Girls put guys in the Friendzone because?

[Iraqveteran666]

Here some good advice for guys that find themselves friendzoned. Friendship with females is an aberration and must be shunned by masculine men of today who are cognizant of the realities of modern sex relationship. And as an alternative, I propose a basic system where you limit your interactions with a given woman to a single category without muddling the lines between them. The categories are:
1. Women who you are already in an intimate relationship with.
2. Women who you want to pursue a romantic or sexual relationship with.
3. Women who you must communicate with out of necessity, whether it be co-workers or the cashier at a grocery store.
4. Optional: Dependable and trustworthy women who are able to provide equal or greater value than what you offer her, or has a special value you can’t get from anyone else. A woman of this caliber is rare, and even if you find one, you must tread carefully. I got scalped by at least two women whom I thought deserved to be in this category only to have them talk shit behind my back and throw me under the bus later on. Right now, I only have couple of women in this category. And even then, the've proven themselves countless times as true blue loyal friends.
5. Do not remain friends with an ex who seeks friendship to maintain all the benefits she had with you while you were together minus the sex while she dates various guys. Be friendly but move on she's not your problem.

They don't find them attractive

They think they can do better but want to keep the guy as a backup boyfriend

All the benefits of them being a boyfriend (emotional support, free food and drinks, someone to pay into the movies and clubs, transport, financial help, protection etc) without any obligation of sex

Because they don't respect them as men and think they are losers

As an ego boost

All of the above

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Friendzone?

[JustCallMeLeon]

-Because they just dont want to fk you.
-Because they are currently hunting another deer.
-Because you won't make a fking CLEAR and STRAIGHTFORWARD move, so they just assume you dont look at the sexually.

To be honest, every time I didn't make a move, or made my intentions clear FROM THE START, i ended up watching my prey get eaten by another wolf, which in most cases was below me in almost every aspect but MADE A FKING MOVE. Lets face it guys. 90% of the time we bring this to ourselves. Saying or texting something like "i want us to be something more than friends" or "i really like you, and i dont mean only as a friend" is freaking EASY! Cmon!

[DarkAngek]

I am laughing with opinions of women like "we are not like men" or "because women have feelings". Seriously? The ONLY fucking thing in friendzone is that a girl put a guy there cause he meets many criterias to be an ideal boyfriend but his looks is ugly for her. I doupt VERY VERY VERY much if any girl would friendzoned her ideal man in the outside because he had a character opposite of their ideal.
Just damn... some girls are even liars to themselfs.

[xxmamichulaxx]

Most guys would reject a girl with all the wife qualities but are ugly , humans are visual creatures. personality is Important but nobody wants to date someone they aren't remotely attracted to.

[Iraqveteran666]

@xxmamichulaxx honestly I think it's more to do with some girls thinking they can do better but keep a guy around just in case. One chick even said "I can pick a guy out of the friendzone in an minute"

[xxmamichulaxx]

I've seen this go on with some high school girls and immature ladies in their early 20's, because those women feed off the fact a man is there waiting when she has any issues and gives her attention , though these men are usually willing to do anything for a pretty girl and not smart enough to know she's stringing him along. Just as I've seen young men keep women as booty calls and give her attention when they need to be satisfied , and she's dumb enough to think he wants a relationship.

[DarkAngek]

I agree, of course all people want someone who is attracted to them. Its totally natural. That's not my point. My point is that the majority of women claim that they care for the inside way more than the outside. And they are just hypocrites. And also social media and idiot guys who flirt any ugly girl they see online, make those girls get a big impression of themselfs and ask for the mister perfect. Results? They reject any decent guy and they remain single like in their 30's.

[BuchitaBuchys]

I don't "friendzone" anyone. I tell these mofos that it's best we never talk after they ask me out because it's uncomfortable being friends with someone who rejected you I imagine.

But you know what? Very few guys are willing to just "let everything go", and they insist on remaining "friends" with you. And then the woman gets labeled the bad guy. I'm the one who's evil because I didn't give him a chance. It's assumed I offered my friendship as a consolation prize and to keep him at an arms distance. But that's not always the case.

Women don't put men in the "friendzone", most men put themselves in there and some even refuse to leave.

[FatherJack]

Agree totally , men LET themselves be Zoned & like your honesty , many girls / women keep guys around like little lapdogs & just use them... because the sucker guy LETS this happen !! I have always broke contact before this happened.

[1truekhaleesi]

One time I friendzoned a guy because he never made a move on me. So I just thought, "okay. We'll just be friends then." Turns out he did like me but he never made a move so I assumed he didn't like me. By the time he did ask me out, he already in my friend zone because he never made a move, forcing me to see him as friends and nothing more. Its like he put himself there.
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[Iraqveteran666]

Did you not make a move?

[1truekhaleesi]

He always avoided me and I assumed he didn't like me. He never talked me even when I tried to make conversation. When he asked me out it was a huge shock.

[Wonderer89]

Or we just don't want a romantic/sexual relationship with a guy. That leaves being friends, or nothing at all - personally I'd like friends as there are some amazing people out there which by these standards means he's friendzoned? That's his choice to stay or leave

[Iraqveteran666]

Friendship is about more than what you can get off a person it's a two way Street. There's a difference between being friends and a guy being friendzoned.

[Wonderer89]

Where have I said that I expect anything from a friendship I'm not willing to give? I fully invest in my friends, and actively try to be the best person I can for them but if they want more than I'm willing to give how is it wrong for me to say no and that friends is it?

[Iraqveteran666]

It's my fault I should have wrote a take.

[Wonderer89]

Or accept the fact that not every girl wants a relationship with you. If she calls it friends then fails to be one herself stop sticking around hoping she'll become a better person.
Anyone, regardless of gender who can't give as much as they take in a friendship or relationship isn't worth the time. Those who keep putting in all that work and then complaining about the fact they aren't getting laid for their efforts need a reality check. She's a shit person you should walk away from

[Iraqveteran666]

Well said.

[xxmamichulaxx]

Girls put men into the friendzone because they aren't attracted to them. A person with good qualities that you dont want to fuck is usually just a friend. Same reason a guy would friendzone the ugly but super nice girl friend he has from work , she's nice but he's not remotely attracted to her , why is this so hard to understand?

[Anonymous]

I have never friend zoned anyone unless you count "friendzoning" as being friends with someone of the opposite gender and not being interested in anything more then friendship but that to me is just being friends. It's a 2 way street and takes work to be good friends if either party is unwilling to put in the work it won't worth regardless of what the reasons are.

[Iraqveteran666]

Nah that's being friends with someone of the opposite gender, friendzoning is more using the other person.

[Opinion Owner]

people tend to define that differently... someone else was telling me it's whenever your friends with someone and they develop feelings that weren't mutual that somehow you friend zoned them... which I really don't get when you were already friends & your feelings weren't the ones that changed.

[Narts]

if she friendzones you she's not into you. friendzone is a bullshit term for people who where rejected very politely 😂

[Iraqveteran666]

But why keep them around after?

[Narts]

1. girls especially teens love popularity
2. because they where trying to let you down gently and dont want to be to harsh + if your upset about her rejecting you, you might say and do things that effect her reputation.

[AthleticMom]

OTHER
for now the concept of you is best served in another category
but
someday that might all change

Friend grew up with this guy who always thought her a pest.. until she blossomed

[Iraqveteran666]

I knew at school like that, no one noticed her until senor after she grew very large breasts during that summer.

[beccaboo2]

Most guys bring it on themselves. If someone rejects you, you should drop them immediately. I have never friendzoned a guy but I have had guys try to put themselves in it. Usually, I just try to distance myself from them.

[dolemite68]

so true, i like the analogy of its like a baseball game, if u have a ball and everything to play baseball but everyone else doesn't want to play u pick up your ball and go home u don't sit around and convince them to play. I think its an ego thing on guy's part, like oh i can just friendship my way into her pants lol its pathetic

[Belgie]

They don't put guys in the friend zone. Every guy in the zone walked into it of his own dumb free will.

[Browneye57]

Yup. Very good.
The moral of the story, don't waste your time with a validation queen. And no girl is gonna be your best friend - a guy friend is way more reliable, and a lot more fun.

I wouldn't take off on a bike tour with a girl unless I was doing her. The guys are way more fun to ride with.

[FatherJack]

WHY do guys let themselves be " zoned " ? If she is NOT attracted to you , then move on , a man has to ruthlessly drop her , or suffer mental torture. The friendzone is like a supermax security prison... you are NOT escaping !!

[Iraqveteran666]

I agree

[0112358]

A is the main one though it's not simply looks. Rather the overall matrix of what makes a man desireable in her mind.

[Iraqveteran666]

But why keep the guy around?

[0112358]

Most commonly to them it seems like normal friendship. A lot of attractive girls had trouble getting along with other women (who were jealous) while constantly sucked up to by men. So they think male friends are easier and better, and don't even -realize- the guys are sucking up to them. To them it's just normal. This is compounded by the fact they tend to treat the guys in some ways the way female-female friendships work, i. e. less 'hanging out doing stuff' and more talking about feelings one on one, etc. So to them, the guys are just awesome friends, while to the guys, it seems like everything but sex.

Some know, and like the self-esteem boost, but i'd say that's a smaller group.

[Sonjita]

Totally agree

[Anonymous]

Reasons why I do it.
*I am not certain of what I want myself. And are also overthinking situations.
*I get a lot of attention from boys I don't like. I don't friendzone them really, cause we're not friends after that, but it goes by the same act. It's usually straight forward.
*I don't find them attractive. Most guys that contact me are usually the ones who are very high on themselves, and that is a huge turn-off. They also have big status. I don't want that either.

[dolemite68]

cuz they are addicted to male attention even if its from guys they're not attracted to. I rarely think a guy is genuinely an attractive girl's friend just for the sake of being her friend, he usually can't muster up the courage to seal the deal. I think girls are generally pretty delusional about the intentions of their male "friends" there are exceptions tho

[rushthesand]

1. Because she doesn't like him in a romantic way.
2. Because she likes someone else.
3. Because he assumes there's a relationship or "thing" going on between them when in reality there isn't anything.

[Iraqveteran666]

4. Because she can use him

[rushthesand]

Lol someone's bitter.

[Iraqveteran666]

Nah I just feel bad for friends

[DaddiesLittleToy]

The "friendzone" isn't a woman's fault. If you like a girl tell her. If she doesn't like you back move on. Simple

[Iraqveteran666]

Yeah but that wasn't the question though it's true

[DaddiesLittleToy]

You asked why women put men in the friendzone. I'm saying they don't because it's not a real thing.

[ThisDudeHere]

It's odd how you overxplained an issue and yet got it wrong anyway. There's no reason to not have female friends at all - they're just people you like to chill with. If your only interaction with females is for sex or relationships then that's your own path.
Anywho, if one does not want to be friendzoned, just refuse to be her friend after she has stated that she wants nothing romantic or sexual with you. Simple.

Women do not friendzone men, men LET themselves be friendzoned by women.

[Iraqveteran666]

Exactly my point. But seems like every 3rd guy here complains about being friendzoned by girls they are made about.

[Iraqveteran666]

You have to admit there is a large number of guys friendzoned that has very little to do with friendship

[ThisDudeHere]

Perhaps but at the end of the day it doesn't matter. All it was was just a lack of romantic and/ or physical attraction to the guy from the girl.

Either way, a guy has a choice between accepting her offer of friendship, which means he friendzones himself, or refuse and move on with life.

[ThisDudeHere]

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[Iraqveteran666]

There's a diffrence in being friendzoned and being friends

[ThisDudeHere]

There is not. Being friendzoned is the same as being rejected and then agreeing to be friends, which is your own fault.

[Iraqveteran666]

Being friendzoned is different. Being friends is a 2 way street

[ThisDudeHere]

It is only different in the sense that being friendzoned is just one of the ways to become friends.

[Iraqveteran666]

Being friendzoned means you provide some of the benefits of being a boyfriend without intimacy or sex.

[ThisDudeHere]

No you don't unless you yourself insist on it. If you take her on dates and pay for her then you are being an idiot, not a friend.

[Iraqveteran666]

Yeah well that's the difference between the Friendzone and being friends

[ThisDudeHere]

That's a difference between a chump and a friend. My point still stands - if a man finds himself in a situation such as you have described it's his own fault.

[Iraqveteran666]

Also the woman's involved to, though once they hit a certain age they can't friendzone any guy.

[ThisDudeHere]

The woman is involved only that she gives him the chance to prove himself an idiot. Not her fault he agrees to it.

[JDavid25]

I don't think the friendzone really exist much.. Either you are attracted to somebody or you ain't.. The "friendzone" is just a mental imprisonment made by the person who was put in it.. It's their imprisonment because they can either accept that the person don't like them like that, and build a great friendship, or just be tortured by the fact that they can't be with that person until they either move on or become obsessed with something they can't have..

[Anonymous]

Because they like them as friends but aren't attracted to them or doesn't have any romantic feelings towards them.

[RealLifeSnorlax]

Because-
1) you're there if she needs finacial help

2) strings you along if her relationship goes to shit

3) to fuck with you

[Anonymous]

I only friend zoned guys when I'm unsure if he's just a player or want something serious and when I'm not sure if he likes me back. Still I don't get why some guys think it's bad being friend zoned, because I can pick a guy out of the friendzone in an minute. He's not stuck there forever, at least not when it's my friendzone. Sometimes I also want to get to know the person better before I get into an relationship with him

[Iraqveteran666]

"I can pick a guy out of the friendzone in an minute" that's why. Nobody wants be used or kept as the back up guy while your on the cock riding carousel lol

[Opinion Owner]

He's not a backup guy, he is there because I'm unsure about him. Also I don't see other guys while he's in the friendzone, I figure out if he's worth having around or if he needs to find somebody else. I don't like being strung along as a fuck friend, while I think I'm something special. The guy I'm with now, spent 2 weeks in the friendzone. He was totally okay with it, because he wanted to know me better first too. Before we got serious.

[Iraqveteran666]

That's a red flag for you.

[Opinion Owner]

Why?

[Iraqveteran666]

It's a move some players make

[Opinion Owner]

Well some may do, but all the players I have met was somewhat desperate and too touchy-feely too fast

[sedrftvgyhujik]

There's something very wrong if your paying for everything for your friend that happens to be a girl.

[victoriameliegray]

maybe values wise or ambitions wise we may be different. That's what really matters to me. he can make me laugh and be a gentleman, but if our ambitions and values are different, then I'd probs not date him and only keep him as a good friend.