What makes a partner too immature for a relationship?

[Anonymous]

Honestly, I’m not mature enough to be in one myself because of my personality and mentality.
But, what are your opinions?

[ohsheeT]

I'm not really for sure
I think if two people start out as friends and they know each other then when something kind of snaps or starts going the wrong direction there has to be like a timeout word or something to say wait a minute that's not go here or just breathe for a few minutes

I don't know I find myself kind of not upset but just kind of sad that you don't try because I think you're really missing out on something beautiful and I mean you know everything there is to know about you and you know what triggers you but every time you ask a question I see growth except for in this one area but I don't know
. I'll figure it out because I would love to see you in a relationship I think if you were to just let go all of your anxiety and negative stuff that you harbor inside that you'd probably be a pretty fun person to hang out with but you're getting there I can tell

[Asker]

If I wasn’t a fun person to hang out with, I wouldn’t have friends at all.

[ohsheeT]

I think that you probably are a lot of fun to hang out with

[Asker]

I wish I can have that positivity. But, something tells me that I won’t be accepted by any guy. And this feeling won’t go away.

[ohsheeT]

Well I hear what you're saying but I have to tell you

I used to know that something but I kept asking myself who is something what is something

And then I realized that something was a negative something kept me from growing and experiencing so I kicked something out of my life I didn't want it around me anymore something doesn't make the decision for me I'll make the decisions myself

So you got to step into it with both feet

And whatever happens happens if I'm not accepted from somebody that's a good thing because that just means that I probably don't want to be around them anyway because that just means we're nothing to like it's not a bad thing it's a positive

And the odds are they just seen it before I did so I thank them for not accepting me in a roundabout way it's not that big of a deal

I meet new people each and every day sometimes right off the get-go it can be an instant friendship because we accepted each other because of the things that we like

There are times where I will meet somebody and we are like oil and water and whether they accept me or not it doesn't really matter because I know somewhere down deep it's not going to work anyway

We all like to be like too we all like to be accepted because when we're not we feel that we are out of place we are the odd ones but that's the furthest from the truth in a roundabout way and it is the truth in the roundabout way and there's nothing wrong with being yourself I don't care if anybody in this world likes me it's easier for me if everybody hates me because that way I don't have to deal with them but whatever happens happens it doesn't mean that I'm any different from anybody else it just means I am myself and I accept who I am I love myself and if other people don't do that or show me that they care it's not a bad thing as long as I remember who I am I don't take it to heart somebody doesn't like me I might ask myself why but that's just one question it lasts for a split second and I move on

[Asker]

Sorry, but I just can’t do it. I’m not in a good place to be with anyone, and I never will be. As much as I want to find someone, it’s never going to happen.

[Asker]

Whoever my future partners is, he deserves someone better and who has their shit together.

[ohsheeT]

Well I understand and I respect that.
You definitely know yourself way better than I do

[ohsheeT]

Well maybe don't go into it looking at it as a partner maybe just go into it looking at it as a friend and whatever happens happens that way there's no pressure on anybody

[Asker]

I prefer just to have friends. If said guy wanted more, it wouldn’t be fair to him. I would want him to find someone else.

[ohsheeT]

Well that takes a big person to say that and honestly mean it I think that's cool that you can do that but you have to let go sometimes and maybe be selfish if that's what it's called I don't think so but you need to have fun too that's what growing each and every day is all about acknowledging being honest accepting and experimenting experience things I think you're a good person no matter what I can see where you're coming from and you're just like everybody else in the world we all have something that holds us back and either we put that roadblock in front of us so we don't get hurt or nobody else gets hurt which is a good idea probably or sometimes we just safe I'm going for it LOL and explain your situation and live life

[Asker]

I just don’t want my future partner to regret his decision and think I’m a horrible person. It’s why I’m going to stay single. I don’t want him to wait on me either if he decides to stay.
Honestly, I think this would be for the best.

[LemiaOfThunder]

Not understand how it works in a realtionship

[LemiaOfThunder]

Thanks for the mho

[petitedollbabee]

Doesn’t respect boundaries, quick to jump to accusations - “you’re cheating on me!” when all the other person did is go out to buy a coffee, apologises for everything but never changes their behaviour, has no empathy for the other person - all they think about is themself, very self destructive and mentally ill and expects you to encourage or join in on their behaviour instead of calling them out on it, has no financial independency and expects you to baby them and take care of them without it being mutually agreed upon.

[Violeta_54]

Sasha can we talk?

[Asker]

Sure we can

[Violeta_54]

I send you message