Anyone know how to fix a broken heart?

Question

I know of nothing. Just wait in agony until time dilutes your pain.

The only good thing about a broken heart is knowing that you have a heart.

Little consolation though.

Shall I act heartless from now on so this does not repeat itself?

I'm feeling like I am loosing my mind. I can't bare it. It can become pretty hellish.

I dedicate this question to all the broken hearts out there.

b1221 · Accepted Answer

Honestly I know nothing about a broken hearth and I am still 18 but I know quite a lot about how to stop suffering as a lot of things happened in my life. Try to detach yourself from it. This is extremely hard and for me it took years to do it but once I did I am finally doing good. Now what do I mean by detachment? I mean that you should detach the "How are you doing?" question from "How are you feeling" and also detach "What is happening in you life?" from both of these questions. This is a very simple explanation and it does not explain exactly what it is but you will have to figure it out yourself (sorry there is no shortcut, I was looking for shortcuts for years and it lead me nowhere). When you manage to somewhat do this you will be able to confidently be able to say that I am doing great while also being able to say that you are sad at the same time. Also this does not mean that you should become emotionless. After you achieve this whatever happens in your life the question "How are you doing?" will always have the same answer and you will be "happy"(also keep in mind that it is not possible to detach yourself completely but you can detach yourself to the point of keeping you mental wellbeing somewhat stable). Another option is to seek professional help and I really advise you to do so if your current situation bad. I hope you will get better soon.

TheorionMage · Accepted Answer

Falling "in love" is investing in a cherished fantasized ideal outcome. This is fine PROVIDING its reciprocal. When a disparity between the parties grows, the difference in 'shared' perceptions generates friction and irritation resulting in a psychological and physical estrangement and distancing. This attachment is RARELY 'equal'. There is ALWAYS the 'Lover' and the idealized 'Beloved'.The presence of 'the Beloved' provides the stimulus for the psychological release of Endorphins of Dopamine, Serotonin and other potentially ADDICTING neurochemistry; the ABSENCE ceases its psychological AFFECT and a pharmacological withdrawal response begins. The 'higher' the previous pleasure, THE DEEPER its corresponding absence is felt. The simplest answer is to 'transfer' One's addiction to a NEW source of stimulation. A 'rebound' relationship. Alcohol or other drugs does not substitute... they MAY 'dull' exterior perceptions BUT... cherished memories remain internally in greater clarity. With time, your neurochemistry returns to 'normal' balance.

There IS a difference between 'Loving' and BEING 'In Love With' someone ~
You NEVER truly stop 'loving' someone. ;)

trustnoone77 · Accepted Answer

I’ve been through two of the most hurtful hurtful heartbreaking engagements. Two different stories I would take all day to tell you but what I have learned is that we always learn something from it. It makes you stronger and wiser. Work on yourself and heal. From my last relationship I am now 4 years single and I have learned to truly love myself and I won’t settle or allow no man to disrespect me anymore. I have a big heart and that hasn’t changed no matter how many times it’s been broken. Bc I know one day I will meet someone that will appreciate all of me. I know many say omg your 40 no kids or married but I’m fine because I am very attractive and I have a lot going on for myself.

Read and listen to motivational podcast and surround yourself with good people. Also pray that God gives you the strength that you need.

provokeesmokee · Accepted Answer

Calm down, focus on yourself, be gentle, and take time.

Don't let yourself fall into "teenage edgelord emo" for more than a few hours, then snap yourself back to reality.

Stay connected to reality. Meaning meet with friends irl, go and be around people, and remind yourself life isn't a My Chemical Romance song.

If you're really struggling, consider contacting a therapist. Sometimes it takes external help to get yourself out of an emotional hole.

You're in no rush to get dating again. Take your time.

AviatorTom · Answer

The BeeGees ask the same question...

Lady_Heart · Answer

I seen a lot of men change after breakup, one particular he became a player started breaking it other innocent girls hearts cuz of what happen to him. This is childish.

Every goes through pain, the best one is the one who choose to heal and still be best version of himself despite everything they went thro.

My ex agenda was to break me n destroy me mentally, he told me that himself when it didn't work. Imagine that n am still thriving thanks to god. And ofc my strong will.

So first, if u believe in god pray, don't stay alone, continue doing ur daily stuff, keep urself occupied, u will heal n move on believe me, give it time

ta-ra · Answer

I'm sorry you're hurting, my best advice is to take some time to self reflect, heal accept your pain, learn from all the mistakes and get back up better than ever. Another user said it best it isn't about how hard you fall, but how tall you stand once you get back up.

Never close your heart though. The pain hurts now but it helps us grow, learn, and evolve. May God ease your pain. Best wishes xx

OfMiceandMen · Answer

Road trip man... don't need your buddies, just go alone. The last thing I want to see is places we'd been together, so a change of scenery takes your mind off the break-up.

Doesn't hurt of you attend a party or two with some sweet little bunnies too.

Singing_Hollow · Answer

remember you are in control of your own emotions and self. Only you can deturmine the time you are willing to waste crying about someone. Distraction is key... go to gym, join a sports club and surround yourself with friends that are good for you.

rosemilk · Answer

time is all that it takes. lots of time or a little time, depending on you as a person and your emotions, your ability to heal and move on.

but really, there is no other way except time. this goes for literally everything.

catarecute · Answer

ask god for help. that's what i did when some sociopath broke my heart.

ShesRad80 · Answer

get back into the swing of life, keep focus on you and your goals and it heals, and possibly you meet another. we all been there my dude and it sucks but with time you get over it

whirled_up_girl · Answer

Sadly I don't, I do know that time can be a healer but how much time varies from person to person.

MJtheCoach · Answer

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JosyJosy · Answer

Reflection on their flaws, your flaws, the future with a healthy bit of common sense and giving yourself enough time to actually heal.

MissBoogus · Answer

Give yourself time and grace. Feel your feelings and one day, move on. Don’t let the world turn you bitter because everything is temporary and you need to keep moving forward no matter what.

SolitarySolace · Answer

Acceptance. Time. Distraction from thinking about the heartbreak. Focus on the future instead of the past.

Twalli · Answer

Next time live in the moment. Don't worry about what the future brings. Enjoy your relationship at the point in time it is. If something more is meant to happen it will.

Anonymous · Answer

In the immortal words of Betty White, transcribed to fit for men:
"The best way to get over a girl is to get over a new one".

Get a fuck buddy for a while, nothing serious. Time will heal your wounds.

electromagnetic · Answer

Try a plaster? Sometimes super glue works too. If those fail you, seek counselling. Sometimes just talking out your thoughts and feelings help.

Skull_Anon · Answer

Don fix it so that it can never be broken again ! 💀

BigRed1987 · Answer

Yup, that’s all you can do…plus distractions help (hobbies, collecting, whatever you can do) Learn new skills, workout, travel, hike, etc

MaxUsefull · Answer

Listen to Elvis

Gramkabir · Answer

Time. All you need is time. Keep yourself busy with something else and take some time.

Jkgordon · Answer

Yes love yourself and move on rejection is protection

Nikki1989 · Answer

It is not how you fall down, but how quickly you get up again. Meet someone else, move on.

RingOfFire · Answer

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Vegasrunner · Answer

Yea, stop being a bitch and learn to listen. Take all that heartbreak and pour it into something constructive.

justabuddy · Answer

Baby steps. Focus on your Happyneds. And take it one day at a time.

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

I JUST VOWED TO NEVER PUT MYSELF IN THAT PREDICAMENT AGAIN

boobliker · Answer

find a new person to help fix it them move on to find more to help you...

Nifrayu · Answer

For me it was time. A lot of time.

MementoMori777 · Answer

There's no fixing, only healing

thegreenyogi · Answer

Time is the only cure.

Fireguy17 · Answer

Time heals all wounds.

ScisorsAndRaisins · Answer

Get your ass back in the saddle.

Robertjo16 · Answer

Tell me when you find the answer

jamesgoldman · Answer

Whisky soothes the pain

Christoff92 · Answer

Meditation, and relaxation

_RebelWolf_ · Answer

there is no solution to this

Guido · Answer

Best thing is get an upgraded girlfriend.

Gabriel-Chicanito · Answer

Perhaps, meet someone new.

legalboxers · Answer

Time...

Anonymous · Answer

I'm still trying to figure that one out

In_Trance · Answer

Hookers and meth

Sugarberry37 · Answer

thanks

Unknownuser38282 · Answer

Superglue

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