HE didn't REPLY FOR 1 DAY IS HE CHEATING?

[xolaurenxx]

I’m seeing this guy for 7 months. Yesterday he didn’t reply to me for 1 WHOLE day. Nothing, no words. 1 WHOLE day. He stopped replying from 9am with no response what so ever, stuff like this ANNOYS me because it’s like who are you with to not reply. I don’t care you can at least text back once a day. If I did this he would go INSANE. He’d probably show up to my house. Am I being immature here! Do I tell him I do not like this or am I being controlling since we aren’t offical? Why else can’t he answer the phone. All he said was that he was so busy yesterday? I may not sound it but I’m SO nice to him I’ve just had enough recently and want to know if I’m being dramatic for no reason?

[Anonymous]

It's understandable that you would feel frustrated and anxious if your boyfriend didn't reply to you for a whole day, but it's not necessarily an indication that he is cheating. It's possible that he was genuinely busy or didn't have access to his phone for some reason.

It's important to communicate openly and honestly with your boyfriend about how his behavior is affecting you and your relationship, but it's also important to be mindful of your own feelings and to avoid jumping to conclusions or making assumptions.

You could start by expressing your concerns and asking him to explain why he didn't reply to you for a whole day. It's possible that he may not have realized how much it was affecting you, or that he may have a different communication style than you do.

It's important to listen to his perspective and to try to understand where he's coming from, but it's also important to set boundaries and communicate your own needs and expectations for the relationship. If you feel that his behavior is unacceptable or that he is not willing to work on the relationship, it may be necessary to consider ending the relationship.

Ultimately, it's up to you to decide what is best for your own well-being and to make choices that align with your values and priorities. It's important to prioritize self-care and to seek support from trusted friends, family members, or a therapist if you need help navigating this difficult situation.

Just don’t jump to conclusions and assume.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Thats actually adorable that you're that clingy/needy.

I don't think its controlling, if you were controlling him, he'd not be able to even do that.
You are just making a request, and he can either choose to agree to it to comfort you, or not, so he has control over himself.

If I had a girlfriend/wife, and I didn't contact her the entire day, it means I couldn't. Like wherever I was the phone either lost service, or could not be recharged, or got lost, or some other sort of problem with the phone or service itself or my situation. So I'd expect her to worry that maybe something bad happened to me or my phone or service.

I wouldn't cheat though, and there is no such thing as "too busy" for a spouse.

[Molly1997]

It’s courtesy to let you know what’s going on if he is planning on being busy and not texting the next day. Although I do find that a bit weird, who doesn’t have time to send a quick text in the day? But regardless I don’t think it’s worth the energy being upset over this. Healthy communication is important here

[xolaurenxx]

It gets me even more worked up since I’m carrying his child and I get so hormonal and upset. I guess it’s not worth the energy since I have no proof

[kylee2437]

You two aren’t together, he can’t be cheating on you. You accepted a talking stage that’s been going on for too long and think it’s something special. While it’s special on your end, I’m sure this talking stage has fizzled out on his side

[xolaurenxx]

That’s true. It’s just he says he loves me and that I can’t speak to others and I’m carrying his child. He usually calls me everyday and I find it weird when he dosent

[kylee2437]

I understand that. Why is there no title on this when you are carrying his child?

[xolaurenxx]

He always says he loves me so I ask him why there’s no title and he says that we’re not in a rush to have a title. I got pregnant quite quickly with him and I couldn’t bring myself to abort as I found out at 14 weeks and I already love my baby. I try to have conversations with him about what we are but he dosent seem to know what to say

[kylee2437]

Girl, please go talk to other guys. This guy gave you an entire child and doesn’t see you worthy as a girlfriend. Very manipulative of him.

[xolaurenxx]

Yeah I just don’t understand why he says he loves me if he truly dosent? I would speak to others but I wouldn’t put all that baggage on someone else since I’m carrying another man’s baby at the moment.

[kylee2437]

Clearly he’s manipulative