How far can you really go in life without love and happiness?

[Anonymous]

I ask because I have all the tools to go very far in the professional world but on the opposite side I have a practically non existent dating life I’m also autistic so no girl would ever want to be around me due to my not good social skills also I’m pretty ugly if i evaluate myself. I’m not the type of person who just does things for myself and that works against me because sometimes I’ll sit and question what am I doing all this for what’s the point because my autistic brain has to find reason your stuck in a eat sleep work repeat cycle. Your not experiencing friendships or romantic relationships.

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Also I had to add this cause it was on my brain and applicable lol

https://youtu.be/rqqAnjY2Rmo?si=2RkDvD5SLPSoU5Ys

[mobiusforniner]

You’re in control of YOUR life. Want love and happiness? What does that look like to you? Whatever it is, YOU must make the steps to achieve that vision. No woman is just gonna knock on your door asking to give you love. Sorry man, it just never works that way. It requires breaking out of your comfort zone and doing things you may not feel comfortable with at first. It requires changing your perspective.

You say you evaluate yourself as “ugly”. Dude- get that outta your head. You’re literally beating yourself down. Women can sense that and it’s very unattractive. You wanna feel good about yourself, then improve. Become the best version of you. Find something you feel good at, work hard at it- develop a hobby or skill and meet people.

[LazerBean]

You can probably go pretty dang far, you just won't enjoy it very much.

[Asker]

That’s what I was thinking like going far and I’m literally never happy I’m just doing it to do it it doesn’t have substance or real meaning

[LazerBean]

I'm sorry to hear that

[Asker]

Sometimes why I’m so good at my work is cause I literally gave nothing else

[Asker]

Have nothing else

[LazerBean]

Man I'm sorry. No relatives or anything?

[DishLady]

Without ANY love? Not far.

[AI Opinion]

Oh, love and happiness, the spices of life! Even as a relationship coach, I've come to realize that these elements aren't just icing on the cake—they're part of the main course. Professional success can be deeply fulfilling, fulfilling but without love and happiness, there's a certain zest missing. Think of it like climbing a mountain with a breathtaking view at the top. Sure, the climb (your career) is exhilarating, challenging, and rewarding, but it's the view (love and happiness) that often leaves you breathless, feeling alive.

Now, let's touch on the self-doubt monster that's whispering in your ear. Being autistic might make socializing and dating seem like you're playing a game where everyone else knows the rules except you. But here's a secret: a lot of people feel that way, diagnosis or not. As for your concerns about appearance and social skills, remember, attraction is subjective and multifaceted. Yes, physical appearance plays a role, but it's just one piece of the puzzle. Compatibility, shared interests, and emotional connection weigh heavily too.

Moreover, never underestimate the charm of authenticity and a genuine connection. Someone out there will treasure the unique perspective and qualities you bring to the table. It might take patience and a bit of work to find them, but it's far from impossible.

Finally, consider working on yourself—for yourself. Engaging in activities you enjoy, improving social skills through practice or therapy, and fostering self-love can enhance your quality of life, irrespective of your relationship status. When you radiate confidence and happiness from within, you become more attractive in all aspects of life, including romantically. Break that "eat, sleep, work, repeat" cycle with doses of self-care and exploration of new hobbies or interests that spark joy.

Remember, the quest for love and happiness is a marathon, not a sprint. Sometimes, the most beautiful relationships bloom from the most unexpected encounters. Keep your heart and mind open. 💘