How did/do you become a less jealous person?

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Screenwriter · Accepted Answer

Remember there is jealousy and envy. They are different animals.

Envy is about what you don't have, but would like to acquire. In some cases, envy is simply wishful thinking. I wish I could dance, skate, sing like so and so. Will you or could you? Perhaps not: you're tone deaf, a klutz. Envy is about admiration. Sometimes you CAN acquire some skills or things that person X has. In other cases, because of money, education, time or your innate skills, you cannot.

Nothing particularly wrong with envy, unless you obsess over something it is impossible for you to have or acquire.

Jealousy is a monster of a different and green color. Jealousy is NOT about acquiring anything. It is about the fear of LOSING something you have.

It is also about wanting MORE FROM someone who is not willing to give it. No matter what the reason is. The reason usually has nothing to do with you, but with that person alone. It is not a slight toward you either.

A common case of jealousy is someone being jealous of the time their SO spends with friends, or by themself pursuing a hobby or goal. I'm talking about a healthy avocation. Not the 20 hours a week their SO spends looking at porn or Only Fans.

Another general case is a woman not wanting her SO, or a man not wanting his SO to have friends of the opposite sex. As if having those friends is a threat to his or her primary relationship. Or the SO spends too much time with the kids and not with the spouse or SO.

In such cases, all the SO can do is state their case and see if the SO feels the primary person is justified in their feelings. If the SO feels the primary person is being foolish, they can reassure them, but say this person, the kids are important to me. But, let's make special dates for us. Maybe I haven't been spending as much time as I have in the past.

But JEALOUSY is usually part of the primary person being INSECURE about the SO, the relationship or both. This is usually about the primary person's lack of self-esteem, or some early trauma. These are difficult issues to resolve without professsional help and I would seek it. The SO should participate too.

If it ultimately can't be solved, there might have to be a parting of ways.

Graci_e · Accepted Answer

Well in general, I’m not a jealous person and I’ve never gotten jealous of others.

But in relationships, for me it depends on how the person makes you feel. I dated a guy that constantly spoke about girls and his exs and sent me pictures of them and compared me to them, and that made me very insecure and insecure when he was around other girls. That’s because of how he treated me.

But I also dated a guy that I knew cared for me and only wanted me and would never do anything to hurt me and wanted to do things right for me so we would be good. And I never got jealous or insecure ever, I felt perfectly safe and I trusted him completely.

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

You understand that when you're in a relationship you will do your part and you will treat her the way you want to be treated and at any moment at any time she can do whatever she wants when she wants and you have to have trust and respect for her and if she does something to make you feel that you cannot trust her then you need to walk away if she has guys that are friends you have to understand that she's with you and you have to respect that I mean that's cool you can't be jealous or something that hasn't happened or that you don't know that has happened you can't make anybody love you and if you try to make them love you then it's not real so so what you have to do is you have to accept it that if she wants to go out on you she's going to do it you always find out but if she's just hanging around with guys you have to understand she's with you she go home with you she sleeps with you she's your friend she's not going to do anything unless you push her into it by getting jealous most people are jealous just because they know what they do they know that they flirt they know that their intentions might be more different than what their partner might think it is you are jealous because you have probably done it before but don't worry about something that has not happened are you good to do is ruin your relationship by being jealous

dynamicyandere · Accepted Answer

I adopted self improvement and personal development as a core value in my life.

I focused on bettering myself rather than focusing on what is outside of my control.

And if you are the best version of yourself, or diligently working towards that, and someone chooses someone else other than you, then they were never meant for you in the first place.

The one that’s right for you, will see your worth. The one that’s right for will will not disrespect you.

And I’d were talking about companies and not people, if you aren’t good enough to work with a company, if you work hard at bettering yourself, it’ll only be a matter of time before you’ll be among the best in your field and you CAN work with that company (or a formidable competitor).

Sonorous · Answer

Through deep reflection, I have come to the understanding that the attainment of my desired outcome does not necessarily rely on the presence of a particular emotion. Therefore, I have realized the futility of harboring feelings of jealousy and have made the conscious choice to relinquish this emotion. For it is in letting go of such deeply negative emotions that we can truly find peace and progress towards our goals.

Babygirl_S · Answer

Jealousy is inevitable when something unfair happens. How many non-celebrity women get the opportunity to be the girlfriend of THE HENRY CAVILL? How many of them succeed in enjoying the GREATEST PLEASURE a woman can get with such an unattractive face and body? So many pretty women in the world stay sexually and emotionally unsatisfied while she had all the fun even though she has monolids, big shoulders, a bulbous nose, a missing upper lip, buck teeth... the list goes on. I know why she looks happier than him

ZackBan · Answer

In life in general it's about accepting that you are not owed anything and neither is anyone else. What they have that you lack is the product of universal randomness putting things on their path.

In relationships my advice is be as jealous and possessive as you can be.
It can be done without being toxic and controlling but while clearly stating that you're not gonna let anyone make a pass at your partner

Princess3335 · Answer

A person will become jealous of another if they desire something that other person has. For example, money, good looks, a relationship, occupation, etc. However, jealousy can be extremely dangerous. Some people will severely harm others just out of spite of being Jealous.

Jltakk · Answer

By just accepting the reality that I don't deserve to have the finer things in life. It took a deep look and harsh circumstances to come to this conclusion. I smile when I see someone with a loving family and a partner, proud that he's achieved a personal goal. I hope he's as proud of himself as I am of him.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

It was interesting, but the key for me was getting to a point where my level of achievement was undeniable, but I was still unhappy and insecure. I got to a point where any person would consider me successful, but I was still so empty inside. Once I got to that point, I realized that happiness and self acceptance comes from within. It's a choice you make to feel about yourself.

Anemone978 · Answer

I am never jealous you just have to realize you are better than everyone around you, and always know they are beneath you at all times.. lol that is what I do :P

Justmeagain1 · Answer

Inner work- drop the emotional baggage and focus on creating a mindset that a person or people that come into your life are here because they want to be not because they have to be.

Wisdom-Strength-Love · Answer

Look up artistic motivation on youtube Become the high value man the prophet foresees your destiny to be

sheenagwapa · Answer

i think as time goes by when you are in a relationship yoy become less jealous or when yoy have more trust in God/ you just leave it to God

McGrill · Answer

By just being happy and contented with the stuff you have and working hard to achieve something you want.

shades777 · Answer

not jealous but having a super hot girlfriend makes you feel alittle insecure because guys are always throwing themselves at her

AdithyaR · Answer

Came to an understanding that the gain of others is not my loss. That and convincing myself i don't deserve good things.

LiamJHayden · Answer

4 billion women. Fretting over one is ridiculous.

art84 · Answer

That you can't compete with that person and just move on.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Turn it back on yourself. Would you like it if she was that way towards you?

itsalyssaagain · Answer

I’m a very. Very. Very. Jealous partner. 🙂🙂🙂🙂

hiyamotherfers · Answer

depends on who you are jealous of and why

Spade_01 · Answer

No point in jealousy. Would rather work on myself.

Anonymous · Answer

Not being in a relationship

Manuel2 · Answer

It is easy. See the problem and coint to ten

Joker_ · Answer

good question

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