I have heard this debate, where as men should not be concerned about what a woman brings to the table, because he needs to be honest about what he brings to the table or has to offer her.
I reject this line of thought. Yes, in the 1930s it was all about what the man has to offer, and she was to raise children, cook and clean. Well hello, its 2023... women bring a lot more to the table now days then just cooking, cleaning and having kids.
So given the legal obligations that comes with marriage, men should be very concerned about what they both bring to the table. Because now days, marriage is more of a financial commitment than anything. Because unlike the 1930s you can get divorced for any reason at any time and when you go you get 50% of everything. For me, my ex-wife never worked, and we divorced she took 800K with her. And what did she ever really offer me? Her undying faith love and support? No!!! I never got that.
So yes, long term you should be very aware of what you both have to offer and will bring into the relationship. Because long term its larger finical investment then buying a house. Long term it matters, in the short term all anyone can offer is a good time and sex. But long term it because a big deal once the fun wears off and sex drys up.
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Neither, I prioritize picking her based on having enough similarities to increase relatability and fun, and to avoid conflicts/disagreements.
Normally people word your question as "what to they bring to the table?" Meanwhile me when I see a partner adding shit to the table thats different from what I added to it:
I made great efforts to build my life up to be exactly how I want it, and I'm very particular about it, so if she brings something new into my life other than her company and affection and pets and shared hobbies, there is a 99.9% chance I don't want it in my life, and anything I would want that isn't already here, would be an unrealistic expectation, like her being a genie or something.
My philosophy is that if your partner actually makes you want to be a better person, then you're on the right track. If you in turn do the same for them, great. Even in relationships that don't work out, there is value added that make you realize what works and doesn't work in relationships for you, and what you can learn about yourself. Every man I got involved with affected me in such a way to become the best partner I could be for my husband today.
When I met my husband, he was a profoundly decent person that he made me want to up my game so that I could be the right woman in his eyes. I had a few left over bad habits like swearing and thinking negatively about things, and he showed me right away that these were negatively affecting me and how. I in turn, helped him learn to live a little and to be more expressive with his feelings, especially when he felt bad. Together we each added value.
Both… I want to feel like I do for him what he does for me… It’s not what I bring or you bring… It’s imagine what we could build together🤷♀️
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It's important that we both contribute and improve each other. I've been in relationships where I've been the only one striding forward and it becomes very difficult to sustain that partnership.
I think it's best - for me, at least - to find someone who brings joy and value to my life as much as I can bring to them.
Building up your partner and celebrating their successes with them is important.A long time ago, I met the lady who is now my wife. I was happier with her than I've been with anyone else I had dated, and happier with her than being alone. She makes us all smile and is a good example of a caring mother and wife. I just try to duplicate that as a father and husband.
Both it takes two of everything to bring balance I have money so the guy I’m with must have money I have a portfolio diamonds etc you too must have similar I’m not into sky daddy so the guy must be spiritual
Well of course I picked based on how compatible he was with me and how good of a spouse he would be to me. And he did the same to me. That's how it works. Any one way and you're just going to get used and stuck with a loser user.
Ideally both. It has turned out that way for my second marriage. It wasn’t when I first met him lol.
now he is the best and we complement each other really well.I looked for loyalty, low maintenance and a great future mom. It was great that she was stunning and I couldn’t stop thinking of her.
I prioritize it based upon how we get along. I don't care if she's rich or lives with multiple roommates.
I choose on what we have in common and how much I enjoy their company.
I want to bring my partner the greatest joy, he/she may experience.
I judge by how tight her pussy is and if she isn't too annoying.
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