Can you be happy if you have everything but love?

[Anonymous]

I pretty much made it big in my life. I had a pretty shitty childhood and by hard work, step by step, I managed to make my life worthy. I have a huge success in career and I'm very proud of myself that I was able to pull that off, giving the circumstances and everything. I love my job and I love it that it pays good because I'm able to take care of my family and people that I love and also for donations. I get to have and do everything that I love; to travel, to live in luxury, to meet bunch of people, etc. People say that I'm very good looking. Everything in my life is just amazing and I am well aware of that... but I'm still not happy. I should be, I know that. But I know why I'm unhappy, it's because I can't remember the last time a man really loved me. It's been too many years. I'm full of love and I want a meaningful relationship, but I guess it's just not meant to be for me. All guys do is use me. I'm not even picky, I just have this really shitty bad luck when it comes to love. Then I look around me and everything else that I have and I feel ashamed that I'm even crying for something like love. This didn't bother me much when I was younger because I always had work to improve and stuff to upgrade, like goals and stuff. Now that I achieved almost all of my goals, I feel so lonely. I realized nothing matters if there's no love. Love is the ultimate happiness and I'd trade everything in a heartbeat for love. What do you think?

[BCRanger10]

Well first off, you should be happy with all that you've accomplished in spite of your previous life difficulties. Or rather, you should take pride in these accomplishments. Maslow's hierarchy of human needs starts with self-love and self-actualization. It sounds like you (generally) have self-actualization down.

If this is the experience you've had with men though, then maybe you should reevaluate what kind of man you're looking for. Maybe you should he a little more picky.

Know what you want and need in a relationship from a man. To do that, you need to know your own strengths and weaknesses. Know what makes you feel loved and how you want to express your love to him. Do you know what your main love language is?

I think what you ought to do is take at least six months off from dating. If you have a profile on a dating site, shut it down. Don't suspend it, but close it down completely. I did this myself last year and it really helped me. Take some time to get to know yourself better and what you want and need in a relationship. Know what defines a man to you and look for that after your dating fast is over.

And it's easy for me to say, as I am a practicing Roman Catholic, but I would recommend that you wait until you get married to have sex again. You've been hurt a lot before and you don't want to set yourself up for that again. I think you'd avoid a lot of that drama if you waited.

I hope this all helps.

[Anonymous]

It might be because I'm only a year into being single and enjoying it. Though I think it is possible to be happy without love. I was a bit sad with the ending of my last relationship. I just had to find a new purpose in life. I ended up filling the void with hobbies, goals, personal projects, and of course close friends. I spend time on things I enjoy and my friends are the people who I share it with. I'm loving being single and the freedom and time that comes with it.

However if it's love that you desire I believe you should keep looking. There are a lot of great single guys out there who also want love and a wife. I say keep on looking. It may get hard sometimes but keep trying. In the mean time find something for yourself that could fill that void. I do think it's possible to find love but you can't let that void take over and destroy your happiness.

I wish you the best at both finding happiness and love.

[lolurjokingrite]

I personally could not. I could work a shitty job I hate that makes minimum wage and I'd be happy if I could come home at the end of the day to my dearest. I could work the best job ever that has all the best perks and highest pay and the coolest coworkers and come home to an empty apartment and feel depressed and bereft. People tell me that I'm too young to care so much about it and that I should focus on my career and not be concerned by shitty guys (I hear you on the guys who just wanna use you, fyi), but I agree: love is the ultimate happiness. It's just so hard to find, sadly.

[Hidden_P]

I think this was mostly a brag about how successful and gorgeous you.

Some of us aren't so lucky. Some of us had shit upbringings, shit middles, shit currents despite how hard we worked.

If you are so successful and happy you could help others who weren't so blessed.

[Anonymous]

You have expecatations those will ruin everything. Let it go usually when ur not thinking about something that's when it pops up.

[Streamhopper]

Money can't buy love, neither can success. Love is an elusive creature; it's not one that can be easily captured. It takes work; in many ways, much more than the work you put in to get your success. And now that you are successful, it's even more difficult. It's not at all that you can't achieve it; you certainly can. But you have to be willing to let it take its course on its own; let it peek out from whatever window it decides to show itself from. And it will, but at a time of its choosing, because that's the way love works.

[NightlyCreature]

You are right, I experienced the same thing a while ago, I was traveling around Europe, I was visiting the most beautiful places I could think of, but none of that really matter because I had no one to share it with, I realized I could be in the top of the world, but if I was alone it didn't matter...

I really hope you do find someone who loves you as much as you love him and for you to be happy.

[Anonymous]

there's a spectrum of us single guys out there good, bad and ugly and most relatively likely to say yes if you decided to take charge the hard part for guys is chasing the hard part for you is correctly choosing a right one for you.
If your non single friends know your single maybe they know someone that would be a good match? Otherwise date share the cost since your doing well financially learn to read guys and think what groups of guys are out there who's in demand where can you compromise and where can't you and what do the guys you want want and what are you willing to do to for them to get what you want from a relationship?
Think of it as another challenge your in a better starting position financially than most.

[John_McStarrison]

I've been through a lot of things myself recently. Last year about this time, it might have seemed that I had a lot going for me, but in my heart it was all meaningless because I didn't have love. It wasn't until I had love that I regained my sense of purpose, and an accomplishment really felt like an accomplishment. A journey is always better when you have someone by your side to support you and pick you up when you're down.

[tyber1]

Okay, well you can't tell decent guys and bad guys apart from each other in romantic contexts, but can you tell decent guys apart from bad guys in a regular context? Find the guys in your life who you would consider good and trustworthy, then date the one you like the most.

[akadatank44]

Wow what an inspirational person you are. Its good to see those who come from nothing to something.
What do you do to go out and meet guys? Do you go after a certain type? Also, you don't have to date every single guy that likes you either. Go after what you want and take nothing less. You will meet someone one day it just will take take. You are relatively young and still have your whole life ahead of you. Love will come. Be patient and don't force it. Be yourself as well!

[Omar5881]

What do u mean with no love?
Life itself is love , Hawaii is love , family is love , freakin cars are love , dogs are love , food is love , (if religious ) god is love , friends are love

We just choose to IGNORE ALL THAT LOVE and just wait and be desperate for relationship love
It's good and awesome but its not everything

[tattooedhandfet]

"What is life void of love? It's not a life at all." Smokahontas
-Attack Attack

[cunningwolf22]

aww baby Ur first half of story is same with me. for second part of story. baby don't run for anything. whatever belongs to u comes to u. things get worst bfor they improve. u hv beautiful Heart. just have patience. I like u.

[Sluthater]

My life would seem meaningless if I didn't have my true love. Been together 19 years. Can't imagine life without her.

[lEat70sBush]

Probably but who cares? Both love and happiness are illusions.

[bcbrad]

True, just chemical reactions.

[GoodGuyGregGGG]

Well it depends on what you eant out of life? Do want a relationship more than your passion/Career? or vixe versa. but me personally i would rather have my passion first relationship second

[Smegskull]

same here. sat alone in a house I own with a good career. wanting for nothing but unable to smile.

side note: no such thing as bad "luck" in love, only bad choices.

[bcbrad]

This is very difficult. Beware, love comes with other emotions; fear, sadness and even anger. Just know that you are blessed and let love come to you. Its like your car keys that you can not find until you stop looking.

[chrisbigman]

No. But you don't need romantic love, either. You just need love in general, whether it's romantic or platonic.

[Trevox]

I'll spend my entire live without love, so I hope you can still be happy without it!

[Asad1ONE1]

Only partially. Can't be happy without worldly success. Can't be happy without love. Only both will do the job.

[DiegoO]

Don´t you have the love of your family? Have you seek for the love of God?

[DiegoO]

The LORD himself goes before you and will be with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged.”

Deuteronomy 31:8-9

[DiegoO]

Trust his word, believe me when I say you´ll find no greater love than God love.

[Youcef]

Life is a song and love is the music. You are singing without music 🎼

[Reddwolf]

be patient and thinks will turn around I don't know if you are religious try praying for love

[Glock18]

There is no such thing as love. don, t fool yourself

[Justinaveragedude]

All you need is love
- the beatles

[Intraluminal]

Read Das Rheingold

[Midget_Hug]

Yes. Easily.