Do you still check other people out when you have a partner?

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TheorionMage · Accepted Answer

Most average folks don't understand that all females are just divinely-'franchised' architypes of a non-corporeal Divine Feminine 'Prototype'. NO one female has a 'monopoly'.

While each woman is the 'manager' of HOW she operates HER 'franchise' (and her life experiences will judge her PERSONAL success) ... you MIGHT own and drive a Rolls Royce, that does not stop you from RESPECTFULLY admiring a Bugatti or the lines of a Ferrari!

Once I was driving my 1997 Mitsubishi 3000GT and I drove past a man driving a FAR newer and eight times MORE expensive Lamborghini... whose head & eyes followed MY 'ride' until I was out of site.
I had NO HOPE of EVER even 'borrowing' such as HIS ride, and yet some part of him... at THAT moment, envied ME!

And it felt GOOD to be appreciated & envied.
Just like when ANY woman of ANY age... young or old
feels the weight of male's stares.

But, its like body surfing in a turbulent open ocean... you can LEARN to exploit the envy of all who see you and SAHSAY... or
you can live in fear of the awesome perishable power YOU possess 'to cloud men's minds'
having never learned or given thought to that desire's mastery like commanding the empowering buoyancy of the greater ocean's immense eternal thrustings.

Like that classic song goes:
"But don't forget who's taking you home, and in who's arms your gonna be!
Darling, save that LAST 'dance' FOR ME!"

Lliam · Accepted Answer

Of course. It would be unnatural not to. The female for is delightful, charming, captivating.

I don't check out adorable women with any thought of doing anything with them. I just love how they look. It's no different from appreciating a cute puppy, beautiful art, or magnificent scenery.

My wife understands. On occasion, she even nudges me to draw attention to something particularly noteworthy - a nice ass or cleavage or something.

When watching a movie, I might comment on an attractive actress. She'll do the same thing with attractive guys.

My wife doesn't have to be jealous and neither do I. That would indicate a pathetic level of insecurity.

proNutro · Accepted Answer

I mean I can see someone and find them attractive but that doesn’t mean I’m interested and it doesn’t mean I want them or attracted to them, if that makes sense? I can look and acknowledge they look good but that’s all.
When I’m with someone my eyes are only for them and I couldn’t care less about anyone else because the person I’m with is all I want and the more we’re together the more attractive he comes that to me he’s just the most sexiest man.

So, people can look good but that’s all it ever is, it doesn’t mean I feel anything for them nor do I want them nor do I imagine myself with them.

xCherryKizz · Accepted Answer

When you glance over subconsciously, that might be unavoidable. But how you choose to nurture that initial attraction for someone other than your SO is your choice. You could continue to look at them, and in that case, you would be "checking them out". Some couples are not okay with that, some are. So it depends on where you draw the line of exclusivity. Some people view it as disrespectful towards your partner/ tainting towards the relationship whereas other people might be completely fine with it

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I never stop looking at other women. I don't have blinders on my face and attractive women will always get my attention, momentarily. But I don't do anything to try to get to know them better, get their phone number, flirt, etc.

Apple1996 · Answer

Yes usually me and my husband check out people together and rate them 😆

AudreyV92 · Answer

Of course, I think it's basic human nature. Whether or not you go further than just checking someone out when you have a partner says what kind of person you are (unless there's an understanding between you and your partner. i. e. an open relationship) 😁

TrueConfection · Answer

Yes. My husband does too. Then we talk about them later. lol

MCheetah · Answer

I didn't, back when I had a fiancée. I personally wouldn't want to do that though and would find it to be a crappy thing to do to my partner. It'd hurt her feelings the same as if she looked at a taller, hunkier dude than me.

I suppose I can understand and empathize with other people doing that though, especially if their partner isn't that attractive looking. But I wouldn't visually flirt with other girls if I was dating someone already, especially if I found her to be sexy. Even the girls I dated that I didn't consider conventionally attractive I didn't do that with.

Ohshee1 · Answer

This is kind of a funny question. I've been pretty lucky with all my ex-girlfriends or my significant others. Because I allow them to see exactly who I am and I also show them exactly who I a. m., and walking to the mall or something it will be a guy staring at her and she will catch it she will look at me and all I would do is smile because I'm not worried about it she's with me and there are times were walking to the mall and I'll look at a girl and I might look a little bit too hard and she'll look at me and smile and be a smart-ass and say I can't believe you and I see when you look at that hair look at her hair do you think she has pretty hair because she knows that I could have 10 girls around me and I could be talking shit but she also knows that I'm with her and I love that feeling because first of all is true it's honest and that's who I am and I usually pick girls that are the same way to date or to be in a relationship with

Tunasub · Answer

If I look. it's not to be disrespectful.

I don't care what anyone says.. everyone checks out someone at one time or another.

You're in a relationship, if that stops you from seeing someone that may be attractive or stops you from being visually pleased by something you find visually pleasing..

Then pull your fucking eyes out.

We are all human beings. Stop this bullshit,

"I don't notice that fine ass woman/man standing over there"

Cut that shit the fuck out. You notice, but it's better to say that you don't? FUCK THAT!

Look and enjoy what you see just don't be disrespectful and gawk, wink or whistle.

If someone looks pretty or handsome you're allowed to think it and even say it but if you're in a relationship don't act on it.

Fuck outta here with that I don't look shit!
If you're real keep it fuckn real.

annyasansiri · Answer

i mostly checkout girls. im 1000 percent straight though. i just love to see others people's clothes. im obssessed when i see pretty girls. i also check out guys both handsome and not. i dont tell my partner that i look at them though. all in all, i will defeinitely get jealous if my partner looks at others... which i shouldn't... buti admit im self centered and unaccepting.

Finchie40 · Answer

I look but I don’t act on it for respect for my relationship , the same way I would want her
To be with me , when you value your partner like they value you then their really isn’t a reason to be looking elsewhere , those people should be pretty much blind to you and mean nothing if you love and value your partner , it’s ok to notice someone’s beauty if they walk past you but if you are actively seeking it then you should really reconsider being in a relationship period

igaveyouanickname · Answer

Yes. I'm not interested in jealous types, so it's not a problem. The ones I'm with are often bi/pan and don't want to miss any potential new playmates. We tag-team them or sometimes "gift" them to each other. We're ethically sexually nonmonogamous but emotionally-attention trustworthy and honest.

Although, it does make me feel flattered but uneasy when a woman gives me side, sly cheating eyes right behind her assumed monogamous partner.

DizzyDesii · Answer

I try not to but I do. I just wouldn't do it while my partners around cause thats more disrespectful.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

Yeah you naturally look at pretty much everything when out in town say.

if it’s a girl that matches your inbuilt alert radar you look.

girls do the same,

I've had similar conversations with gfs in the past,

human nature.

Friendlybro79 · Answer

Yeah i think this is an interesting question. So honestly yes but not looking to be a butthead about it. If a pretty girl walks by me I'll notice but I'm not going out of my way to be rude to my partner by gawking.

Also if I'm in a relationship and I'm out alone, say at a supermarket, I don't act single. If that makes sense.

summerfox · Answer

Yeah, I still do, I even sometimes point out an attractive girl or guy to my boyfriend, and just exclaim "Ooo they aesthetic, I like!"

Mayajenks9 · Answer

It’s human nature to check people out. It’s what you do about it that matters.

Cocochoh · Answer

When I'm at work I harrass the hell out them. They don't mind. Nor do they care. I say tha cause they come back fa more. Lol

NathanDavis · Answer

I have done it, when given the chance... but I don't go out of my way to do so, and I am never obvious about it

Kas19 · Answer

Yeah. We both do. It's normal. As long as you're not disrespectful and creepy about it.

KeithLane · Answer

Something I absolutely can't stop doing if my life depends on it. I do my best to be discreet, mostly for my own safety. Wife is not to nice when she thinks I'm checking out a girl. Funny part is she always picks the wrong girl, someone I wasn't checking out.

Starrisunset · Answer

Sometimes 😄 I think it's ok to look as long as you don't touch.

Sheyhoney · Answer

No ! When I’m in love w somebody I honestly cannot see anyone else.

loveslongnails · Answer

I have a partner, I didn't lose my eyesight or have a hormonal breakdown - and neither did she ! LOL

2ndTryatThis · Answer

Yes. “Window shopping is always free” -8 Crazy Nights

Pj1981 · Answer

Human nature. But I don't make it obvious, and I always make sure my girl knows she's beautiful and all I need

LonewolfMeme · Answer

No I don’t. It’s not because I don’t find others attractive but because he’s the only one who I care about locking eyes with, holding hands, cuddling, kissing and messing around with. I love that individual with my whole being.

SomeGuyCalledTom · Answer

Single now, but my last girlfriend and I used to comment on people we saw passing by that we found attractive. It took the stigma out of looking, coz we're only human, of course we're gonna look lol

Jlegacy · Answer

That would be just and that needs to be fixed fast. To lust after anyone other than your spouse is to believe there is nothing special about your spouse.

TonyV · Answer

Yeah kind of, not as much but that's mostly cause I know no women like me so who fucking cares how good they look

andreasderjuengere · Answer

I do notice ''beauty'' around me. But there's no additional idea of 'taking action'.

crmoore · Answer

I try not to but it is hard. It makes me feel pretty crummy, too.

Fireguy17 · Answer

Yes, I am not dead. I look at other cars/trucks when I am out driving, I think it is only natural.

Better_off_here · Answer

i think we all do that at times i have seen many married people who still do that, it does not mean they will cheat but i think it shows that we as humans see others and unless it is a constant thing i would not worry too much about it.

Avicenna · Answer

Yes, that is totally normal. I am discreet about it though.

salsa93 · Answer

Uh yeah lol. Look but don't touch. Just don't lust after people. Look and be like "damn... he/she looks good." And leave it at that. Don't start fantasizing as it's a slippery slope. No pun intended

TwistedSukuna · Answer

Me and my ex were comfortable enough to do it together lol

willyham2021 · Answer

Yes. Mostly in passing or by accident though. Nothing wrong with noticing beauty. However, it is rude to make your partner insecure.

lasher010 · Answer

When i levae a partner? Lol. You dont lnow the mind of men. Im checking out women that I can only hear their voices around the corner.

007kingifrit · Answer

yea. men are visual creatures you can't ask us not to look

Andres77 · Answer

Yes, it gives us something to talk about in bed that same night. So does she.

soe11 · Answer

Me & my girlfriend did, with good intention, constructive way. It is a nature of human.

Hairylegs222 · Answer

No. Pointless when I have a woman I really like already in a relationship.

lorenzomichael · Answer

Just because I'm with somebody doesn't mean I can't check out a potentially ex miss Lorenzo.

Wise4myage · Answer

Yeah, but I would do that when I wasn’t with a girl.

Starman5 · Answer

No, because I don't care about other women when I have a partner. but I would like to keep in touch with her

Joshua0213 · Answer

Yeah or she points someone out to me to look at when we're out

anylolone · Answer

Same as my partner, or any other person. Which is yes, but less than most people.

Fuentes · Answer

If i see a phat ass i see a phat ass lol but i don't purposely look to check out others

karaspara · Answer

Yes i'm only human doesn't mean I act on it though

exitseven · Answer

I still look. My wife knows this.

Johnathanre · Answer

I find if I'm in a relationship with someone they tend to have my attention. I might still comment on celebs but not other people.

reavescorey144 · Answer

Yes I think it's natural instinct for u to and it won't hurt if u arnt touching cause u should be able to do it with ur man

Barbra98 · Answer

Yes weather their gorgeous or hotmess sometime hard to turn away.

Charliefretz329 · Answer

Yes I do, I’m still a man

justlookin69 · Answer

All the time! Dress to impress is the motto here!

humanearth · Answer

Me and my wife both do

MikeTheBartender · Answer

Is the sky blue? Of course!

Hanrej · Answer

Well, yeah. You're only human.

SunnySensei · Answer

No Miss I don't think I would.

Iron_Man · Answer

Yes it’s only natural

jjj101010 · Answer

I have when I had them

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