I don't belive him when he says I love you?

[Ajdjdbsj]

We've known each other for 9 months and been dating for 3. Unfortunately, I don't believe him when he says he loves me and I'm the only woman most important to him. he often talks about his former partners. one in particular, he was in love with for 10 years and they were together for 4 years, but she treated him more as a friend because they had never slept together. I think he still has feelings for her and if she gave him a chance he would come back to her. Does it make sense to continue and live with the thought of a possible breakup?

[genericname85]

do you have this issue with this guy or generally?

[Ajdjdbsj]

I think it's hard for me trust but after what he said and how he did it and what his colleagues said. I don't know he could fall out of love so quickly

[genericname85]

9 months is really not a long time. but anyway it sounds like this guy was in the friendzone of that girl and didn't even have a chance to get out. i would say every man has that. don't fall for the delusion that you're ever gonna be the "best imaginable mate" for someone. you'll never be that. relationship is always about settling and deciding to be loyal. it's not an infinite hunt for the best. you won't be the best he ever met. but that's fine. as long as he otherwise treats you right and it's not just your feeling of insecurity messing shit up.