Could you be with someone that seeks validation from others while you’re together?

[Anonymous]

Yes

No

Depends

[itsalyssaagain]

No. And I’ve been friends with people like this and it is DRAINING.

[Asker]

Yeah I feel that

[Asker]

What was draining about it?

[itsalyssaagain]

The energy. If we’re out in public together, they’d constantly feel the need to prove themselves. Oh and God forbid someone didn’t like them!! And if we’re alone just chilling, it’s constantly talking shit about people who didn’t like them 10 years ago LOL. Its extremely draining

[Iron_Man]

What kind of validation are They that insecure as long as she get it from me That’s all that matters the same thing with me.

[Asker]

Yeah that’s how I feel but like them always texting other people while you’re together

[Iron_Man]

They don’t need 20 opinions from different people. To get mental security. What’s the sense of having a boyfriend or husband in that case?

[BryanMoore]

we all seek a little validation, I can forgive it.

[Nikki1989]

It depends. Everyone wants to be recognised for their achievements to some degree.

[TruthBringer]

NOPE

Been there done that when I dated someone with BPD. Someone who seeks outside validation is a walking red flag for many reasons. Just to name a few:

- They care more about external validation rather than YOUR validation. Which is a direct reflection about how they feel about you.

- They are more likely to cheat.

- They are highly insecure and can't feel good about themselves if there aren't multiple people who make them feel good.

- Nothing you do for them will be good enough and you'll eventually start feel like you're taken for granted.

[TheLimeNan]

You shouldn't seek validation from others regardless

[Anonymous]

No. I don't tolerate toxicity like that. Be real or be gone.

[Spade_01]

No, I don't hate myself that much.

[Anonymous]

Depends on what that validation he is seeking.

[Asker]

Like them just talking to other girls who tell him they like and love him

[Opinion Owner]

Then no I couldn't

[shades777]

entertaining men in the her dm's is unacceptable

[Selly1456]

Like in what context?

[Asker]

Uhh I don't know like them talking to others all the time who confess their love to your significant other and like multiple people they talk to

[In_Trance]

Everybody does this