If a married man tells you he loves you is it true?

[sexygirlfriend4708]

I have been seeing this guy for 9 months.he is married but his marriage is seriously on the rocks.we were attracted to each other right away.he started to just flirt and at first I was like no but I started to feel comfortable with him, but it started to progress in to something deeper we started to care, and our relationship at first was just about sex but like maybe four months into it we started to care. being considerate of each other and our feelings.now he tells me he loves me and I know I love him too so much. he doesn't have sex with his wife that often anymore.we have been talking about kids and marriage. I know most affairs guys are like they just want sex, but honestly its different and I know it is. he cares for me, he said he has never felt like this way towards anyone else not even his wife.and that I am truly his love of his life.

[Unknowndesire]

I can relate. In this generation it’s hard to tell what anything means now. I mean come on we have kids eating tide pods and the salt and ice challenge. The first thing is to see if he genuinely loves you. Example long talks on the phone (not just about sex), Willing to spend money on you and care for your well being, when someone talks bad on your name does he protect you, does he get jealous when other men approach you? I’m currently messing around with a married man. Yes we all know it’s wrong and those who say your a home wrecker like one said you can’t wreck a home if it’s already been wrecked and it’s the mans fault for allowing an affair in. Any ways the man and I started off as friends with benefits (he’s my coworker) we Would have our session then move on. A few weeks go by he started to get upset when men would approach me and he would confront me about it saying it made him feel a way. Eventually just having sex turned into him wanting to cuddle and give me kisses while pulling me close. When another coworker spoke bad on my name he was pissed and defended me. Now we speak on the phone everyday talking about my life story etc eventually he said he loved me and I asked him y. He said because of my personality and the way I’m so strong minded and happy. I genuinely know he loves me because I can hear it and the things we agreed upon prior to messing around is not the same. Now he speaks about having kids and doing anything he can to see me as much as possible. He now brings me lunch to work all the time and tells me he missed me but we both know he’s married and I’m not expecting anything to go pass what we have. I’m happy where I’m at so if u feel like he does everything different then he did before and shows it 9/10 he truly loves you.

[Malloryrae1134]

Yes! I’m on the same boat. This guy I have been talking too and definitely is married. He doesn’t like to talk about his wife because they are marriage isn’t in the right place mad they have been having issues.

He told me that he likes me a lot. We flirt all the time at work. He tells me that I’m cute and that I’m so pretty. He loves that I’m not like any girl because I’m so genuine and that I don’t let anyone walk all over me. He even hugs me and kisses me on my cheek everyday. He makes me happy. I know he is married.

[SaucieMaMa]

Wow, honey, I feel so bad for you. You are confused, and discusting. "He doesn't have sex with his wife that much anymore"? That is the dumbest thing I've heard all week. Have you ever thought that its ok for a marriage to be on the rocks and things can get better? I hope you know men will always have a spot in their hearts for their wives, ex wives, whatever. I swear to you karma is going to bite you in the butt. He doesn't love you, he's just stressed, and you're new and excitting, you're being used. Once his wife finds out, sh!t will hit the fan. She will find out. Us as women, always know when another woman is around. I feel soo bad or you, you must be a lonely depressed little girl, you should be ashamed and discusted. I hope you know not to trust him, he could be doing you both. I guess you nasty little girls don't think about stds, or being a homewrecker. You're distcusting, I hope you repent to the Lord.

I really hope this question was a joke.

[Purpleduzt]

Only Father God can judge the sin of this world, and most definitely not you my dear. So get your shit straight. Jesus said, " You without sin cast the first stone..." No one's perfect. Everyone sins 24/7. No sin is greater than the next sin. Sin is sin and that's that. Adultery no adultery... we make our own choices in life whether good or bad, with regrets and repentance but in the end we did exactly what we wanted, we knew there was consequences but better to live and feel than to not live at all. Do we regret yes maybe but than we wouldn't have made and met the people we did if we hadn't done things the way we wanted. 😉

[Anonymous]

i am in the same boat as you and this is the response that I got from him.i even spent the weekend at his house while she was away -and these are his words to me:

Not sure what to say about that--- kinda made me feel good but can't let you feel that way if I'm married- I don't want you to have those feeling- its not fair- when someone else deserves them- because I can't reciprocate. Please don't be mad and upset with me.

Well I still feel bad and your probably right about not being healthy on both parts- but I still value are friendship and y couldn't I have known you 15 years ago

[Anonymous]

Ummmm everyone thats talking negative about this girl must have had problems in their own marriages or must be going through some things. I am actually in the same situation except I've been with him for 3 years. I'm no homewrecker, the home was wrecked before I came in the picture. The problem is not us the problem is the man. They cheat and cheat but the wife let him because "that's what married people do". Smh Sometimes people do fall out of love ya know.

[ADRIANO17]

Some people need to open their eye's and realize that in this era things like this happen. Know matter what one would say that " it won't happen to me" wake up. Experts had mention that in a relationship they are those that would cheat and those that will think about doing it. This man is going about it all in the wrong way he should handle his problem before you and him get more involve. Don't make it easy for him put him to the test and tell him that you want to help him with the divorce and see his reaction then you would get your answer. Remember you knew that he was involve good luck.

[tex151]

Hmmm he's married key word there married, and your hooking up with him, yup you are a home wrecker way to go. So say he loses half his stuff in the divorce cause of you, and well it's sunshine and rainbows for a while and then he cheats on you, you may think no that won't happen, really cause history repeats itself.

[JustMe2008]

Hmmm. Beware there's a huge drama coming next. Lot's of fight, courtroom battles, people calling each other bitches. Everything is coming soon.So stay put.

[Jarett]

You're a homewrecker. Good job, you must feel really good about yourself. You're an easy girl who gets used for sex. Congrats!

[Lance1965]

Congrats, you are now officially the homewrecker. Just what the world needs, another one.