Girl liked me in past, but timing was wrong. I rejected her (by taking too long). She rejected me (as revenge).
We get back in tough and talk frequently. There is a DEEP emotional connection. She's a busy lawyer (60+ hours/week) and she makes time for me and initiates. When we stopped talking for a few months, she stalked me on Telegram and called me as soon as she did not see me online for more than 2 days.
We're not a couple because I am afraid to get rejected. Reason is her boyfriend. I'm not sure if he's real. When we hung out she always mentioned him, but it seemed like a lie which was confirmed when she asked me out the first time.
After rejection she didn't mention him and she knows i hate it. But after telling me she hates here life and job she is all of a sudden trying to make me jealous.
She mentions sex with her boyfriend to me and now talks about going to dinners with people and now says she lives with him. Before she said she did not live with him.
This is how I asked her out the first time, when she made me jealous with her boyfriend.
Everything tells me she LOVES me, but why is she doing this? We haven't spoken in a month now because I am hurt and she knows it hurts me. Why did she try to destroy the friendship? She knows it would.
What Girls Said
Are you sure you are actually 32? This is more of a story for a teenager.
Now, a lawyer that is lying is something of an oxymoron a first but when you look into it much deeper, then a lawyer is someone that lies by nature and necessity, just like politicians.
If you don't want to destroy what you call friendship, then you let this lady go because we all know that a failed relationship destroys a friendship. You also know that if you get intimate with that woman, your long term friendship will be destroyed. That is a guarantee.
So, you must decide what is more important to you. A lasting friendship but a platonic relationship or an intimate relationship for a short while but a destroyed friendship that is forever.
If she has to lie to you so ostentatiously, then I don't think she is worth the trouble.
This sounds like teenage nonsense. Get over it and move on.
Maybe... Or maybe... She isn't lying