Would you spend the rest of your life alone and miserable knowing the truth, or spend the rest of your life happy and ignorant because of a lie?

[Anonymous]

and yeah I'm as loyal and committed as it gets. I'm a straight white male who is 24 years old. definitely not a virgin but I am celibate. I haven't had sex since 2016 or even been in a relationship. haven't even flirted with any chick. I've turned down several women over the years even had some try to pay me to fuck them. every relationship I've ever been in I was cheated on despite doing everything I could to prevent it. I by no means have no interest in controlling someone, why waist my time trying to keep someone who don't want me. but that's not my point my point is.. could you see yourself not ha ing sex for the rest of your life. bc I can. I can see myself being alone forever. took a long time to get content with that thought tho. then guess what bam fell in love and got cheated on again. wtf am I doing wrong..

[SueShe]

If I read your question, correctly, you associate not fornicating as being miserable, is that correct? What makes you say something as foolish as that?

I would rather be alone and miserable if miserable means not to copulate. Fornication has no priority in my life and I can do without all the problems associated with copulation. That does not mean that I am miserable because that is a choice I make.

I am alone and happy and plan to be in that state for as long as it takes because I do not prioritize fornication. There are much more important things in life than that.

[Asker]

it's not a priority, but the abundance of infadelity and adultery, is.. it messes with ones psychological state sometimes. misery is unavoidable as long as the living is dying.

[Chayce]

You know you can experience life with someone where sex doesn’t have to be the end all be all. But once you’ve first had sex you’ll see why.

[provokeesmokee]

Is the lie that you're beyond love? Because, yeah, mean, living that way will make you sad.

Other people's shit treatment of you sucks, but it shouldn't be your defining moment.

[Asker]

what lies beyond love? and.. well, what should be?

[Iron_Man]

I need to have the truth on everything but I’m not gonna tolerate a miserable, lonely life. I’ve already had enough problems.

[Asker]

you see the paradox

[crystalline0909]

Exactly my situation. 100% . I've had sex since 2019 due to the same fucking reason. Don't even talk to single guys. Wow. There is a male version of me.

[In_Trance]

Seems like you're picking the wrong girls

[Asker]

Being an INFJ does have its downsides I suppose

[sheikalana]

What's the truth?