Is it ok to take a long rest without work for my mental health?

[Anonymous]

My fiance cheated on me after long term relationship.. it was a year a go.. he left me on our wedding.. and now i feel like i dont want to work or do anything.. just stay home.. in my confort zone.. i am feeling guilty about my future.. but my mental health i dont know how to deal with it.. i overthing every thing.. what should i do

[Anonymous]

I don't know if this is fake or not but if it isn’t then let me just say, sure you can quit work but I think that’s counterproductive. It’s been a year, you should be doing things to help you heal from that situation and grow, not give up and shut down more. If you’ve got a safety net that even allows you to think of not working just because you don’t feel like it, then that’s great — for now. It shouldn’t be their job to take care of you forever and you can’t except that anyway. I think you should either stay at your job, or find one more fulfilling. Find a therapist you’re actually comfortable with, reconnect with your friends, just keep going up. Quitting your job to hide in your room when your ex is out living his life unbothered is a sad low that you will one day face the consequences of.

[Asker]

No.. i wish it was fake.. cuz it hurts too much.. i feel like i am depressed.. and overthinking about all that get me tired.. so i want to take a rest

[Opinion Owner]

Have you considered therapy?

[provokeesmokee]

Talk to your boss and see if you can take a stress leave. Depending on your job, maybe they can support you a bit.

I've taken leaves before and my companies have had short term leave benefits and pay policies. Not everyone does, though.

It is certainly worth taking time to reset and recenter. It also makes you more likely to come back more productive than before, so it's a win for your boss.

Good luck.

[jahaims]

If you can afford to a break is probably a good thing for mental health.

[slatyb]

No one gets a vote besides you.

[monghjay2]

this sounds fake

[Asker]

Sorry?

[In_Trance]

therapy