Is normal to feel like you will never allow yourself to fall in love again?

[Anonymous]

I feel this way. After last experience i dont believe i will allow myself to fall in love again. Even before last exeperience i was avoiding it and i was telling myself that it will go away that it is not real. I won't allow anyone to have power over me to hurt me like this. So after last experience i feel like i won't able to fall in love again and this game is done for me.

[cosmosis181]

Until I leave the U. S., yes. We need to take a cue from animals, really. You can ALWAYS tell the ones who've been abused-but they're smarter than us. No matter how much tuna you have... saying "here kitty kitty" falls on deaf ears... if that cat has been kicked, had rocks thrown at it or otherwise abused before. We too, need to wise up like that. I've been to 46 states and a couple other countries. I was telling this to a guy I know a few days ago... asking me why I don't chase women here or talk to them AT ALL... he's from N. C. I'm currently on the Ohio River. I'm from the West Coast. It's because I ONLY trust immigrant women. I'm not looking for a "baby momma, bitch or ho." I want women who appreciate, reciprocate, and encourage basic courtesy. In my experiences, only immigrant women do that. White AND Black American women, in my case, need not apply. I look around here... all White and Black. All baby mommas/baby daddies, doped out pill poppers, child support, felony records, hate education, massive sense of entitlement, self destructive and will rip off anything that moves. So to answer your question... you're the cat... you've heard the calling... but you've had the rocks thrown at you several times and you know what the calling now means. You're wising up. Normal? That's subjective. Smart? Definitely. Getting with those rocks hurts.😬

[Sanser]

Its normal to feel that way but at the end you just need to get over it and open to other people, not right now but with the pass of time... at the end you won't be locked emotionally to every oportunity your whole life because one person... Live your life and you will be able to trust in someone.

[provokeesmokee]

While you're in the throes of grief, early on, that's understandable.

But locking yourself down emotionally because of one person for the rest of your life? Not only not healthy or normal.

If you're having trouble opening up again after you've healed from the breakup, seek therapy.

One bad experience shouldn't limit your romantic feelings for the rest of your life.

[Reorx]

Yeah, seek therapy from who? The brainwashed fools uni turns out these days that follow their script of hating white men?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Nope. We all want to love and feel loved. I’d say it’s one of the highest needs for ours, I’d rather be hungry, poor but have someone who’d I love and who’d love me back with the same intensity.

Don’t restrict yourself from feeling this amazing feeling again. Even if I knew I’d get hurt tons of times, I’d still choose to love.

[SolitarySolace]

I haven’t allowed myself to find live sense almost 9 years ago. Too many bad experiences. Too many times cheated on. One too many times falsely accused and threatened with jail time for doing nothing wrong. I’m completely content living alone with my cat, reading books and playing video games.

[RingOfFire]

It is completely normal. It's also completely normal to grow out of that feeling and love again in spite of believing now that you never will.

But... it will become harder to love again, and take longer to be open to it after each painful ending. Eventually, if you have not found the lasting love, you will be too old to overcome the wait and give up. That is a sad way to end life.

[Meropatrick]

Of course its normal. U need to heal and need to focus on yourself. U r also still young so u have a lot of time to decide if u really want to live single forever or feel ready to love again. U need time and u need to mingle with nicer people who won't hurt u like that

[Reorx]

I fell in love once, perhaps I was young & dumb? Regardless I chose wrong & have never loved again. I find myself considering it from time to time. I've got a proclivity to nuke any chance of love. Not sure how much therapy can help, I tried thrice just to realize the therapists are brainwashed into hating white men in uni.

[Raaj4you]

It's normal! I fell in love when I was a teenager. I can't write the whole story. Eventually, it didn't work out. Since then I was not interested in any other girl. So I decided to stay single forever, not to fall in love again and get married. It took years to understand that everyone had tons of failures in their life, it doesn't mean you stop studying, working, eating, sleeping or falling in love again.

[menina]

It is normal because you had bad experiences. You need to heal and being at peace with yourself.

Take your time, there's no rush. And if you realize that relationships are not for you, then there's nothing wrong with that.

[Spongebobssocks]

I'm sorry the last ones hurt you so much. Feeelings can ruin a lot for yourself depending on where in the relationship you two were.

When does it usually end? At what state? The beginning?

[thatshydork]

For a while, it’s normal, yes. However, I don’t think you can ever really help if you fall in love with someone or who you fall in love with. It’s just something that happens.

[nastyb]

just remember that when you give someone the right to make you happy, they also have the full right to make you very sad.

[justsomeaverageguy]

Wise words 👏 .

[WanderingLoveWizard]

I hope you plan on staying single then.
There's nothing more difficult and unfair than trying to date someone with your mindset

[LovingJo]

Yep, in that boat now.. But it gets better.. Just give yourself time to heal.

[joeND]

We use every bullet we've ever taken to the heart

to shoot down anyone who tries to love us again.

Thats the trouble with humans We never see the

war has ended.

[virtualwasp]

Ditto. I hope you are able to work through it and find happiness

[ChooChooHaha]

Feel that way, yes. But wait til there's someone who makes you want to do that...

[LiamJHayden]

For me it would be normal, but as I have never nor will I ever allow my emotions to control my good sense and "fall in love" I have no actual frame of reference.

[_SillyShoes_]

Yes. I've decided that when I was 21, and am sticking to it... Much easier to live.

[AdithyaR]

Been living like that for a quote some time now and I plan to continue that.

[AdithyaR]

*quite

[Anonymous]

Sucks to be you. Strong people are not quitters. Man up.

[Sasha0426]

Don’t be a cunt

[Hardworkingguy]

It's possible to feel that way after a relationship goes wrong but it's only for the first few days or weeks

[Juxtapose]

You're young, you will learn to grow thicker skin.

[Anonymous]

that's how i am currently keeping my guard up at all times distancing myself emotionally so i don't get hurt. better to be alone then hurt by anyone

[captain_voidwalker]

Honestly this is a healthy attitude. Love is a fictional concept to begin with.

[Diamold]

Feeling like that since my last break up too

[monghjay2]

women do not love men so I do not even blame you

its all over the internet

[WhitneySnow]

Totally normal

[Dargil]

Yes, bit then guys get lonely and horny.

[Luopio27]

I have given up on love.

[grega239]

It is for me.

[In_Trance]

Like you actually have a say in the matter

[mommymommymommy]

Again?