I wish I had a wife SO BADLY. Where is she?

[Anonymous]

I am turning 29 and never even had a real girlfriend. I wonder sometimes if it is even worth it at this point because I am nearing my 30s. Me and my future wife can no longer say we knew each other during our youth. We won't have those "roots". It is not as sweet and sentimental.

I would want a woman without a romantic past where we can be each other's first real relationship and only.

[AaronKrieger]

Stop overthinking it and wanting bullshit stuff like a woman without a romantic past, so you can be eath other's "first real relationship." Relationships are largely casual and not that dramatic. Also, it's just very unnecessary to want that.

Just do these things:
- Put effort into your looks and improving your life.

- Prioritize your career right now

- If you find someone you're interested in, then put yourself out there

- Don't be desperate to be with someone or to have a wife, since compatibility/chemistry should be the priority.

[Anonymous]

you do know that none of that matters at the end of the day, right? the all "not getting married before 30" "not knowing future wife while young", stupid shit like that. it doesn't even matter... that's not even what love or marriage is about (age limit, how long you've known them). i think you're way too warped with a fairy tale. that's just not how real life is. the whole "i don't want a woman with a romantic past, she has to be my first" is just SO unrealistic and honestly kind of RUDE... seriously you are limiting yourself and for what? you'll continue going on like this because you are so limiting. it makes no sense, honestly.

[Asker]

Because what if someone from her youth was meant for her after all and it would be a sweeter, more desirable love story and outcome if she were to be with him instead of me? Also, you don't quite love the same way like you do your first. There is that saying, "you will always have a special place in your heart for your first love."

[Asker]

... plus, I don't like to think she has fond memories of some other guy she was intimate with.

[Opinion Owner]

your "what if's" are ruining your future. seriously. this random girl in the future doesn't know you even exist yet, it's not fair to her to not get intimate with others because of you. again, you will continue on like this if you don't let your fairy tale go... women are not objects. they have a past too, even if they don't have "first loves" or "first whatevers". first loves end for a reason...

[Asker]

I just cannot see myself being able to get over a woman's romantic past. I almost had a girl like this. She was 17 and I was 25 when we met. My heart was shredded when she met some other guy and married him. He got to he her first everything.

[Opinion Owner]

get over it.

[Asker]

I don't want to settle for less

[PBandJ_Nerd]

I'm not sure where she'd be. I don't even know where my future partner is at but I'm 24. I spend time with my friends though so I can't say too much, as I'm understanding why it's nice to be single.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

Some say you can wish in one hand & shit in the other see which one fills up quicker & others say be careful what you wish for because you might just get it. Nowadays wives are waiting to be found & wives can order wives from catalogs too. If you want a wife badly I’m sure you can find one online or elsewhere however she might have a sausage.

Marriage is like a hurricane there is a lot of blowing in the beginning & when it’s all said & done your house is gone.

Best of luck buddy!

[Asker]

I crave intimacy, companionship, and yes, sex. Although, I don't want to give my heart to a woman who has loved some other guy before me, especially when she was young.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

Like The Rolling Stones song You Can’t Always Get What You Want. As for you if you want to meet people you have to get out & greet people & if you don’t want to get out & greet people feel free to hump your fist, hahaha.

[KrakenAttackin]

@southernwhiteman. You want what every man wants in a woman's, but this is Disney shit bruh. Women are much more cruel, deceptive, and far less empathetic than we have been led to believe. Modern women are incredibly dangerous. Use caution.

[AviatorTom]

There are plenty of pop up ads for foreign women who want to be your wife.

[KrakenAttackin]

GO OVERSEAS. Don't settle for an American female who has been run through more times than a yellow light, has no morals, has probably had an abortion, and has ZERO idea (or care) how to be a wife and mother.

[Asker]

"Run through more times than a yellow light" ... hahaha you just made my day with that one

[KrakenAttackin]

@southernwhiteman. The average western female has 12 different sexual partners just through four years of college. This is just the number they admit to and does not include sexual partners before or after. So a girl who is say 25 probably has around 20 sexual partners, easy.

[inhua]

finding a good woman is like finding a needle in a haystack. every time you think you're getting close, someone else finds them first and you're back to square one again

[LazerBean]

Nobody who you would want wants you. Just accept that and lower your standards, because you have nothing to offer.

[Asker]

What would I have to offer to find the woman I want so badly?

[LazerBean]

The opposite of everything you are.

[Asker]

Can you elaborate a little more please? I am a techie and very talented and smart. Would that mean I'd have to be blue collar and dumb?

[LazerBean]

You clearly aren't smart. So we can start with start being smart, and stop being feminine, whiney, weak, no morals, fat, lazy, mentally ill, perverted. Once you get that done (which we both know you never will) we can continue.

[Asker]

If you actually knew me in person, I am friendly, loving, and kind. You would know I can create elaborate web applications. I am skilled in a wide array of different technologies, programming languages, libraries, frameworks, and tools.

[Asker]

... also, I am on the Autistic Spectrum, and it seems you like to single me out and pick on me, which is very hateful.

[LazerBean]

Being truthful when you spam the same question isn't hateful. If you don't want the truth then don't ask.

[KatherineJ]

I think your expectations for a future girlfriend and yourself are unrealistic.

[Asker]

Why? I seek a woman with the same inexperience as me, which is a fair request. I can always date women who are several years younger.

[KatherineJ]

I wish you luck, but I think you are going to be disappointed.

[KrakenAttackin]

@KatherineJ. He basically doesn't want a woman who has been run through and you say that's unrealistic. Lesson learned, go overseas.

[HollyK21]

@KrakenAttackin being “ran through” is one thing, but OP says he wants a woman without a romantic past at all. It’s not impossible but it will be difficult for him to find a woman without a single partner in their past. He’s been told this each time he re-posts some version of this question.

[KatherineJ]

@KrakenAttackin you assume that all women are loose morally. What I am saying is that nearly all women in his age group have dated romantically. So yes, it’s unrealistic.

[Asker]

@KatherineJ you are talking about my age group. What if I date younger, let's say early 20s?

[KatherineJ]

@southernwhiteman unless she was in a convent, I think she will have probably dated.

[msc545]

Life is not a romance nove as I told you before. You, like the rest of us, will need to forget "sweet and sentimental" and take what you can get with who you can get it from. Everyone of legal age has a romantic past - deal with it.

[sheikalana]

Keep looking for her. She's out there waiting for you too.

[DextroShade]

You will need to get your money up enough to go overseas.

[BlackJeep]

Get on an international dating site and travel.

Don't be desperate

[Anonymous]

If you had one, you would understand why most married men tell younger men to never get married.

[Sitaraxx]

why?

[Opinion Owner]

@Sitaraxx because marriage only benefits women. Divorce also only benefits women and is initiated by women in 80+% of cases because they leave the second the guy no longer serves her needs.

[BatsinCaves9]

I’d suggest you read a book called, “The Rational Male” by Rollo Tomassi.

[Jmmmfi4]

Thats exactly how I feel

[Asker]

At least someone else can see through my lense. Yeah, when me and a woman meet not, she has been there and done that and we are grown.

[Asker]

... it doesn't feel the same as if we were to share our young years together. We would be expected to be more mature at this point.

[Jmmmfi4]

I agree 100 percent

[msc545]

Unfortunately, we cannot reverse time and return to our younger selves and innocence. Time flows on no matter what we do. I understand your wish for things to be different, but like all of us you have a limited amount of time on earth - don't waste it like this.

[exitseven]

Don't give up hope.