Is it okay to never want to fall in love again?

People get upset when I tell then I don't date. I always get phrases like "One day you'll change your mind" or "The right one will come along" and "You have to learn to love yourself."

Why is it so hard to believe that I don't want it? I don't want the feeling of someone else having control over how I feel. The pain, the potential for betrayal or heartbreak. I was married for 9 years, I went through some of the most excruciating betrayal and abuse. I don't have any good experiences with relationships, even the ones who were good people... i ended up hurt. I foolishly decided to let a guy friend break all my walls down a year ago... I let him into my world and I felt safe. He coaxed me into trusting him and initiated the relationship... only to end up crushing my heart. Even though he is an amazing man.

So I'm back to the way it should have been. Just me, in the safety of my own bubble. Safe from harm. So why does everyone act like that's something bad? Like I'm missing out on some big great thing... that doesn't even actually exist.

Is it okay to never want to fall in love again?
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