How can I get back a guy I friendzoned?

[Anonymous]

I had a guy best friend for about a year, we did everything together and he was super into me which I always turned him down romantically and sexually, but he stuck with me. Even when I dated guys whilst he liked me. Recently he dropped me as a friend completely, what should I do to get him back? I really do love him, and I'm prepared to treat him as he deserved in the first place.

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Guys take friendzoning to heart I see. I am over him, I dont love him romantically I see him as my best friend I grieve the friendship not his "disrespect" to himself

[TCJ1234567]

Sorry but there is nothing you can do to get him back. His heart is hurt and seeing you hurts it more. If you are his friend, you will let him heal. I don't mean that to sound too harsh, but I'm sure he has a hard time being near you without those feeling coming back.

Understand that he is not being a jerk, its just painful for him and he will never be able to move on while you are in the picture.

Also, don't take the bad comments to heart. You love who you love and it there isn't a spark, you would be even worse to encourage him by "trying" a relationship. I have had friends that liked me and I didn't feel the same. It happens and its no one's fault. Its not his fault he fell for you and its not your fault that you didn't

[Anonymous]

You are contradicting yourself… apparently. You don't love him romantically but you want treat him as he deserved to be treated? "Deserve" might be the wrong word. Nobody is entitled to be someone else's romantic interest. But he invested a lot in you, emotionally, so it was clear what he *hoped* he would get from you. Please be kind and leave him alone if you can't feel that way for him. I'm sure you miss his friendship, but consider what it took for him to move on.

[Opinion Owner]

Or do you in fact want him in your life romantically?

[Ripper_E]

I don't get what it is with people and these terms. Friendzone

He was a great guy that liked you and you turned him down for other guys who came and went. It's not about the "friendzone" it's about having your heart crush in favor of some guys that don't mean anything. Then when she realizes she messed up, comes running back while he has already moved on,

Do you want him back as a friend or do you want him back as more than that? because I don't see how any respectable guy would date you after that.

[FatherJack]

I'm afraid that's it , he has erased you from his life to avoid further pain , as his feelings were on a whole different level to yours. I have never been in the " Zone " , always ejected quickly before feeling developed & told the ladies concerned it was me , not them.

Women are less attracted to men , in general , than men are to women , this is why it's men in the Zone at least 80% of the time. I have zoned at least 3 former female friends , I did not even know they felt that strongly at the time & felt bad afterwards !!

[Outofthegrey]

Sounds a lot like someone who threw away a toy, then gets mad when someone else picks it up.

You forced him to move on, now you need to do the same.

[Tony1974]

"Guys take friendzoning to heart I see. I am over him, I dont love him romantically I see him as my best friend I grieve the friendship not his "disrespect" to himself"

That statement about sums up your entitlement attitude. Get over yourself honey. He is clearly better off without you in his life.

[Anonymous]

You don't. You had your chance and you chose to treat him like an attention puppy... he got tired of watching you bounce from asshole to asshole and tossed you because he deserved better.
Women fail to realize that we don't need them outside of sexual companionship... if we need a "friend", we have guys because we can be ourselves and they are not as judgy or needy. If we can companionship we have guy friends, family, or even dogs. Without the drama and shit test and games.
SO when you had the chance, you should have taken it. You were greedy and thought you could have both. Now you have none.
Let him be happy and leave him alone.

[NessMess]

What exactly do you mean by *treat him as he deserved in the first place.*

You treated him like a friend when he obviously wanted something more, and now you want to continue to do the same? God you are an awful person.
He did the right thing and stopped talking to you completely.
You can shove your *friendzone* where the sun doesn't shine now sweety.

[Kiran04]

So your little pussy whipped boy grew a pair of balls and dropped your ass. Well, at least he's a man now. Guess you can be happy about that.

[Anonymous]

This is why we tell guys who are friendzoned, give up the friendship, and maybe she'll come for you, maybe she won't, but either way, you'll be better off.

[meatballs21]

If he has any self respect at all, nothing will make him come back. Chalk him up as one that got away and move on with your life - he has.

[Decoyyy]

you're probably not going to get him back, he's going to see you as someone who wants to use him