1. whats a toxic relationship? 2. is he trying to let me down nicely by saying he would have been with me if he wasn't just in a toxic relationship? ?

[Anonymous]

he keeps trying to stop talking to me saying that he's going to end up hurting me bc he's not over his ex (I'm conf if he wants her back or if she just hurt him I don't know) I was like yeah I need to find someone who wants me lol. he got mad. He said if he hadn't been in a toxic relationship he would've been all over me and cuffed me but he's not mentally ready for that yet. But like is he just trying to make me feel better or u think fr? I told him I'm patient lol.

WHAT IS A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP EVEN EXACTLY?

[Anonymous]

1. A toxic relationship is a relationship that is characterized by negative behaviors, emotions, and communication patterns. These can include things like manipulation, control, criticism, emotional abuse, and physical violence. Toxic relationships can be harmful to one's physical and mental health, and can affect every aspect of a person's life.

2. It's possible that your friend is being honest about his feelings and intentions, and that he genuinely believes that he's not ready for a serious relationship at this time. However, it's also possible that he's using his past relationship as an excuse to avoid committing to you. It's important to communicate openly and honestly with him about your feelings and expectations, and to make sure that you're both on the same page about the nature of your relationship.

It's important to remember that you deserve to be with someone who is emotionally available and committed to you. If your friend is not able to provide that for you at this time, it may be best to focus on yourself and your own needs, and to seek out other relationships and connections that are healthier and more fulfilling.

As for what constitutes a toxic relationship, it can be difficult to define as it can take many forms and vary depending on the individuals involved. However, some common characteristics of toxic relationships include controlling behavior, manipulation, emotional abuse, verbal abuse, physical abuse, and a lack of respect and trust. It's important to recognize the signs of a toxic relationship and to seek help if you are in one.

[Asker]

wow this was a really good explanation. Thank you! I really want to know what his toxic relationship consisted of but he said he didn't want to talk about it rn. I told him that's fine but I want to know lol.. Just gotta wait till he wants to share it. He's put me on a roller coaster. "I'm not over my ex" "I would be so sad when you get married" " You can have me" "It's not fair to you" "You need to protect yourself" I like him so much but lowkey scared he's the toxic one. First time when he was still in his relationship and didn't tell me and we were talking (um yeah not good of him --now they are broken up :( ) He lowkey gas lighted me saying he didn't flirt with me when he 100 percent did. I lit called him out for it that day though. Confuseed. But he talks about trauma of past relationships. Someone hurt him at some point and I want to just hold him :(. But is he going to just hurt me while I try to help him heal. I know I should want someone more emotionally available. Why do I just want him :( You're right I deserve someone more emotionally available. I dont need to be on the rollercoaster. Find something stable. He's prob just going to f me and leave :( f me and my head

[Opinion Owner]

It sounds like you're going through a difficult and confusing situation. It's understandable to have feelings for someone, even if they may not be emotionally available or may have their own issues to work through. However, it's important to prioritize your own emotional well-being and not get caught up in a rollercoaster of conflicting emotions and mixed signals.

It's possible that this person is dealing with their own trauma and emotional issues, which can make it difficult for them to be fully present and committed in a new relationship. However, it's also possible that they may not be treating you with the respect and honesty that you deserve. It's important to have open and honest communication in any relationship, and if this person is not willing or able to provide that, it may be a sign that they are not a good fit for you.

Remember that you deserve someone who is emotionally available and willing to treat you with respect and honesty. It's important to take care of yourself and not get caught up in a toxic or unhealthy relationship.

[Asker]

Guess what today he asked me if i liked his last name 👀. Like please 😭😭 pick one..

Yeah im scared im getting caught up in the toxicity :( but i feel like im hooked I don't know how to stop. he's made me feel like he’s a drug i can't stop. I can't block him. I can't ghost him. I dont know what to do.

He told me he's scared to hurt me and then said we should stop talking. But then i almosttt agrred and friendzoned him but deleted the message. :( I don't know whsts wrong with me. he's lit going to hurt me i just think i have attachment issues

[AllGoodNamesRGone]

there's is no standard defination of what fits in toxic relationship, Toxic relationships can occur in various contexts, such as romantic partnerships, friendships, family relationships, or even professional relationships.

U really gotta try to fit in his shoe n feel his perspective coz effects of a past toxic relationship can be deep they often leave a significant impact on one's mental, emotional, and even physical well-being.

[mommymommymommy]

1. he treats you the opposite of what you think you deserve
2. Likely