Isn't it hard to grow up without love?

Question

Love is the greatest need. Isn't it very difficult for a child to grow up without the love, care and affection of his parents? What kind of person will a child who grows up like this be in the future?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Honestly, I don't blame people but some people are without parents. Some have parents who don't love them.

Anyhow, I will tell you the story of my cousin and Aunt. Her husband my uncle had died long before my own birth. Ever since then she used to live with Grandfather and then when he died with my father.

She died in 2021 while my father couldn't attend the funeral. Anyhow, my cousins were all well taken care of by my father. My Aunt didn't earn which was normal but my father took care of all her expenses and my cousin's expenses and marriage expenses and the education even up to Masters degree. And according to my father my Aunt spent like crazy with both hands and raised the very foundations of the house. One time when my cousin got angry he said to my father if his father was still alive he would have gotten him what he wanted. My father told him back, "if he was alive, may be you might have been in a poor condition ".

Even after that my cousin's used to show resentment towards him even though my father was the one who gave them everything. I know this for a fact that I got less money than them as my mother used to not complain and live with whatever father gave her. I have not found a woman that has been like that so far anyways.

So, he doesn't expect anything in return except from Allah. Nor do I expect anything from them. But the story is just a lesson that even with all the love and care if a person wants they will find misery and even with less care a person can find happiness and love he or she can imagine. There is no guarantee if your parents are alive that you will be happy and no guarantee if your parents are not alive then you will be miserable.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Me, I am the Test subject to the experiments you are not talking about!..

- Father being posted far away wasn't around much, he tried his best with inconsistent love.

- I am Middle child so I was forgotten, elder got father's support, younger got father's Love.

- My Both brother were good in academics and I barely passed in school, so they were showered with Love and me with curse words, beating and punishment.

- Since both brother's were good at academics and I was bad, even in school they were praised and i can compared to them and insulted by the teachers.

Congrats you found a test subject!.. Common traits are

- Incapable of expressing or regulating emotions.

- A big boulder of commitment issues.

- Lack Social skills and Anti-social.

- lacks Empathy, has no filter with words and capable of turning my emotions off, it was essential so i don't kill myself.

Now send your questions any and every, I will enjoy Answering 😇 finally some purpose for my life!..

Twincapersredmomma · Accepted Answer

That’s hard to say

I didn’t grow up in a loving house. I grew up poor, hungry and abused

So I can’t really speak to what’s it’s like to grow up with love.

I will say that neither are a guarantee to be happy later in life. If you let your childhood define you, regardless of what it looks like, you’ll be stagnant.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Accepted Answer

It is and I am sorry about that. But don’t feel pity for yourself. Instead, give yourself all the love you lacked in childhood.

Wonderingguyy · Answer

I grew up with virtually no love for a long time. My mother loved me, but she passed away when I was 8. My dad was a monster and he also died and I ended up in foster care. It was pretty hard, and I obviously didn’t end up in a good place mentally at all. I started doing drugs at a young age and pretty much hated the world and committed crimes.
Unfortunately growing up without love being shown and knowing that people don’t care about you, is enough to drive people to really bad states.
Of course their life doesn’t always have to have a bad ending, and if they are lucky enough find people in their life that do care and love them, it can really turn life around for the better.

mobiusforniner · Answer

"I love you". Three words my mom and dad NEVER said to me. They always placed high expectations on me and is ALWAYS fell short. Was physically beaten and mentally tortured. Mom said she only has a relationship with me when im broken, crying or bleeding.

I went to college at 17 and never looked back. Now im blessed with a family and kids of my own. I tell them "i love you" every night. My daughter asks me "why daddy, i know you do". I reply, "its not to remind you, my sweetheart. Its to remind me".

Now, with my parents in their 60s, they now accuse me of being a perfectionist, an over achiever, and having no empathy for them. I dont live at home to take care of their ailing health and needs. They claim im their biggest mistake.

They created the very monster they now wish was destroyed

Break the cycle, dare to be different, and be true to yourself.

solitarysoul · Answer

omeone who grows up without love becomes a lonely person when they grow up. They don't have any friends and become socially withdrawn. They can't communicate with people and always dream of finding someone with whom they will be forever happy. I also grew up without love.

Anonymous · Answer

My mother threw me out on the street at age 13. Every so called female "authority" figure in my life has been a total htlypcrite, preached responsibility, yet ducked and ran as fast as they could at the FIRST SIGN of any difficulty. What amelazes me, is that they're SHOCKED, that I completely ignore them, and won't help or acknowledge them (White or Black American). Immigrant women have treated me nicely. I volunteer and help them and their families, giving away, in many cases, my own brand new goods for them and their kids. American females are flat sociopaths. They REALLY BELIEVE that they can shit on you, abandon you, kill their kids, tell you how worthless you are, how they don't need anyone for anything... and you'll respect them for that. If that's not self justification on par with Ted Bundy, I don't know what is.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Yep it is hard.

I can't say I'd be any different as a person had I gotten that, because my personality, goals, and interests are not influenced by how others treat me, but I'd certainly be happier, and success in various goals would be faster.

Meropatrick · Answer

I gave up on people long time ago. I have seen people who grew up with love and still are jerks. Some people grow with no love but end up good people. I believe good people loving people are born like this. And evil people even if they get all the love in the world turn to be jerks

Anonymous · Answer

I feel so sorry for those who grew up without love. I've know a few. One lady who I know from college grew up with a mom who acted like she didn't like her and gave attention to her brothers instead of her. She married an abusive guy from college, who we all said for her to avoid. After they divorced she ended up on the couch over what made her go for THAT guy.

inhua · Answer

for most people it is hard. for some it's easy when you accept the world for what it is

Unit1 · Answer

What even is love? If you know why I'm asking. Things aren't as easy living without love. I've been a ghost pretty much all my life.

Robertjo16 · Answer

I personally dont have the love of either of my parents and I'm a walking disaster so im living proof.

catarecute · Answer

a sosiopath. love is a learned emotion. if you dont feel it as a child you won't ever.

Lokiion · Answer

I mean not for me but I just adapted to it pretty fast but I assume most people won’t Yeah it would be difficult regardless you gonna be at least a little different from most people

DaBiggestBird · Answer

I’d call it cursed, that’s kind of serial killers happen.

LemiaOfThunder · Answer

Sometimes being single helps deal with the break up easier speically if its a short relationship

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Plenty of men, even men here on GAG, know exactly what it's like to grow up unloved.

Anonymous · Answer

Love makes you soft and you will find it hard when you will start not getting loved

McKellar · Answer

In a dysfunction home, you'll see very little to none of that.

Anonymous · Answer

you get used to it

jimmy2 · Answer

Yes I know I did too

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, it is

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