What should I do if my boyfriend take revenge on me for what I did to him?

[Anonymous]

Boyfriend is mad at me for disappearing in days, i didn't answer his call or reply to his message cause he made me upset with what he said about me. He was just putting me down a lot..

Now he is planning for a revenge, he is doing the same thing that i did to him, he disappeared for days, and even change his number, he said he got tired of my behavior, and doesn't want to deal with me anymore..

When I asked if he wanted to break up, he said it's up to you.., but later on he has suggested to just break up because he can't find a solution..

A day ago, he suggested to meet up at a cafe, after i reply to his message, he doesn't reply back to the last text that I sent him.. he badmouthed me on his story, and making me look like the bad guy..

He is still active on Instagram and complains about me being passive..

Yet, he just stops replying to my text, he doesn't even bother to read them..

How do I deal with this?

[Leapfrog00]

Sounds like a delicate situation, but not an unsolvable one. What he is doing is a bit immature. If I had a girlfriend and she disappeared for days, I would be more worried about her well-being, rather than her actions.

What if something bad would have happened to you? Would he even feel guilt for acting like this? He is not worth your time. I don't mean to sound blunt, but he obviously doesn't care what happens to you. It sounds like he's more jealous, or suspicious than anything. I understand disappearing acts. I'm an introvert and sometimes people don't see me for days. People like time to themselves.

Breaking up with him would be better for you because you can find someone better. Someone who isn't going to hurt you. This guy is just a broken heart waiting to happen, if it hasn't already. Most girls stay with immature guys because they don't think they can do any better.

And not reading your texts, he doesn't care what you have to say. Maybe one day he will grow up, but right now he's acting like the little boy who cried because his lollipop fell on the ground.

I'm sure there are plenty of other guys that would be with your time, and wouldn't care about you, and talk to you like a person, rather than use pass-aggression. The dude is trying to get in your head and play with your mind. That was ignorant for him to say he was going to do the same to you. You can do so much better! Trust me!

[boggboss]

Ending things u guys seem too immature to be with eachother

[YesterdaysChild]

Sounds like the show is over to me. Time to move on and tune into a different channel. The one you are watching does not appear to be an award winner. The opinion here is that both of you need to grow up as you are both sounding like a brother and sister fighting over nothing except how to get back at each other. I suggest you take a time out and reassess your relationship - or lack of one. Call it a trial separation. Don't contact each other for a month and see how you feel after the month is over. Either you will make it permanent or work together to improve your relationship by starting again from square one.

[Asker]

I know it's probably better to let it go, but the truth is we are planning to get married next month in August..
Then this happens all of sudden since a week ago, would it be better if I cancel our plan to marry?

[YesterdaysChild]

In my opinion yes. You don't want to get divorced early on. The way things are going I can guarantee you it will happen unless you are both on the same page. Not temporarily, but for the long haul.

[petitedollbabee]

Break up, stay away from him and move on. If he can’t communicate and handle this like an adult, then it’s a waste of time even trying.

[Asker]

What about our plan then? We are planning to get married next month, should I just cancel that plan as well?

[petitedollbabee]

Yes. You don’t want to be married to a man child, otherwise you can count on an early divorce or miserable marriage. Why would you want to marry someone who puts you down?

[SarahS98]

Give him the break up, ghost him permanently and find someone else that doesn't play petty, teenaged games.

[DextroShade]

Ghost him and find someone else who is less petty.