How do you deal with people who don't listen or understand?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

You get loud, and you repeat it until they can hear you. My Dad had an extremely deep dominant voice. And if someone dared try his patience and disrespect him. OH, HE’D USE THAT TRAIT OF HIS 😬

His voice was so darn deep in fact. That if you tried him or disrespected him. He would almost literally sound like Thunder. If he lost it, it would sound like literal Thunder⚡️ inside the house. Everyone in the house knew to respect him and respond to him.

If this person is your partner and she’s using her phone as a weapon against you like to ignore you and shut you out. She’s not that into you. Or she’s entitled. Basically she wears the pants and runs the relationship. If I were a guy in that situation, honestly I’d yank the phone out of her weak little hands. Grab her by her arms, showing her my physical strength. And tell her what you need to tell he’s looking her in the eye.

“ You will respect me and respond to me. If you can’t do that. This is will be over.” Let me know so that I don’t have to waste anymore time”

Then return the phone, and leave the house for a week. Take a week break. A 5-day break. During the break it’ll show you wether this person is worth staying with.

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

I find if you tolerate and accept people and benefit them in how you treat them, they usually return the deed and begin to accept and appreciate you as well. Being nice and honest is more effective than being smart, which is why babies and dogs get more attention when they are dumber than any adult you might talk to.

Jaarraduun · Accepted Answer

It really depends on the individual I'm talking to. At work, I've always found a way to still get our work done regardless of people who won't listen or who just troll you pretending they don't know what you mean. Not everyone acts like that, of course. But I've dealt with my fair share of each. Depending on their personality and if their purposefully being a butt, or not depends on if I talk it out with them, or if I immediately go to the boss until they do something about it. Often times, they will, as they know what kind of worker I am. But I've had a few jobs in the past that don't give a damn about you or anyone else, so they will tell you what you want to hear before shooing you away. I don't tolerate that, so any time that's happened repeatedly, I'll find a new job and leave.

If it's people I know personally, I'll always talk it out with them. Sometimes people just have off days, which is to be expected to an extent. But if it's a completely stranger? Say your piece if that's your thing, otherwise remove yourself from the situation. It's often times just not worth the wasted time or energy.

Sonorous · Accepted Answer

Really depends on the scenario. If a task requires that they listen & understand then I just remind them of the goal while kinda going through the run down at the same time.

I might say something like:

"I believe what I'm saying makes sense & matters because our goal is __________. If our goal was something else, something like __________, then what I'm saying wouldn't apply. But since our goal is to __________, this seems like a reasonable course of action to take."

And if they don't respond well to that, then I'll treat it by a case by case basis. Some people are worth spending more mental energy on than others.

DaveJord · Answer

Its one thing when the don't listen.
Is another thing when they don't understand.
Its a completely different thing when they don't want to listen and/or understand.

So, depending on if this a person that really wants to understand, vs. not listening, or not even caring is the difference maker.

How do you deal with them? Hell, dude I don't even know, at some point you stop caring and date them for the sex and let the relationship die on the vine, until she decides she wants to leave... and you let her go, with the beleuving it was her decision to leave, even though you checked out weeks ago.

Screenwriter · Answer

You walk the other way. If this is a longtime repeated pattern, this is the way this person is and nothing you can do will make them change. You can certainly mention how it affects you, but my guesstimate is that it's a personality flaw and they won't apologize or change.

Might be narcissism. Good luck.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

As soon as I realize the other person is too stubborn to have a conversation that is rewarding or beneficial to either one of us, I either start fucking with them change my approach in the conversation to where I'm asking questions and the other person is answering them or I just let them keep going because it's not worth my energy.

Chevy1_kb · Answer

I hate people that dont understand or listen no matter how many times you tell them or talk they dont understand its so annoying honestly the only one who understands myself is me but trying to tell someone if they dont understand or listen its fkn pisses me off

ohsheeT · Answer

Well most people do listen and most people do understand the thing is

That when certain people tell them things and they want them to listen and understand it's usually because they're trying to manipulate them or talk them into something and they're not doing it so then they ask questions like this to get help to try to manipulate them even a different way

ta-ra · Answer

I would attempt to have an adult conversation with this individual if they chose to be ignorant and childish I would move on. If that person can't respect me or try to get on the same page as me then why waste my time? No point.

mobiusforniner · Answer

I walk away.  You see, stupid people are like death. When you're dead, you dont know you are dead. Its a pain only felt by other people. Same thing happens when you're stupid.

Anonymous · Answer

depends, with my new job im being told one thing verbally its good and everything is right then when it comes to signing off the work the same person is saying its wrong and be a fail. its not that I've changed anything.

Sour-rose · Answer

If it's my mom, try, try again. If it's a stranger, aw fk off. I'm done.

inhua · Answer

keep stating facts until they give up and make a fool of themselves with their emotions

Wonderingguyy · Answer

Stop dealing with them. There’s no point trying to explain yourself and having to justify everything you do is sooo draining

catarecute · Answer

stop telling them stuff. they have the right to think and live how they want.

artgorgeous · Answer

Don't argue with them. Let them learn on their own mistakes.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

All you can do is limit your interactions with them.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

I attempt to get them to understand, if they cannot no matter what I do, I block them.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

I'll repeat myself after they've taken the fall that I was trying to protect them from.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Don't listen: walk away Don't understand: that could be on me for not explaining it well, so I try to be clearer.

Iron_Man · Answer

You can only do so much the rest is up to them. Sometimes people have to learn the hard way on their own to realize.

Reorx · Answer

I make it obvious I no longer take them seriously & find the flimsiest of excuses to depart from them.

Djaay · Answer

What happens when maybe they have the greater understanding and your the very one not understanding or listening?

Anonymous · Answer

Give them precise instructions, and a procedure to follow.

Anonymous · Answer

Really you don't especially online or Twitter! Let them be dumb and fool hearted!

Anonymous · Answer

What’s the context that I have to deal with them? Training them at work? Roommate? Friends?  Your question is incomplete

crylushx · Answer

You can't. Its either they want to listen or they dont.

ilysm19 · Answer

Every word spoken to the ignorant is wood thrown into the fire.  ~Tolstoy

NotTacocaT6969 · Answer

Stop talking to them.

scentoflavender · Answer

I don't. I've learned that the hard way.

slatyb · Answer

As little as possible.

Al_Musafir · Answer

Stop dealing with them?

Peter_Penetrator · Answer

I am sorry, what was that you were asking?

Jazzy54 · Answer

I don’t. It’s a waste of my time and energy.

exitseven · Answer

After a while I ignore them

Anonymous · Answer

Hit them with a socket wrench

aquamarine321 · Answer

It’s hard to say, because I’m like that sometimes

Alex8736 · Answer

simply by not dealing with them

Anonymous · Answer

I wash my hands of them.

ChooChooHaha · Answer

Eventually I don't.

Anonymous · Answer

Leave them alone

Anonymous · Answer

I don't

Luopio27 · Answer

Forget them.

Anonymous · Answer

Choke 💀

London1999 · Answer

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