How can I keep things slow when I feel like I messed up with him?

[Anonymous]

I need advice and how to make things work out again

[Anonymous]

Maybe you didn’t mess up and he’s just losing interest. It happens.

[BoopBoopBeep]

What did you mess up and how?

[Asker]

I have an issue with overly texting he says I make him feel claustrophobic I though he was upset or mad at me
He said I want you to know I don't think poorly of you. And I'm not angry with you or hold some kind of vendetta against you

I wanted to apologize for something and at least he notices that the stress I was having did a number on my brain but that’s a personal thing he felt like it was his fault for all of it

He’s also a loner type of guy and like time to himself he’s been focusing hard on fixing himself and his job and Bills
We haven’t seen each other since my dad died July 2021 we had plans but he’s been recovering from his alcholic addictions and stuff I don’t do that
He was in a rehab program for 5 months last year 2022 and came back and started AA back in Oct and isn’t in anything rn only work and maintaining his sobriety he’s stayed sober so far for a year. He doesn’t want to be in a relationship rn it wouldn’t be healthy for him

[BoopBoopBeep]

Well you don't need to be with a recovering alcoholic when you're already a high strung person, and he doesn't need to be with someone who has the expectations you do, so really it would be best for both of you to just remain friends because that relationship would be toxic as all hell.

[Asker]

He said let’s take it slow so I’m trying I’m going to stop acting interested and not respond right away