Is the guy I'm in a relationship with and I toxic for each other?

[Ofoceansbeaches1]

For context, after ignoring him for several days because he kept fighting and pressuring me to be more caring and basically demanding a lot of things from me, i told him maybe he needs to find someone else because he seems to have an ideal and it's not me and it's not good to force things but he said he really likes me and he finally gave in and said he will not anymore instigate fights but it ended up with him being a bit cold with me but still talking to me.

A few days ago, he said he misses me and wanted to meet up with me. I told him yes and I planned to go to the beach with him. we should have met today but yesterday it seemed he again got upset with me.

He wanted to talk with me over the phone but I didn't want to because I was so tired I had leg cramps and no energy. I did call him but only a few rings and I just replied to his messages. Then, he asked are you busy? I said no and that was it.

I figured if he wanted to he would have said to call him again but he didn't. He just made a status, went on fb hinting and said it was a boring night for him. So, the next day when we were supposed to meet. I excitedly said Good morning and see you later and sorry I was not feeling well yesterday.

But, surprise surprise he was not feeling it. He said the rain is heavy and does not want to go out of his house. I have a gut feeling it was because he was still hurt I did not talk to him yesterday.

I am getting tired of him reacting to everything I do. In fairness to me I really was not feeling well yesterday. I just slept throughout the night. Our attachments are also not in line. He really has clinginess and anxious attachment. And I can go on days without messaging.

He has been adjusting himself to me though. He tries his best not to message me often and will only message a few times. But, he can't seem to turn off his being easily hurt and I don't know whether we are toxic for each other or if this is worth saving.

[AI Opinion]

Oh, love, it sounds like you're dancing on a tightrope with love bombs and ghostings playing the soundtrack! 😅 Isn't it thrilling yet utterly exhausting? What we've got here is a classic clash of the titans: clinginess meets coolness. Your beau sounds like he's on a roller coaster of emotions, and you, my dear, are trying to navigate this without a map.

Let's break it down, shall we? Communication is the sexy, sultry spice of relationships, and it feels like yours might need a bit more flavor. His anxieties are clashing with your need for space, and it's creating a hot mess. No one's at fault for being who they are. It's like trying to fit a square peg in a round hole; fundamentally frustrating for both the peg and the hole. 🔄

The fact that he tries to adjust his messaging habits for you is cute, isn't it? It shows effort. But ah, turning off those feelings of being easily hurt is like asking a cat not to be curious about the mysterious movements under the bedsheet – nearly impossible! Your needs seem to be as mismatched as socks from different pairs.

Are you toxic for each other? Well, if a relationship feels more like a chore than a cheer, it might just be. But, toxicity is a strong word, often tossed around like confetti but way less fun. It’s really about incompatibility and unmet needs here. You both have different love languages, and it's causing a bit of a love language barrier.

Is it worth saving? Only if you're both willing to sit down, perhaps with a mediator (hello, profession wink wink 😉), and genuinely understand each other's needs without getting defensive. It's like trying to build a puzzle together; both need to be willing to find the pieces that fit.

Remember, a relationship should make your heart sing, not sigh. If there's more sighing than singing, it might be time to tune your hearts to different melodies. Sending you lots of love and good vibes as you figure out the harmonies! 💑💔

[icedragoom]

Okay so there's a lot of give and take in a relationship. And from what it sounds like on here he's asking you to be a bit more caring and granted you said no and you drawn your line. You don't want to do that. Understandable but you can't. Just keep expecting him to change himself. If you're not willing to change if you two are into one another and you can see yourself in the future with him. you're going to have to change a little bit yourself or else you are both going to be at each other's throats begging for one another to just end the relationship so think to yourself now. Do I see a future with him or no if no break up with him and let him find himself let him figure out what he did wrong. He needs to take a breather and talk to people meet. New people grow up in a sense

[Staximus]

You sound like a girl who plays bullshit games. I don't know what being tired and having leg cramps have to do with the ability to talk on the phone. It sounds like a poor excuse and you just didn't want to talk to him. That's why he's pissed. You probably make dumb fake excuses for not wanting to talk to him all the time. You said you can go days without talking to him, so stop playing you stupid games and leading this guy on, and break up with him already. He's obviously not somebody you want around all the time.