If your boyfriend stated seeing someone else would you try and get him back?

[Daniela1982]

Things happen in relationships. Maybe for some reason you drift apart, even though you love one another. Maybe someone didn't say "I love you!" enough or something else. The reasons can be many. But say they start seeing someone else and you don't want to lose them. Would you realize then what you had with them and fight to get them back? Or would you decide to let them go, even though you might regret it later?

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Fight like apes to win them back.

Shrug your shoulders and say, "Oh well" and move on.

What would you decide to do it you truly loved them?

Updates

+1 y

Whoops, that was "started" seeing another.

[somesoul]

I tried i break up because -

The first red alert was - he removed my ID from his insta bio suddenly and So i removed my relationship status from FB as a response. And i told him that I felt bad as he had to inform me before taking that step. So post that, i started feeling very uneasy. I did tell him that i don't feel good but he said me " i don't know what to say" after that relationship hit few rocks and it has been 2 years we are still together where i tried to break up with him 2 times already and he always came back. But love has not died, i stopped calling him and we just texted each other ( his two jobs and my one job) so both were busy.

Suddenly one day,

he said me that " he is not sure if he will marry me or not" , so i told him let's just stay friends and he said okay and then i blocked him and the day before that i let him know through my WhatsApp status that i began dating someone else indirectly and he saw it too.

One month later , he and his mom both called me all day. He pinged me from another number. So i had to unblock him. He confessed to me that he dated someone.


Then again, i still saw him following only girls on Instagram,
So, i again told him to remove it coz i don't like that and also i told him on the call. He still did not respect me enough to unfollow them, post which i Wrote from a fake mans account to the girl he was following on Instagram " he is cheating on you" that's it.

Then he calls me and is almost crying and telling me why did I do that. And all. We had a good conversation and i asked him why don't he wanna break up with me? He said me he loves me and that I should trust him.

So cool, he finally unfollowed all those woman.
Then i told him that either love me 100% or break up. Don't cheat. And i told him that no one is perfect and " if you're trying to find someone better", you'll never be happy. You need to be happy with what you have. and that "finding better" while you're in a relationship is a "crime".

So he understood and he made me Meet his mom.

So yes, i did fight for this man, for this relationship, i educated him about what should be there in his heart and that too at a psychological level because some people are not highly intellectual and they lack understanding or are immature. So i had to educate him emotionally and psychologically so that he doesn't go and date everyone which is very trendy these days.

You know what, self love is important,
Love yourself first.

And when you love someone else, make sure you don't lose yourself in the process of loving someone.

Love and respect a man so much that, he should be ashamed of himself to take the wrong step and if he did, he will not do it again. Because it was too easy for me to break up and move on coz i gave my 100% so I felt zero pain and guilt. It was him who was loosing me and not me who was loosing him.

[Nagahime]

I mean, at that point he isn't my boyfriend anymore if he's seeing someone else and I'm trying to get him back. He would be my "ex-boyfriend" and I wouldn't really give a shit, I'd move on. Unless it was the guy I'm dating now, then my heart would be crushed and I don't know what I would do.

[motownplayer2000]

It would hurt. But if she didn’t talk to me about it, but when out and started seeing someone else. She checked out a long time ago. And it’s time for me to move on. Only way I would probably try to make it work is if we had more than one kid. Then it’s just easier. But one kid or no.. yeah. Do you I’ll find someone else

[JHNS98]

My ex-FWB has a very weird thing for me. I was with her for a month, then we took a break...

She got with someone neew, and then broke up, which I didn't care too much for. But she was clearly hurt when I told her I just had a first date with another girl.

[Daniela1982]

You are just friends, why would you care if the other was seeing others? It's supposed to be no strings attached.

[Honestguyopen]

I would consider the circumstances. In this situation, one has to assess what is best for the other person as well as what they themselves want. Not considering the other party is probably why someone finds themselves in this situation, so it would be the only way to change it. That is what I would do.

[JosyJosy]

I wouldn't see him as my boyfriend anymore, I see that as cheating. I'll let him know that I appreciate the honesty. Try and get him back? I'll just give him a choice. He can go ahead and keep seeing her as a single man or stay loyal. One of the two.

[TickleMe4ForFun]

There are enough females out there, that losing one isn't going to be the end of the world! Just pick up and move on. The most annoying thing is being revisited by the Ghost of Pussy Past after months or even years!

[Daniela1982]

Funny then that so many people go back to their Exes.

[Anonymous]

Well, that's cheating. So I would just kick him in the balls and move on.

[NathanDavis]

I'd choose dignity

[Daniela1982]

So you would rather lose something you loved instead of saying "sorry, I love you. Please don't do this"?

[NathanDavis]

if a girlfriend of mine... started to see someone else while being with me, then that was not love, because that's what love is about

and that is not a relationship either (not the kind I like to be in) because either her, me or both... failed so bad at it... that it came to that point in which she just starts to be with someone else, that level of neglect is no relationship worth

ultimately... if all of that happened, I would have to assume part of my fault it was a failure because I didn't know better, and I didn't try better... so I would see it as a lesson learned, and end it... I'd move on and try to better myself because if I had it in me to make it work, I would have done it from the start before it all failed that badly

[NathanDavis]

long story short... it wasn't love in the first place

[Daniela1982]

Failure at something doesn't mean love wasn't there. It might mean you both were taking it for granted. Love and marriage takes work, not laziness and entitlement.

[NathanDavis]

exactly... as you said

when I love someone I do not go half-assed about it, I am just not the kind of person that is lazy, careless, neglects you, takes you for granted and then when it all goes this wrong is like "oh but I love you so much, how come that is not enough!!"

no, I am nothing like that... in this case, this kind of failure is a choice, the conscious choice to neglect the relationship and take your partner for granted.. till there is consequences, if you only act after the consequences did affect you negatively and that is when you want to do better

then that is not a love worth to me, personally, because I am nothing like that

so you are 100% right... marriage and love takes hard work and commitment and many other things yes, but it takes that it from the very start and it has to be work and effort you put up on the daily because you care...

it is never about being careless till you're deep in trouble

[NathanDavis]

and yes, I know it might sound harsh... but I do subject myself to the highest standards that I know I can bring, which is exactly why I've never been in a shitty relationship before

[Daniela1982]

Well said.

[Flower7]

I would just let him go.

[anon1903]

I'd leave. Can't stay where I'm not wanted.

[exitseven]

I would find somebody else.

[msc545]

I don't have a boyfriend

[Daniela1982]

or girlfriend, I guess I should have worded it different.

[msc545]

:) you never know...