Is he cheating or?

[Jannieleo]

So I recently received a dm from a girl on instagram, fyi I have never met this girl or anything, anyways, in the dm she sent a screen recording as well as screenshots of texts between her an my boyfriend (been together for 4 years). His number is clearly there at the top where it would typically say the contact name. It was never mentioned in the texts that he has a girlfriend (me) but he never said he was single either. Apparently they met during one of his guys nights where he goes out with his buddies (some of which are close family of his) and he asked for her number. The texting started out just seeing how often each other frequent the establishment and then it turned into asking favorite positions, complimenting each other, etc… in the conversation she asks for his socials (which I am posted on almost all of his socials) but he told her that he doesn’t use them and some he even deleted because he never uses them (which is a lie). This tipped her off to believe maybe he was taken and so she went and searched for him (found his tiktok as it is the one with his actual name) and from there found his insta which led her to me. She stopped talking to him after she found me but now I don't know what to do or believe. I confronted him about it and he said it must be fake that someone is trying to cause a fight between us and all he said was that maybe it’s a jealous ex or someone who’s really good at photoshop. If it were just screenshots then maybe but it’s a screen recording of the conversation too. I don’t know what to believe here and some insight would be nice. Our relationship has been relatively great, no relationship is perfect, I get along great with his family and friends, we do not live together but we are only an hour apart and see each other often.

[_Maya_]

At the very least sounds like he was emotionally cheating. I don't know the context of the conversation you saw but I am only going to assume it was flirty or something. That is what you call emotional cheating. He is going outside the relationship to at very least fill an emotional need. That doesn't automatically mean he is cheating physically. Did the girl that reached out indicate that is what was going on? I would be a little suspicious of what is going on here considering you have pretty hard evidence.

[Jannieleo]

She said at first she was flirting with him cause she was under the impression he was single seeing as how he had no ring and was out with a bunch of other dudes. Not sure if that answers your question

[_Maya_]

Yeah that is the thing though is if he did flirt he is emotionally cheating and it sounds like he did with this girl.

[Jannieleo]

In the conversation he was asking questions like favorite sex position and stuff 😕

[_Maya_]

That is not good. Damn...

[Jannieleo]

Other than the screenshots and screen recording I have no proof though… like I’m so confused on whether this is even real

[_Maya_]

That is pretty hard proof there was emotional cheating if they were talking sex positions. I mean do you talk about that with friends?

[Jannieleo]

No, you have a good point. I guess I’m just hoping there’s a way for this to be fake

[_Maya_]

That is what anyone would want to think. I can't say I blame you wanting it to not be real. I would wish the same thing.

[BunBun369]

🤦🏽‍♀️why do some women be so damn desperate. You have all the proof you need to kick him to the curb or whatever. Try to have some type of dignity. So not only did he make a fool out of you with another chick. You made a fool out of yourself by posting it on here then you made a fool of yourself with him by being weak and even hitting him up and giving him the option to fill your head with bs. You say you live an hr away from each other so there is no reason for you to have even contacted him. I don't know 😩😩 y'all be so exhausting. Men only do what you allow them to.

[boggboss]

Clearly its cheating ad he is lying to cover up somthing he thinks he done wrong

[Jannieleo]

But I have no other proof than what this woman has sent me… do I just trust her?

[boggboss]

What she sent u is pretty solid proof with him claiming its a lie

[Jannieleo]

Shouldn’t I give him the benefit of the doubt over some stranger? He swears he would never do something like this and that it has to be an ex or fake

[boggboss]

Lol why or who would randomly make a fake account to message herself just to end your relationship

[Iron_Man]

What do you think it is? You have a problem on your hands with him

[Jannieleo]

I’m not sure, I have no other proof outside of what she sent me.

[Iron_Man]

The fact that he’s talking to her about favorite positions, is enough

[Iron_Man]

They have no business talking like that. And who knows what else they’re doing.

[Jannieleo]

You have a fair point… I guess I was just holding on to some hope it would be fake or something but it’s pretty hard to fake this kind of thing I guess

[Iron_Man]

It doesn’t mean he cheated. Just talk to him about it and put a stop to it.

[Jannieleo]

I have already confronted him about this, all he would say is that it’s not real and it’s either a jealous ex or someone just trying to split us up. He showed me his phone and there weren’t any messages like what the woman had sent me screenshots of. But his number is in the screenshots.

[Iron_Man]

Make sure he never talks to her again

[Iron_Man]

If he does, it’s a huge red flag

[Flyfree]

Not cheating! He wanted to flirt with someone... Who cares! The act of cheating is actually going behind the back of your significant other kissing, touching, oral, fucking someone that is not your partner, wife, husband, spouse, fiance, or girlfriend, or boyfriend.
A little flirting is harmless. You need to get that straight now, because men are men and they flirt!! period. As women do too!!

[In_Trance]

Or... what?

[Jannieleo]

Or not cheating?

[Cherkez]

Could be cheating

[Jannieleo]

Could be?