Is it wrong to get revenge on my boyfriend and not feel bad about it?

[Anonymous]

I'm currently getting revenge on my boyfriend and he's too blind to notice it. He humiliated me from 2018-2020 (many things to be exact) in front of others, used to made me cry in the past but also made fun of commitment; the most important thing for a woman.

He thinks I've forgiven him and has been feeling guilt since. The tables have flipped. I'm no longer the innocent girl that would say yes to him a lot and would do anything. He's the one that seems to be doing things my way. He still thinks he need to make it up to me. LOL.

I'm past the ''feeling bad'' part. I'm enjoying this moment. I'm just now dating him out of convenience but my revenge is almost completed. By the time I dump him, I had already done enough. Every time I look at him, I see the laughing, disrespectful idiot that lacked compassion.

But is this wrong?

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Every single time I look at him, I see the same recurrent image of what happened at the time: him laughing so hard, others laughing and I'm shocked and running away in tears.

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For instance, I stood him up on one of our dates, LOL

[AmandaYVR]

Revenge is wrong. Get over it. By passing along this anger, you're just creating an uglier world, where more and more people justify treating others like shit.

[kay1315]

I know it hurts and you are mad for how he treated you but it’s not worth it. You are better then that. Don’t go down to his level because it’s turning you like him. A shitty person. Move on and do better, that’s only gonna make you a bitter, hateful ugly person. Leave him and find people that bring out the best in you.

[dreamstar72]

Dump him publicly (like at a family party). Make sure you have fantastic speech that embarrass him bad.

[Asker]

yeah that's what I'll do. I can't wait for next month. Luckily I overheard the conversation with his mother. Normally that would've made me happy (many women want that) but instead, I'm disgusted at the thought of bearing him a child. The day I once waited for is gone.
Interesting isn't it? When a woman feels disgust and hatred for the guy, not even the best ring will make her say yes. My answer for next month will be an obviously ''HELLS NOPE''.

[KrakenAttackin]

@dreamstar72. Dude, don't cuck for this crazy bitch.

[OlderThanILook]

Committment is kind of a joke in relationships like this. Why would anyone commit to a petty woman?

[Asker]

I added an update to my post. Every time I look at him, I see that disgusting bully laughing at me with others.

[Asker]

Here is another update: I overheard him talking to his mother about surprising me next month but it's a secret.
My revenge will be rejecting him in a very harsh way. No way I want to commit to him anyways, not anymore. Now it's my turn to publically make fun of him on that day. lol

[Asker]

Like stated, the tables have turned.

[KrakenAttackin]

Asker... you are one crazy bitch.

[Asker]

@KrakenAttackin
Well I was innocent when he met me. He changed me.

[KrakenAttackin]

Asker.. no, you were always a crazy bitch.

[leighbee]

Toxic relationship, this happened to measure well I went into crazy mode. Just break up

[Asker]

I will next month. I overheard him having a private conversation with his mother that he's going to surprise me next month. That'll be my break-up time. I'll reject him in a harsh way and do it publically.

[leighbee]

I get that and I do hope it works out for you

[bignose68]

Exist the relationship move on. If you stay in this part of your life it'll haunt you forever.

[Asker]

Actually I'm going to end it next month.
I overheard him talking to his mother about surprising me next month but it's a secret.
My revenge will be rejecting him in a very harsh way. No way I want to commit to him anyways, not anymore. Now it's my turn to publically make fun of him on that day. lol

[Anonymous]

Don't stoop to his level. It's not worth it.

[Anonymous]

what did he do that was so wrong to you?

[Asker]

He made many humiliating stunts and pranks (to others and me) in the past, one of them was about commitment. He made me believe it was real and then him and others were laughing. I ran fast from the crowd, running away in tears.

Present-day:
He really thought I had long forgiven him. I made him believe I did and he's still showing guilt/remorse. I overheard him having a private conversation with his mother. He's going to surprise me for real next month. This is my chance to return the favor back, to reject him so harshly and humiliating publically. LOL
The tables have turned now.

[Opinion Owner]

Why do you believe he was lying about commitment? If he's been by your side for 5 years that alone is true commitment. What type of commitment was he saying to you that made you cry?
For me personally I asked her numerous times and she never gave me an answer never a yes or a no I always got left hanging

[Opinion Owner]

Regardless of how many times I asked which were many she never gave me an answer

[Opinion Owner]

What about everything you did to him turning every private intimate conversation he had with you into a publicity stunt for PR. How about after 5 years you never once said you loved him directly to him. How about when you don't call don't write don't email don't dm him it hurts every time. Being stood up also hurt which by the way was more then once you did that to him. If he's been with you since 2017 up to now I for one who's in that situation deeply truly love her with all my heart and soul and have bent over backwards trying everything I can to make her happy

[Opinion Owner]

Besides the commitment what else did he do wrong that you still hold against him?
Can I ask you something honestly how can you say that after all these years it's not commitment? If somebody has been there for you through your darkest downfalls and moments and is still by your side for you how can you say there's no commitment?

[Opinion Owner]

I can guarantee you that when he was talking to you about commitment it wasn't a humiliating stunt and he was never laughing about it or thought of it as a prank. Not once did he ever. I should know to this day my heart still hurts wishing I could hug her just once or hear I love you from her just once. I never set out to prank or humiliate her and I would never make her cry.

[Opinion Owner]

Right now the only thing this is doing is raising my anxiety and fears. I'm having problems in mine and all this is doing is triggering massive fear.

[Opinion Owner]

You really think somebody who traveled 3000 miles to see you on your birthday just to get stood up is funny? Or traveling 100+ miles last year to support you for your business interviews to stand the person up is funny? Or traveling again this year another 100+ miles to see you for your birthday is funny? No it's not it's humiliating and shows you have no respect for him especially when he's been in love with you for all these years. Have you ever once just once wished him a happy birthday let alone travel hundreds of miles to see him for his birthday? If he's been there for you since 2017 and still is to this day that's commitment right there

[Opinion Owner]

Seriously what more do you want from the guy? His blood? Look this is a really sensitive subject for me since I'm going through the exact same thing and it hurts tremendously

[Asker]

I'll take you back to the year 2019 (the worst humiliation ever):
He knew I wanted to have kids one day. He said he also wanted and was thinking of our future. He made me moved out of the apartment I was renting, made me travel many miles to see him. We were by then living together for 5 months and then he surprised me. To my horror (after I said yes), it was fake. He and everyone else in the prank began laughing saying things like ''Nice prank bro, she fell for it'' and all I could see and hear was laughter, from him and others.

So I left in tears and had to return back home. He had led me on and pranked about something very important. He insulted commitment, insulted me as a person. I felt worthless.

Present-day: Now it's my turn to reject him next month. He's going to do it for real and I'm not looking forward towards it anymore. I don't want it. I don't want him. I don't want kids with him. I want nothing but to get my revenge. Hence why I said tables have turned. Now I have my chance to do what he did in front of everyone that will be there.

[Asker]

In addition, there are other flaws about him that I don't like either. While he expressed remorse for that, he doesn't regret being a former school bully to weaker guys at school and makes pranks to others.

[Asker]

I slowly just fell out of love. I don't even like him.

[Opinion Owner]

Well I was never a bully if anything I'm the one who got bullied

[Opinion Owner]

Well mine wasn't fake I just never got an answer regardless of how many times I asked and to make matters worse she said yes back in 2020 to some guy she only knew for 4 months while living with him

[Opinion Owner]

She took something very special and intimate between us and turned it into a cheap PR stunt a cheap publicity stunt

[KrakenAttackin]

It's classic female.

[Asker]

I'm willing to bet you would get revenge too if someone you once loved really did you wrong or humiliated you.

[KrakenAttackin]

Asker... I have been done wrong, far more than you princess, I guarantee it. As a man you don't have a choice except to suck it up as the gynocentric laws will destroy a man. Seeking vengeance is not an option for men. If it was there wouldn't be a woman alive today. So shut the fuck up and move on.