Best friend vs boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

I am in high school and my guy best friend and I dated the very beginning of 8th grade. We broke up after about a month and a half and things were SUPER confusing after that. We would both go through stages of liking each other and almost dating but it never happened. My girl bestie from childhood does not go to the same school as us but recently I introduced them. And of course now the guy thinks he is in love with her and she has a crush on him… but neither of them know I’m still in love with him. Don’t get me wrong I have had other crushes but nothing close to him and my heart always comes back to him. I want them both to be happy because they are my two favorite people. They know that I’m scared about them dating because I’m scared I will lose them but they don’t know the second half… so my question is… do I tell either of them or just keep my mouth shut and let it keep happening even though it breaks my heart? Keep in mind this boy and I fall asleep on ft with each other almost every night and we’ve been through hell and back and always come out closer. We tell each other everything. Same with the girl which is why I feel really bad hiding this but I feel like I shouldn’t tell them. I’ll get over him soon… right?

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Update: I told the girl that I still like him.. but not HOW MUCH. I just admitted that I still like him a little bit but I told her that it was going away and that they should date. Don’t ask my why I said that I just did. I want them both the to be happy. But she wasn’t mad and said that she kind of already knew. I just spent several hours on face time with both of them and the entire time my stomach felt like it was being ripped out.

[SnowedIn]

I'm really sorry about all this.

I would not tell either of them. It won't end well.

As for getting over him... maybe. You'll find love. But it is possible to not stop loving one person while loving another completely.

[Asker]

Thank you

[SnowedIn]

You're welcome. Best wishes with this.

[strateguy632]

very complex but considering you face time say something like "i know you are dating her but i still love you" to see his response. if not so much face time only tell her and only kuz you are best friends.

[Asker]

The tricky thing is he and I will say “love you” to each other all the time. And I know that if I tell her then she won’t date him because she doesn’t want to hurt me. But that would make him sad… which I really don’t want to do.

[JesseP1nk]

Whos idea was to break up? he's? Your friends knows that is your ex? Some friend... If both cases you said "yes" Then i probably would stay away from them... at least some time... the chances are at some point they are break up.

[Asker]

Yes he did chose to break up because he said he liked my cousin… yes I know that’s pretty bad but honestly he had changed a lot since 8th grade. And yeah she heard every time he broke my heart but also every good thing I’ve ever said about him. I had told her that I don’t like him anymore and that I’m ok with them dating because I want them both to be happy.