Why am I afraid to tell her how I feel? Should I even do it?

[zach8720]

I've known this woman for a long time, 15 years or so. She lives on the opposite end of the country but over the past year or so we've been getting really close (or at least I think so). We talk on the phone nearly every day, and sometimes for 5+ hours.

We share a lot of laughs, we have fun together and we have very similar opinions on a lot of things. I really want to tell her how I feel, but I don't know if it's smart to do. She's said numerous times she can never be in a relationship after being hurt, but maybe there's something there. Or else I'm reading too much into something.

I truly don't get it. We definitely care about each other, but I don't want to scare her off.

[catiecatie]

So how long has it been since her last relationship? If it’s been a year or so then maybe ask her out. What’s the worst that can happen? She says no. At least then you know not to chase after her anymore. I mean you can do it. I’m going to do it with my crush here. He told me to text him when I sign up for the test. It’s been almost 4 weeks since he said that and I haven’t signed up yet. I guess I’m nervous, but I need to do it! I got this just text him he will help me set up a time and then I’ll ask him for drinks. He seems interested too, we are just too shy to say anything to each other.

[zach8720]

I think therein lies the problem. I'm definitely too shy to say anything to her. I can almost feel pauses in the conversation where I *could* say something but I never do. Since the last relationship it's been I think 3 years or so now?

[catiecatie]

Well you can always go out for drinks and it can be casual. Don’t need to put a label on it. Just start with that.

[Beatrix7]

just wait a wile and see if she asks you about it first because u dont wanna seem desperate and wait a wile and if the wile passes and she's not saying anything then say be brave

[KrakenAttackin]

Do not. Any attraction she has for you will immediately disappear. She is just using you as an emotional tampon. If a Chad comes along she will fuck him silly an hour after meeting him.

[Avicenna]

Don't say anything yet since she’s made it clear she can’t be in a relationship again

[CuriousMufuxka]

Keep things the way they are. If you lived closer I'd say go for it!

[In_Trance]

Fear of rejection