Why did my guy friend came back into my life?

[Anonymous]

For two years we were hooking up i ended up cutting him off and I ended up getting in a narcissistic abusive relationship for two years and five months, my guy friend came back into my life 2 months ago we first talked told him I wasn’t looking for casual sex not a relationship I went into detail about everything I experienced in my abusive relationship he told me he wants to be there for me and help me out we meet up a few weeks later we were talking then we had sex and he still checks up on me to see how I’m doing last time we had sex he stayed with me a little longer talk with me then took me to the gas station then he dropped me home.

[Anonymous]

You make it way too easy lol hell yeah he wants to be there for you if it means getting sex. If you don’t believe watch how quick things would change if you stopped giving it up.

[Asker]

Well actually he felt entitled to my body after I said no so many times before we hung out and after we hung out so no I didn’t give it up so easily

[Opinion Owner]

I don’t want you to get defensive, simply because I’m not trying to be offensive, I’m just a blunt individual lol. I want to be clear with my logic, because I just say what makes sense. So if you’re telling us that you two got back in contact only 2 months ago and you’re already having sex then yes, you gave it up easily. But this comes from someone who is basically celibate when I’m not in a relationship. Why? Because a lot of men are users. This dude comes back right after you got out of a shitty relationship, offers to be a shoulder to lean on, and friend indeed yet readily abused your trust and vulnerability at this time to get what works for him, which is sex.

[Opinion Owner]

Also, your “no” isn’t matching your energy that you actually show. If you were truly only looking for a friend with this man then sex wouldn’t never ever came up and you would’ve turned him away the moment her started being suggestive. For him to even feel entitled to your body and have multiple opportunities to get turned down, that means something other that post-breakup trauma was being discussed. I don't know maybe you liked the attention and distraction, maybe you got lonely or whatever, but you caved, even if it took him chipping away the rock ultimately you let him break it in.

[Asker]

Im not getting defensive lol but you’re right no I don’t like the attention I just thought he was being genuine with me changed his way of thinking and he was trying to be genuinely be there for me especially cause he seemed to be so understanding

[shades777]

why you gotta be all anti sex

[Opinion Owner]

@asker yeaaah I wouldn’t fall for that anymore lol your history together already makes it hard to be platonic friends, and if you tried to stick to only that route you’d probably find that he’s actually not a good friend at all..
@shades who says I’m anti sex👀

[spartan55]

Because he wanted sex.

[Anonymous]

ge wants you to throw it back a few more times