Do you enjoy spending alone time by yourself? Why/why not?

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Leapfrog00 · Accepted Answer

I enjoy my solitude. Only downside is it's 24 hours anymore. It is peaceful though. I've written a 500-page novel, then a 410-page sequel. And I completed 7 books all together.

I get a lot done with other people around. The loneliness sucks though. When you need someone to talk to, there's no one around. I have trouble being open anyway, but at least I could try, lol.

If I ever get my book series published, maybe it would be worth it. There are downsides to loneliness though, like if you spend 2 or more days without human contact, you hear voices, and every little noise, and horror movies? Don't watch them unless you plan on checking behind a door every time you enter a room or look out your window every 2 minutes. I swear, I think the grim reaper is standing outside waiting for me! I've got news for him. He's gonna get squirted with a gun full of holy water!

No, seriously, it does get pretty lonely. I can't stand other human beings because they're so stupid. Stupid people live around me! Stupid people that collect disability checks because they're stupid! I've talked to some intelligent people on here, and that's probably the most I've talked to in the past few months.

mattclark242 · Accepted Answer

yes I like being alone I like to think a lot by myself. But I am an INTJ.

NuitBlanche · Accepted Answer

In general, one should not make oneself dependent on others. If I want to go out for a meal, then I go out for a meal. If I always needed someone to accompany me, I would probably go out to eat once a year. Within the limits of my financial possibilities, I would like to try dishes that I don't know or simply let myself be pampered. No cooking, no washing up and setting and clearing the table. On my own, I enjoy it sometimes. But of course eating is also a social event, but it's more important for me at home. No smartphone and no TV. Just talking and sharing what happened during the day or planning the next day. I am a family woman

LostandFound__x · Accepted Answer

I mean sometimes I’m out and I’m hungry. I’m not gonna hide in my car nor run home to eat and the food gets cold. I’ll eat in public cause I’m hungry it’s not that deep lol.

Sonorous · Answer

Yes, but I prefer to be completely alone. I prefer this because my brain can focus on other things more deeply due to not having to constantly be observing social situations.

ohsheeT · Answer

Oh my God yes I do

My day today it changes constantly
I'm an introvert and I'd like my quietness but I'm around people all the time never shutting up always pull me One direction and pulling me another direction and it just gets so crazy

There's a couple other things in my life that I'm going through this just hard it's it takes it all out of me

And because of this I can't really go out and date anybody at this moment

And I've tried relationships online they've been pretty good for the most part but they don't understand even I need that quiet time I need that alone time I need to just drain all the negative energy

So I might not have communication for a day and they don't understand that and I respect that I mean I know and I don't blame them for being pissed off but yes to answer your question LOL yes I need that alone time I need that quiet time I need to regroup refocus every single day almost because there's times where I go a week without doing it and it just takes a toll on me

molonski2 · Answer

I really enjoy my own company to be honest which is fortunate , because ( most ) of my employment was in solitude , and I did that for 25 odd years , maybe a bit longer. Its still like this in what I do now , and when you really need to concentrate , read , analyse , sometimes you just don't want a second opinion .

So strange that I saw this question now , bcoz today is a good example , I did one business video call , other than that I swam , ate , collected some other stuff , 80% of the day was solitary , and that's really how I like it , I may meet a friend tonight , but she is hosting some of her sons friends so that may well not happen , it will not bother me either way.

In the restaurant for breakfast ( @ 4pm ) , I went alone , and a Thai woman from Bangkok came up and started talking to me , I spoke to her for about 30 minutes , then came back and spoke to a colleague here , who was on her own.

I like making my own decisions , and I don't like to be influenced by the needs/ wants of others , that may well sound selfish , but that's how it is , also I take each day as it comes as to how I feel and what I want to complete that day.

electromagnetic · Answer

I’ve dolled myself up, driven to a fancy ass restaurant and eaten a 5 course meal and absolutely enjoyed every moment of it.

No pressure to impress everyone, no commitment to eat foods that only look cute while eating and no rush. there’s such a huge social pressure to not eat alone but what if I’m hungry. What if I wanna dress up and go out and others are not available. Why run on someone else’s schedule when you can make your own

ShesRad80 · Answer

yes, i work in healthcare all the people and the different personalities, mental gymnastics you deal with-- alone time is needed and critical for me

Lliam · Answer

I do. Even though I love being with my wife at home and especially when we go do things together, I enjoy my time when she is at work and going to her meetings.
I like relaxing and doing my own thing.

I like socializing with others, but only occasionally

DarkCarousel · Answer

Just recently, I sat in a cafe in the early hours of the morning, sipping coffee and working on my laptop. Not a soul bothered me, except the kind waiter who periodically refilled my coffee.
It was really nice, actually.

Yes, I occasionally enjoy spending time alone. Sometimes my head is so filled with constant overstimulation, I have to go somewhere— mostly in nature— and just BE. Quiet all the noise for a while.

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

I eat out alone all the time. Especially when I'm travelling. I pass a good wine bar, I'm stopping in. Somebody says I look lonely... eh... I don't know... I may be missing my rescue kittens. I don't need approval for me time from some rando in the establishment. I fought in two wars I'ma do me as I see fit. If that's taking me out to dinner so be it.

BasedBaeBecca · Answer

I have learned that I need a balance of alone time, and social time.
Being alone is when I can focus on something and become really absorbed in it. At the same time it can be lonely and I tend towards introspection which can lead to depression. Being with other people is fun and I learn a lot, but too much social time and I feel drained.

sheenagwapa · Answer

i love spending time alone but i also like spending time with other people. i'm an introvert and i am not the type who would reach our to go meet up but i actually love spending time with other people. it's weird. i just don't have this appetite to ask people out but if they invited me i would love to go.

Bricealan · Answer

I know people that cannot stand to be alone. When my wife left, I was devastated, after having her company for 8 years I got over it. I like my own company and have things to occupy myself with, and most loners do. My boss at Fluor Engineering once called me a 'loaner' and I was not upset by that, because it was true, and I ran 7 days a week almost for 5 straight years.. mostly alone, and competed.

I am alone a lot, but I am never lonely.

Andres77 · Answer

I do enjoy my time alone, but only when I’m not missing my kids.

Maybe after so many years in the military and wives that eventually thought they could tell me what to do. I would rather be alone have to deal with mandates day in and day out rest of my life.

JCT666 · Answer

Whether I'm alone at a restaurant, a bar or anywhere, there's a 100% chance I want to be alone. It's nice to relax and take your time to enjoy for yourself every now and then. Especially after a hard day at work dealing with reprobates all day.

dragoblack · Answer

Yep. Because, i get to do what I like, with no judgment; i don't have to worry about what someone else wants to do; i can look at porn whenever I want; i can watch as much anime as i want; i can play as much video games as I like; i can use my time for crafting;... etc. when you don't have to worry about entertaining others, it is a lot more relaxing and less stressful

crossdressingrihno · Answer

Yeah being alone is awesome.

When you’re alone you don’t have to put so much effort into fitting in or ensuring others are comfortable and instead can just be comfortable with what you do and be just be natural.

sheikalana · Answer

I love being on my own. I don't know why I was feel the need to isolate and do things on my own. I live with my partner and he's been on vacation for a few weeks I'm loving the alone time and having the house to myself although I miss him deeply.

mobiusforniner · Answer

Even as a married couple, alone time is important to mental and emotional well being. For me, its a daily bike ride or run. And working in my hangar or garage with my favorite music.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

I eat alone in a public restaurant every time I have a lunch break. That’s how I met my ex fiancé during one of my lunch breaks.

NotInterestedSorry · Answer

Been doing it for years as I don't have any friends or family. Do I like it, not really. It's gets lonely.

AutisticLonelyWoman · Answer

Most of the time I do because you don’t get disappointed and hurt. I’ve been screwed and used so many times I can’t trust anybody. I refuse to let anyone new in my life. Sorry but that’s how it is.

Nikki1989 · Answer

I can enjoy it in small doses. I would hate it to be permanent.

BadApple69 · Answer

Everyone needs some alone time. I don't wish to make a habit out of it... But yes I enjoy my time alone. I will even eat at restaurants alone.

Boomchakalaca · Answer

Eh its okay. I went shopping alone but i hav bad driver anxiety so i only stayed at one store for 3 hrs and left 😅 i rlly wanna try dining alone tho

menina · Answer

I do. We need time for ourselves too. If you're a good company to yourself, then you'll be a good company to other people.

Ali4Sy · Answer

You should enjoy every part of your life or day, if you alone or not JUST TRY TO HAVE FUN IN EVERY MOMENT. And I'm sure you can..

nolabels · Answer

I can socialize adequately, but I prefer being alone. Why? I find it to be much simpler and easier to be alone, in myriad ways.

LiamJHayden · Answer

I am fine with dining alone, going to movies alone, museums, concerts, and things like that. I also love alone time at home so that I can learn more songs.

But if it were all the time I'd go crazy, because I love people.

Red-Blaze · Answer

I do once in a while for some reat But do prefer to be connected the rest of the time

PBandJ_Nerd · Answer

I do when I am able to. But other times I'd cry because no one was home with me.

Freyke · Answer

I agree with dwfaktab, I don't like going to restaurants unless it's a date. I feel lonely when I'm in a big group at a restaurant. Strange when you read it.

Furiouslycurious · Answer

I love being alone at times. Need to recharge that social battery haha

Raaj4you · Answer

Yes, most of the time. I am an introverted, nerd and a reserved kinda person. I had few friends in the school and college. So I enjoyed my alone time. But I don't want to be alone rest of my life.

exitseven · Answer

yes, I have always been sort of a lonesome cowboy.

DryGermanGuy · Answer

"The strong man is strongest when alone."  - Friedrich Schiller, Wilhelm Tell

richardcory · Answer

I can tolerate being alone, but I much prefer company

DermalPunch · Answer

Yes, I do! I am very selfish when it comes to my time; to a fault, actually.

TaureanBull81 · Answer

I love having my own personal space and alone time ⏲️  No-one wants to be around a nagging partner 🤣

Jazzy54 · Answer

Yes.  I need my alone time to recharge and relax.

Fireguy17 · Answer

Yes. I do a lot of solo motorcycle rides, so being alone is just fine.

Christoff92 · Answer

Yeh. It's a perfect way in feeling connected with the universe and become more self-aware what's around you 😏

dolemite58 · Answer

absolutely, i love solitude. i enjoy being social here and there but i’m one of those types that enjoys seeing a movie alone or having dinner by myself.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

I'm happy to spend time alone but i don't particularly enjoy dining alone etc.

Akam93 · Answer

Yes because it's the only time I can sit on my phone or read a book or catch up on chores.

PrettyCrumblBb · Answer

I'm a people person. Ironically I'm shy cos I blush easily. I can do things on my own but I love spend time with others.

Sparkie460 · Answer

I do enjoy my alone time once in awhile. It just gives me time to think and re-energize

DiegoO · Answer

I do. I can't explained why. I just naturally feel better when I am alone—alone, not lonely.

Gabriel-Chicanito · Answer

I've said, b4 that smxs, you're better off byyourself than w/some people!. Places you can't b byyourself, though: the blvd. A carshow.

BLP11520 · Answer

I love being alone to a point I can study things and do things without interruptions

Anonymous · Answer

Eating in a restaurant alone people thinking you have no friends.

Fuentes · Answer

Yup people hug me

petitedollbabee · Answer

Definitely. I’m great company, lol.

nolookingbackx · Answer

Yes, alone time is my fav time.

WhitneySnow · Answer

Yes I do. It helps me recharge.

RavVid · Answer

Hell yeah. Other people are disruptive.

JustinTheGreat · Answer

I value my alone time

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

Yes, because I like it quiet.

collie22 · Answer

I prefer being with friends 😊

AɴᴋᴀʀᴀBᴇʏᴇғᴇɴᴅɪꜱɪ · Answer

I love it but not for long.

elizamichale1 · Answer

No not really

normandi · Answer

It beats being with a nagging wife

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