If you were forced to choose between your spouse or your family what would you choose and why?

[Still-alive]

I know this is probably a very difficult question for people to answer but hypothetically speaking if you had to choose between your spouse/life partner or your family (parents, siblings, etc) what would you choose and why?

I would choose my Family over my spouse if i had to make that decision

I would choose my Spouse over my family if i had to make that decision

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Let me add that by 'choosing' i mean if you had to make the hard decision to never see your family again or never see your spouse again. what would you choose?

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here's a follow up question i just asked if y'all would like to participate: How would you rate your relationship with your family? ↗

[Rosexøxø]

I’m answering this in-time so I choose mmmmmmmmmmmm

Family. To be with. I may even avoid them for some time, but at least I’d have that choice. They helped in very small ways, and large, shape who I am today.

I confide in them and yell at them lol

Thats irreplaceable.

Ofc I always have the option then, to find a spouse later on.

If I had the perfect spouse now, then I would choose to be with them because they’re the ones who are going to be with me and be an ally in life.

My parents have their spouse and aren’t with their parents, so I deserve a spouse as well.

True survival is everyone with their soul mate. Nothing less of that and nothing shallow.

If a mate like that doesn’t exist, I resort to time with family for wise council and reassurances, and choose to partner up with myself for optimum survival.

[Rosexøxø]

Present moment and I voted/chose family

[Киттйлинк]

Neither one. When these type of situations happen, you shouldn't be forced to choose. You can adapt to the situation where if they really cannot co exist together then you find time to spend with both where you don't have to stop communicating to either. You can visit your family without your husband/wife, and you can do things with your husband/wife which your parents or siblings don't have to be a part of. Now if it comes to the point where one of them cannot even tolerate THAT, and THEY choose not to talk with you because you are still communicating with the other, then THAT alone proves which should not be in your life and it's not because you took them out they chose that path.

[Luopio27]

This q refers to choices what movie villains make characters choose, who lives and who dies. If a choice won't be made, both will die. Sacrificing yourself to save both won't be an option given by the villain.

[Киттйлинк]

@Luopio27 what? They die? 😨😨😨😨

[Luopio27]

Such choices will haunt forever.

[GreatBigCircles]

For me, it'd be my family. They have always been supportive of me, through my worst mental health issues to my highest moments and everything inbetween. They weren't enablers, but they also weren't controllers. Firm when they needed to be, but always willing to talk to me and explain to me when they were. They never tried to tear me down or insult me.

I really believe that they would only come into conflict with my spouse, if they earnestly and truly believed that my wellbeing was endangered by the relationship. Nothing short of that, not even personal dislike, would make them force the issue I think.

But that's just for me. I know plenty of other people with terrible parents, who don't deserve the kind of trust I and respect I have have for mine.

[Freyke]

My spouse. It's sad to say that each day death is tightening its grasp around my family. They get older every day. Losing them bit by bit. Day by day. They made me who I am today and they entrusted me with the future. My spouse is part of that future. They accepted her. I will see this through until the end.

[mobiusforniner]

After getting married I've observed that both our families are largely guided by self interest and inability to adapt to their childrens' changing lives. There have been on numerous occasions, both our families attempting to exploit weaknesses in our marriage to encourage taking sides and advocating our separation. And when we are happy, they look upon us with extroidinary envy and disdain, continually reminding us of having taken advantage of their "sacrifices" and owing them some kind of submissive piety in return.

Screw them. Im going with my spouse.

[Screenwriter]

My family has always been there to help and support me, and I would find it difficult to divorce myself from every family member over someone new in my life who doesn't have my family's positive track record.

Unless my family was way out of line about something I'd consider insignificant about a SO, I can't imagine cutting them off. They are all reasonable people who I trust.

[petitedollbabee]

My family. While I love my spouse and our life together, certain family members have always been there for me, and they’ve helped me through a lot of horrible situations in the past. And my spouse could one day decide that we’re not compatible anymore and leave. Whereas my family would never leave.

[TenderFantasy]

But is that because of obligation or choice? Just wondering.

[petitedollbabee]

I’m not really sure what you mean by obligation. My partner could leave at any point, whereas my family wouldn’t leave me. So to me it makes sense for me to choose my family if I was forced to pick between the two.

[TenderFantasy]

I think this is an individual thing. Some families aren't really good ones or supportive and they ABANDON their supposed loved ones. That's what I mean. Some family members can even feel OBLIGATED or FORCED to be with the other. I am just saying. You know the movie Jungle to Jungle? Might be too young to remember but, there's a part where Mimisiku felt hurt when Tim Allen (his dad who wasn't there during his young and formative years), he said that he felt obligated to go with him to see the Statue of Liberty. It slipped out of his tongue. The truth. How he felt. Maybe not long-term but at the time maybe that's what he felt? Again, not saying this was an easy question to answer (in fact, the person asking this is someone I personally know), but anyway, I'm glad you have your family by your side. Not everyone can say the same, as blood USUALLY IS THICKER THAN WATER like they say. 🙂

Also, I think it would depend on how committed your partner is to you. One time, my sister in law and I had a disagreement and automatically, my own brother took his wife's side. It hurt real bad but in the end, that was his choice to make. Maybe he thought it's because he made that commitment to her. But then again, the relationship between my brother and I wasn't always that great so that could've factored into it.

[BButterfly]

Damn this is hard, but I would choose him for sure. We have a family together.

[BButterfly]

@Bigbigfff Nope! Just keep it in your pants. I’m only interested in my guy’s cook. 👌🏻

[Still-alive]

he's gone. no worries

[BButterfly]

Thanks. What a creep

[ZXCwWRQWz]

Spouse, easy. It took a combination of enormous skill, hard work, dedication, and directed love to get my spouse. Family is what? I like my family but I didn't choose them the way I did my wife.

[AɴᴋᴀʀᴀBᴇʏᴇғᴇɴᴅɪꜱɪ]

Imagine that you have experienced an event and you are torn between your family and your spouse, and if your spouse says either your family or me, I say family because I am physically disabled and my family has worked for years, there is a spouse but no parents..

[Smashingdoozy]

Hypothetically if I had family it would entirely depend on the situation. I'd try make the right decision

[menina]

I would choose my family, meaning my sister. I know she will be always here for me and that I can trust her. Partners come and go, but she has been with me forever.

[RavVid]

Spouse was my immediate answer but she would divorce me at 8 years so possibly I should rethink this. I'll want some people that will call her a Bitch.

[ariadneR]

Honestly. My spouse. While my family and I are close, I don't think they realize that I am the actual glue that's holding them together.

[Hiroshi-Kun]

I would choose family because they’re very important to me. You can find love any time but never a new family.

[Rosexøxø]

Agreed

[Sanser]

It depends... if I have children I would choose spouse but if its only she and me I would choose family. I have a wonderful, happy and lovely family, I wouldn't be able to live without them, they have been there always and have supported me...

[DizzyDesii]

Spouse in a heartbeat. My family has already shown their true colors and I know they don't have my back nor best intentions

[DizzyDesii]

Based off the update, i’d choose family. But if it was any other situation then spouse

[provokeesmokee]

I had no say in being born into my family.

I choose my spouse.

It's obvious who my loyalty is to. My chosen.

[Littlejugs99]

Largely depends. I would choose my husband as long as he's not being unreasonable asking me to choose him over my family.

[sheenagwapa]

my family if this question is asked befote for sure my answer is spouse but romantic love disappointed me big time so now family in a heartbeat

[NotInterestedSorry]

The only family I have is my daughter and ain't no way I would choose some guy over her

[devilish-cutie]

life partner cause only he can give me all kinds of love i need

[Lucy68]

Probably my spouses, my family does not like me on the occasion unfortunately

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

This is a hard question, but I could never turn my back on a loving spouse, so this answers the question.

[HoneyButterCup525]

That's a difficult question. I love my family in every bits but I would choose my spouse as long as he doesn't make choose sides.

[Sparkie460]

Since my family is basically all dead it would be an easy choice. I'm staying with my wife. She needs me more than my sister needs me

[najekim]

My spouse I chose to be with. Family is what I was born into so they're there forever.

[SnowedIn]

Spouse. Easy decision. Not even a question.

[annabananna]

My spouse and baby. That’s easy for me.

[Still-alive]

How would you rate your relationship with your family? ↗

Can you answer this one too? Thanks

[annabananna]

Sure

[Nikki1989]

Spouse and it is not even close.

[elizamichale1]

Well my spouse is also my family...

[Drumlin2001]

My partner (and kids) come first.

[serious_miss419]

It’s circumstantial for me

[OddBeMe]

Spouse. Not even thinking about it.

[zebronics]

You have to be wise enough.🌱

[dudeinohio]

Spouse