Girls, would you tell a boyfriend you've been seeing for 3 months, you would have dumped him if your ex wanted you back? Is that an obvious red flag?

[Anonymous]

Two nights ago, my girlfriend told me that early on in our relationship, had her ex called her and said he wanted her back, she would have "dumped" me. I asked if she still feels that way. Her reply, "don't worry about it now. I love you". She is very damaged by him and I'm thinking about bolting. I'll be honest, that hurt me!

[Screenwriter]

Umm, the red flag here is NOT the fact that she would've dumped you early in the relationship had her ex asked her back. The red flag is that she TOLD you something so hurtful.

This is a serious problem. There are people who believe they have to tell their SOs EVERYTHING and be completely honest. This is wrong. If complete honesty HURTS someone, or you suspect that it will, keep certain facts to yourself.

The fact that this woman is CLUELESS that what she told you IS hurtful bodes ill in my opinion. I'm guessing her level 10 honesty may trample on your feelings again and again.

[Anonymous]

That’s an incredibly mean and hurtful thing to say to someone you supposedly love. I don’t know what prompted her to say that to you, but I don’t think she’s truly over her ex.

[Asker]

I don't think she is either. The only way I can justify her saying that, is she is all about "honesty" but like another opiner said, there are some things you just don't say. It hurt and I just don't trust her anymore. I didn't tell her that her saying that not only hurt me but fucking pissed me off! I just told her that my brother needs a third guy for a fishing trip, short notice and I'll be gone for 5 days.

[Opinion Owner]

Honesty will either make a person trustworthy, or make them an asshole. Unfortunately, your girlfriend chose to say something that put her in the latter category. I hope you find someone who will speak life into you, and will cherish you.

[Asker]

Wow! Thank you. Not only for your kind words but for supporting me. It's easy hearing a guy say it but to hear a girl say she was wrong and probably not worth it, speaks volumes! Now I know even women have my back! Thanks!

[Drumlin2001]

So 12 weeks ago she would have kicked you to the curb for her ex. Now she has no feelings for him and is in love with you? Personally sound like BS. I wouldn't trust her

[Anonymous]

You shouldn't start a new relationship if you aren't over your ex. And she told you that to mess with you. She's a walking a red flag. Find someone else.

[Asker]

I agree. When ever we have a little argument, she always compares me to her ex. It never bothered me (that much) until she said how she would have dumped me.

[Opinion Owner]

She sounds emotionally abusive. Don't enable that behavior by staying with her. Be glad she told on herself early on in the relationship.

[Asker]

Yeah. She's one of these that put on such a nice show to pull me in. This sweet and loving girl that sees the good in everybody and everything but the glimmer is slowly tarnishing. I blew her off yesterday, didn't tell her why, and I'm thinking about the, "let's just take a break for a little bit. You need time to work things out" talk tonight. She's already called me wondering what is wrong, why I'm being so distant. Maybe I should just be honest with her. I do really like her but I can see a definite change after she said that.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

That’s a huge red flag. No one should think or tell you that… You don’t need a girlfriend like this.

[SnowedIn]

It's not a red flag. Just a stupid, shitty thing to say.