Would you choice your family over your boyfriend or both?

So I given my girlfriend 12 months to think about what she wants to do about our relationship. Her family hates my guts and will never accept us dating. The reason I known they will never accept me is because my gf& me were going to have two twins baby. My girlfriend was 10 weeks parents when her family murder our kids by forced I won't go into details. but I will say my girlfriend has nightmares thanks to me she been getting bad I do not sleep till she sleeps and half the time I stay up at night singing to her or saying its gonna be OK over n over till she claims down. Our relationship is a lot better since we moved into together But she still visiting her parents which I do not really like but I would never make her choice between us or force her not to see them. Her top 3 reason for visting them is 1. Her dad fixes her car and he wasn't involved in what happened just her Mom& sister was. 2. Her other dog that her mom owns
3. Her grandparents vists during holidays so she go's for them. Here why I don't think it will work. 1. She still hiding the fact from them that we are still dating. 2. They keep using to see her new apartment but she won't let them since I live there. 3. They killed our kids and I will never allow them near my future kids unless am in the room with them. 3 ways I think it can work out.
1. They respect the fact they won't be allowed near their future grandkids with out me in the room. They killed my unborn kids not letting them any more of my kids.
2. They respect me and don't start problems like I always respected them even while being called a n** to my face never once raised my voice
3. we meet half way but not with number one. What do u guys think sorry for the bad writing&
Would you choice your family over your boyfriend or both?
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