear boundaries and expectations to ensure that everyone is on the same page. This can include discussing what you both want out of the relationship, how you will communicate with each other, and what your expectations are for any other partners you may have.

4. Consider the impact on your friendship: It's important to consider how pursuing a more intimate relationship could impact your friendship in the long term. Be prepared for the possibility that it may change the dynamic of your friendship, and consider whether you're willing to take that risk.

The best way to handle the situation will depend on your own feelings and the dynamics of your friendship. It's important to approach the conversation with honesty, empathy, and an open mind, and to prioritize your own emotional well-being and the well-being of those around you.

[Anonymous]

I don’t think I’d go for it. Does your husband get to partake in it as well?

[BabyOranges]

No he doesn't he doesn't like her like that anyways and neither does she

[Opinion Owner]

I’d say no either way. Too many women have left their husbands for another female in situations like this. Especially because you liked her as well so chances are had she said yes to you in the beginning you might have been w her, not your husband.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Poly relationships are bad for society.

[BabyOranges]

We aren't poly tho

[TheSpaceGnome]

A 3 person reltionship is poly.

[BabyOranges]

It's not tho. My husband is separate from me and her. So therefor not a poly relationship

[TheSpaceGnome]

If you are having relations with both of them, its poly. It does not matter if they do anything with eachother or not.

Either way, whether you are cheating, or having a threesome, it's bad for society.

4 billion men, 4 billion women, pick one person and stick with them, don't be greedy.