Technically love is not a feeling but an action. They say the feelings you feel in the first 2 years, even more, is infatuation. I would agree after several long term relationship. So in a sense, don't worry if he loves you because even if he thinks he does, he doesn't. But he may understand one day how to truly love you. As for why you shouldn't trust what comes out in the heat of the moment, sex releases Oxytocin which makes us feel a rush of connectedness. It works on men for 7 days and on women for 30 days. If you continue to be intimate with someone, it can keep you feeling love and blind or dismissive to issues in the relationship. Real love
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I would like to think so. How long ago was this? If you've both said it to each other now surely you'll start saying it outside of sex too?
I think you rushed completely. Even him saying I love you during sex is so rushy. I think its the attraction mostly. Just be cautious
He might have meant it at that moment, because when a couple gets physical with each other, the feelings of attraction sorta peak.
But you'll have to see how he behaves afterwards, when you two hang out again, over time, to really determine if he still loves/likes you when sexual desire is no longer in control.
That's kinda partially why I don't really like physical intimacy to come into the picture so early, because it confuses your feelings.
Damn I hate sex talk! I would say though that he's embarrassed it slipped out. Usually when you say it for the first time it's best to do it outside of anything sexual.
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Hard to say. Good sex can be really intoxicating and we end up doing and saying things we normally don't.
i would be wary if he only says it during sex. during sex emotionally our senses are heightened so it's clear he loves that physical intimacy and it's fine that he says it during sex... but I'd definitely take it with somewhat a grain of salt and would want to hear him say the same thing when you two aren't having sex.
There is truth to it however the feeling was strongly influenced by all the pleasure and intimacy of the moment so he is more likely to say such things. I know because i always get the urge to say it as well during those circumstances but ill hold back if its not the case (Friends with benefits scenario).
Like many other said, there is probably truth in it but wait until he confirms it outside of the bedroom when he is thinking more clearly.I wouldn't take that too seriously. It's kind of like when people say something when they're drunk. Did they really mean it, or was it the sex/alcohol talking? Wait until you have a quiet moment together, not getting it on, then ask him if he really meant it.
Why don't you ask himself?
In bed, men/women can say everything :)) my love, my hero, my weirdo, my pussy, my sassy, rrrr, meow, etc. Lol :))See, there's the predicament. It really depends on how he acts when you guys AREN'T having sex. I know during one-night stands, many guys will say that, but obviously aren't sincere.
For me at least, it takes the extra intimacy of sex before I can bring myself to say a lot of things. Since there are so many other things that he could have said, I think you have to believe he really meant it, at least at the time.
He really shouldn't have said it during sex the first time he said it! wtf? I don't know what to tell you, I do often say "I love you" to my wife during sex but I certainly said it away from the bedroom the first time.
I don't think. It may be a sexy talk during the action. mens are different.. when they close they don't know what they talking about. but if he trying to understand you , try to help you and trying to protect you that mean he loves you.
I would pay more attention to his actions and what they say.
he might just be saying that the sex is great. not to say that he wouldn´t also mean it literally. it´s not unlikely but you shouldn´t take it for granted.
He loves you because you're putting out. He loves you because you were fulfilling his sexual needs. It is his hormones and being caught up in the moment.
If he said I love you outside of sex on regular bases he actually loves u.The passionate sex got to him. But its just words for now.
Yes. He loves what you're doing right now. If he says it after its a little more believable.
It's surprisingly easy to let it slip out in the heat of the moment in sex. You should talk to him about it.
yeah since you put it that way then I guess he actually does
If he says that ONLY during sex, then it doesn't count.
Means the sex is boom and he wants to ensure he gets it again.
I think so and congratulations. Seems like a great relationship. :)
Its just sex talk. I won't take it to heart if i were u
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