Generally that jealousy or boredom will destroy most of them. Like a truly open relationship where each partner pursues other partners. Generally you will have limits, say more towards swinging, polygamy, polyandry, polyamory and what not.
I've seen some friends experiment with open, and generally if they stay together they stop being open when the woman gets with another guy and the guy gets jealous, or the guy gets with another girl and one of the women issues an ultimatum.
Though I remember one friend where she wanted to get with other women while with her husband, and had to stop because he was horn dogging too much on the women she was getting with, like more so than on her.
I've only gone in the direction of polygamy personally. At this point I'll take something if it comes up, but am mostly bored and weary of the effort compared to just spending more time with my wife and kids.
It can work out, but don't be surprised if it's something you simply experiment with and get tired of. Most "other women" have typically been around your age. Though their willingness to be a unicorn drops significantly around 25 or so.
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like an "open faced sandwich", it sounds like a recipe for a mess to solve a problem that's better left with well secured buns.
nuff said...
oh lordie I'm witty sometimes...
I have seen one good one and the rest all failed. Usually someone was cheating and they just want to justify it, someone wasn't wearing protection, someone broke the rules, someone felt disgusted by their partner or lost affection, someone felt jealous because their partner did way better than they initially thought, and someone found a better partner so they wanted to move on. My favorite they moved on then cheated on their new partner.
I've always wondered why two people in a relationship want to bring in other people.
I think that deep commitment enriches a long-term relationship. Bringing in other people sounds distracting to me. How're you going to divvy your time? What about jealousy? Seems like more problems that it's worth.
If you're that bored with each other, maybe the relationship has run its course.
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An open relationship can work if both partners are fully committed to it. It's rare that happens.
To each their own but personally not my thing… only a monogamous committed relationship (myself and one partner only) for me…
I was in an open relationship with this girl and the way we looked at it was the most important things about a relationship had almost nothing to do with sex. Neither of us really felt like having sex outside of the relationship changed much of anything.
I was just really surprised when I started meeting other people who had open relationships all were into literally having a bunch of husband's and wives, sorta intermarried. And a lot of the time they didn't even all live together.
As hard as that is for me to wrap my head around, Im usually a very to each their own kinda guy. Which is why it's surprising to me how many of those people will be like "oh that's the wrong kind of open relationship" like I'm not doing it right.
Open Relationship's are a recipe for disaster for marriages, unless both were in that lifestyle before they got married, If it is brought up by a partner in an existing marriage it will be more likely be brought up by the wife than the husband, and it usually occurs when the wife is in an emotional relationship with a co-worker/friend and is basically her seeking retroactive permission to cheat.
It’s just a euphemism for friends with benefits.
The phrase “friends with benefits” became distasteful for people particularly women over the years so they had to use semantics to feel better about it. But again it’s just semantics and it doesn’t change reality not matter how much you want to believe otherwise.
Mutual convenience to sate innate physical desire PROVIDING both are STD clean and using birth control. Too often you can 'want' someone for now but not 'love' someone to bond with. Feel good
Dopamine, Oxytocin are evolutionarily HIGHLY addictive.
It's a bad deal unless you are a top 1% man who can easily get laid, and if you can already do that then what's the point? Most often betas get forced into it by hoes because they lack the self-respect to say no and return the bitch to the streets where she belongs.
Are you talking about a polyamorous arrangement, or participating in the Lifestyle (ie., swingers, couple swapping, etc.), or having each having individual sexual encounters on their own besides the main relationship with each partner fully aware of what's going on?
The connotation of relationship, means that you are related or connected to another person. If you jump from one person to another, you are not connected to anyone. You are independent. There is no such thing as an open relationship.
Sometimes I think having a polyamorous type life would be great. Being able to have sex with anybody would be very greatly appreciated. specially when the other person pushes you away. Had I'm too tired. Don't touch me leave me alone and don't even think about it. Those are the times that you wish you were in that polyamorous relationship. Being able to have sex without being punished.
But today society frowns on it.
Not my style. I've had open fuckings aka running a train. But not when it comes to an actual relationship. I don't want another dudes dick in my girls vag! The only exception is 2 chicks at the same time which my ex suggested but I couldn't fuck the other girlie.
I believe that an open relationship is best when the woman has the freedom to date other guys, while the guy remains 100% faithful to her at all times. I believe this is sometimes called a 'Monopoly' relationship.
That like marriage it's not for everyone and that's okay. The odds of just 2 imperfect humans staying togeather till old age is a miracle. Bur add a 3rd or a 4th is just a recipe for trouble.
2 simple reasons: jealousy and life happens.
It don't sounds like a real relationship, but I am okay with a FFM polyamory relationship. :)
Personally it's definitely not for either my husband or I.
However, whatever others choose to do behind their closed doors is entirely their business.
I don't think I would be fully comfortable with it, but I don't think negatively of others that have this, its cool and admirable that some couples have a deep level of trust to do this.
Most often you can' have your cake and eat it too. One will always say, "Let them eat cake."
According to my personal definition; an untie, an unknot, without any binding relationships.
My opinion on the option is best way forward in the beginning of relationship then step by step building up.
Most people think open relationships are about sex. The sex is definitely an added bonus but it’s more than that. You can’t expect one persone to fulfill all our needs emotionally and physically. It’s unfair to expect that much from one person and it’s unfair to yourself to not seek that. We have one life to live. Live it to the fullest. That being said imagine having sex with the same vagina/penis for the rest of your life. It would getting boring at one point. Variety is good in life.
If everyone is in agreement on what can be done with whom, etc., Then go for it and enjoy.
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