Do you crave non-sexual intimacy?

[Christsdisciple15]

I find that’s what I really covet, and it just rips my heart out when I think about how much I lack, and how lonely I am it really hurts. I know I’m not alone in that. I feel especially with men though, they seem to not really care about the emotional and interpersonal intimacy and seem to care more about the sexual side but that is obviously a generalisation.

[Anonymous]

Men have always been driven by sex. But it's much more that way today than in the past, and that's a problem women have created for themselves.

Over the last several decades women have made uncommitted casual sex the norm rather than the exception like it used to be. It is now the expectation among men that women will have casual sex without commitment, so for many men if a woman isn't willing to sleep with them, they'll just move on to someone else who will, because they know there are plenty of fish in that sea. And women know now that they need to have casual sex because if they don't, the next woman probably will. They have to compete sexually with other women for a man's attention.

Also, women today are very different than women of the past. Modern women have turned their backs on the things that have always made women valuable to men. They have essentially reduced their value to sex.

Add to that the fact that marriage, which used to be the norm, is now very hazardous to men. Half of marriages end in divorce, women file 80% of divorces, and men get screwed in divorce court and child custody settlements.

Women have created this problem for themselves by making marriage too costly and sex too cheap. It's bad for women and men, and for society in general.

[NamerOfStars]

To the point where my fantasies these days are less about sex and more like this:

Do guys care about sex? Most of us do. Do we care about it more than women? Usually. But touch starvation is a devil of a thing (and fleeing a thousand miles away from everyone you know is pretty much a guarantee of it), and that form of communion that even just being touched represents...

It's not that I don't know how we live without it. It's that I don't know why we live without it. Pack animals aren't meant to be alone.

[molonski2]

Depends what you mean by non sexual intimacy? I personally really adore NSI , in terms of teasing , lap dancers , holding , resisting , anticipation.

[Christsdisciple15]

I mean the literal definition of intimacy? I. e. to be close… did you think it was inherently sexual?

[molonski2]

Im not sure..

[Losalt]

I miss just cuddling while watching a movie or taking a bath, without necessarily doing anything more.

[SawerBrown]

I love to cuddle, hold hands and kiss with a woman I care for and cook for her and make her smile.

[Sharkstealth]

I think if more men were given that they would probably be OK. Now most men dont get anything.

[Adogdog]

Of course, I crave non-sexual as well as sexual intimacy.

[dragoblack]

Yep... being single sucks

[Anonymous]

Like cam sex

[Christsdisciple15]

was this a joke I couldn’t tell

[Opinion Owner]

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