If he says 'I love you' during sex, does he really mean it?

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My boyfriend and I have only been in a relationship for about a month but we've known one another for a good 3-4 months prior. I met him at an event and we clicked since than. We spoke on friendly terms, then things got heated. I told him how I felt and he reciprocated to tell me how he feels. We are both very happy. We began to get sexual pretty soon and it's amazing. We can't keep our hands off one another when we're around eachother. The sex is extremely passionate and the other day for the first time he told me he loved me during sex. It was nice, like a movie scene and all but I was reluctant at first to say it back, even though I did anyway. He likes to 'sex talk' during sex so I'm not sure if it was just one of those... but when I said it back, he held me tight and kissed me. He has never said it before and he didn't say it afterwards. Does he really mean it?

Tula1 · Accepted Answer

Technically love is not a feeling but an action. They say the feelings you feel in the first 2 years, even more, is infatuation. I would agree after several long term relationship. So in a sense, don't worry if he loves you because even if he thinks he does, he doesn't. But he may understand one day how to truly love you. As for why you shouldn't trust what comes out in the heat of the moment, sex releases Oxytocin which makes us feel a rush of connectedness. It works on men for 7 days and on women for 30 days. If you continue to be intimate with someone, it can keep you feeling love and blind or dismissive to issues in the relationship. Real love

Suhmer · Accepted Answer

I would like to think so. How long ago was this? If you've both said it to each other now surely you'll start saying it outside of sex too?

savvyridley · Accepted Answer

I think you rushed completely. Even him saying I love you during sex is so rushy. I think its the attraction mostly. Just be cautious

koibito · Accepted Answer

He might have meant it at that moment, because when a couple gets physical with each other, the feelings of attraction sorta peak.

But you'll have to see how he behaves afterwards, when you two hang out again, over time, to really determine if he still loves/likes you when sexual desire is no longer in control.

That's kinda partially why I don't really like physical intimacy to come into the picture so early, because it confuses your feelings.

pervertedjester · Accepted Answer

Damn I hate sex talk! I would say though that he's embarrassed it slipped out. Usually when you say it for the first time it's best to do it outside of anything sexual.

truthbeknown · Answer

Hard to say. Good sex can be really intoxicating and we end up doing and saying things we normally don't.

madhatters4 · Answer

i would be wary if he only says it during sex. during sex emotionally our senses are heightened so it's clear he loves that physical intimacy and it's fine that he says it during sex... but I'd definitely take it with somewhat a grain of salt and would want to hear him say the same thing when you two aren't having sex.

sawno · Answer

There is truth to it however the feeling was strongly influenced by all the pleasure and intimacy of the moment so he is more likely to say such things. I know because i always get the urge to say it as well during those circumstances but ill hold back if its not the case (Friends with benefits scenario).

Like many other said, there is probably truth in it but wait until he confirms it outside of the bedroom when he is thinking more clearly.

Anonymous · Answer

I wouldn't take that too seriously. It's kind of like when people say something when they're drunk. Did they really mean it, or was it the sex/alcohol talking? Wait until you have a quiet moment together, not getting it on, then ask him if he really meant it.

Petrichor · Answer

Why don't you ask himself?  In bed, men/women can say everything :)) my love, my hero, my weirdo, my pussy, my sassy, rrrr, meow, etc. Lol :))

Victoria963 · Answer

See, there's the predicament. It really depends on how he acts when you guys AREN'T having sex. I know during one-night stands, many guys will say that, but obviously aren't sincere.

Laowai · Answer

For me at least, it takes the extra intimacy of sex before I can bring myself to say a lot of things. Since there are so many other things that he could have said, I think you have to believe he really meant it, at least at the time.

MisterWhiskey · Answer

He really shouldn't have said it during sex the first time he said it! wtf? I don't know what to tell you, I do often say "I love you" to my wife during sex but I certainly said it away from the bedroom the first time.

karenclaudine · Answer

I don't think. It may be a sexy talk during the action. mens are different.. when they close they don't know what they talking about. but if he trying to understand you , try to help you and trying to protect you that mean he loves you.

littlemissemma · Answer

I would pay more attention to his actions and what they say.

genericname85 · Answer

he might just be saying that the sex is great. not to say that he wouldn´t also mean it literally. it´s not unlikely but you shouldn´t take it for granted.

Anonymous · Answer

He loves you because you're putting out. He loves you because you were fulfilling his sexual needs. It is his hormones and being caught up in the moment.

If he said I love you outside of sex on regular bases he actually loves u.

abundantlyrich · Answer

The passionate sex got to him. But its just words for now.

Luv2BRealExotic13 · Answer

Yes. He loves what you're doing right now. If he says it after its a little more believable.

ConsultantIsBack · Answer

It's surprisingly easy to let it slip out in the heat of the moment in sex. You should talk to him about it.

pharaoh_lover48118 · Answer

yeah since you put it that way then I guess he actually does

Prof_Don · Answer

If he says that ONLY during sex, then it doesn't count.

allahu_snackbar · Answer

Means the sex is boom and he wants to ensure he gets it again.

SarahsSummer · Answer

I think so and congratulations. Seems like a great relationship. :)

slyFoxy · Answer

Its just sex talk. I won't take it to heart if i were u

Anonymous · Answer

Never Say I Love You For The Very First Time.
Your Relationship Is New, I Have To Question If He Was Sincere Especially If He Has Not Said It Since.
He Was Caught Up In The Heat Of Passion During Sex Is My Thought.

COCOCHANEL · Answer

i have been in the same situation a few times. like you i was reluctant to reply.  i also wondered if he meant it. i still don't know but think maybe he felt it at that moment.

Eternallylucky · Answer

He probably means it if it's a deeply personal thing that's rarely mentioned on his side. :)

Anonymous · Answer

It is possible he means it but remember you are both in the heat of the moment.

tayoker · Answer

When i was 14 i was saying to my hand i love you. ... you get what m saying here.. right?

chrisbigman · Answer

I would say, typically yes. But our society isn't exactly typical - in certain ways.

Anonymous · Answer

In this context I think "I love you" really means "I love having sex with you".

pooper89 · Answer

I would wait until he says it while not during sex

Anonymous · Answer

It depends, some guys really mean it.

PhilX · Answer

That means he wants to order Chinese food, simple

thotramus · Answer

we guys are literals. we mean what we say.

Anonymous · Answer

How would we know. We don't know the guy

Mesonfielde · Answer

He probably did.

Anonymous · Answer

Just due to Orgasms and lust he said this

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