Would you rather know the truth and get hurt, or stay in the lie and be happy?

[Chikky]

[lightbulb27]

I've been through that and rather know the truth. But it does hurt and cause distress.

The truth hurts and it requires a lot of listening and a lot of stress on those conveying the truth. These are matters of perspective and feelings moreso than logic. The problem with anothers perspective is it challenges our sub conscious. We don't like to change what is deeply ingrained... after all, we already learned something and takes energy to change.

Ex. My girlfriend challenged me many times on prior relationships, my snooping on FB girls I didn't want to leave. I had it in my mind one way... so I could avoid pain... but it was a mess and she was right about so much. It was hard for me to see it, I was avoidant and evasive, hard on her because I fought her view. Nothing more painful than telling someone in a way "you are wrong... but they know they are right". I had to really stop and listen and trust she had good intent, then I could allow the ideas in and see what she was saying had truth. In hindsight, it is amazing to me how much I could deceive myself, to avoid facing reality. I say this as well as there is a paranoid person in my family and it is just as hard convincing them their reality is false. God help me... I see a pattern now that scares me a bit. I'm not delusional, but I have deluded myself. uh...
...
In general, what you are really saying is that someone has a false belief... they believe/feel something to be true, however, their view is flawed. That's like the definition of deception and mental illness, but we can think we are right when it's simply our perspective is limited and we feel good... trauma/conditioning can "set that mold". That requires a strong force to convince us, and we have to be willing to let it in. Or we have to completely fail, otherwise... why change?

My "truth" worked for me for a long time at work and personally. But then it reached dead ends and it crumbled to the ground as dust. I built nothing of value. Be careful of your truth... I'd rather have friends/family challenge me and suffer than waste time in fruitless purpose.

The truth, once received... means that change can occur, and new life emerges. Whom loves you more... the one that tells truth so you can achieve your best, or one that stays silent and lets you live happily in a false reality? Change means can get person to a new place they may have never seen possible before. But it's not easy... sometimes impossible. I face that with a family member now, its a beast of a problem.

This knowledge can be applied to so much of what is wrong with people and society. Most of the conflicts online, shootings, race crap... it's perspectives on truth. You might say that is the essence of the human condition.

I think the truth can change as well... change is constant, we have to adapt. So one must keep a flexible mind... which is more work as we get older. New generation was trained differently, we have to realize perspectives are different.

Religion may be another aspect to dwell on. This a very rich question hidden in a small sentence. well done!

[sean1234]

Jesus is the truth

John 14:6 Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.

http://play. google. com/store/apps/details? id=bible. kingjamesbiblelite

Satan is the father of lies

John 8:42-44 Jesus said unto them, If God were your Father, ye would love me: for I proceeded forth and came from God; neither came I of myself, but he sent me.
Why do ye not understand my speech? even because ye cannot hear my word.
Ye are of your father the devil, and the lusts of your father ye will do. He was a murderer from the beginning, and abode not in the truth, because there is no truth in him. When he speaketh a lie, he speaketh of his own: for he is a liar, and the father of it.

http://play. google. com/store/apps/details? id=bible. kingjamesbiblelite

If you keep Jesus sayings or commandments, you won't die in the 2nd death.

John 8:45-51 And because I tell you the truth, ye believe me not.
Which of you convinceth me of sin? And if I say the truth, why do ye not believe me?
He that is of God heareth God's words: ye therefore hear them not, because ye are not of God.
Then answered the Jews, and said unto him, Say we not well that thou art a Samaritan, and hast a devil?
Jesus answered, I have not a devil; but I honour my Father, and ye do dishonour me.
And I seek not mine own glory: there is one that seeketh and judgeth.
Verily, verily, I say unto you, If a man keep my saying, he shall never see death.

http://play. google. com/store/apps/details? id=bible. kingjamesbiblelite

-To make a long story short, would you rather be truthfully and go to Heaven or die?

[Xoxocutekitty]

"And you call me up again just to break me like a promise
So casually cruel in the name of being honest"

In the wise words of Taylor swift, I want someone who tells me the truth, but with grace.

Too often we 'dump' truth on people and give zero shits about how they take it or how it could affect their lives. I do believe you can break up with people, you can fire people, and you can still do it respectfully. You can take time to give people closure without also dragging them through the dirt in the name of 'honesty.'

[jennifer_bloom]

I believe there is a time and a place for truth and that sometimes truth should be revealed gradually or partially. Like I have friends that I believe are sinning in how they live, but I do not tell them all the things they do wrong cause I do not want them to give up, I hint at the small
changes they can make instead of addressing it full impact. I have another friend with a lot of faulty views and instead of telling him he is wrong, I try to focus on the things I believe he would understand.

[Idontwantausername1]

If you don't say anything about something (if you're not asked) it doesn't mean you are not telling the truth. Sometimes it's just better to say nothing.

[sean1234]

I rather be in a restaurant with someone rudely yelling out something I don't realize I'm doing or saying wrong than being around a bunch of silent nice people that never tell me.

[Cynicaldreamer]

Know the truth and get hurt. It's like ripping off a bandaid: it hurts at first, but eventually you do get over it with time.

A lie, while it makes you feel good momentarily, won't help you in the long run. That's like telling someone that's overweight they're "fine." Yeah it's helping their self esteem, but hurting them health wise.

There's a way to be honest without being rude or hurtful.

[Desconhecida]

There's no true happiness when someone lies to you. It would be an illusion. Always choose the hard truth.

[Diodoro]

Depends on the context

99% of the time I'd rather know the truth

1% where I'd accept the lie is something like...

If my parents got divorced one day and I'm later told it's because one of them cheated I'm going to have multiple years of anger towards that parent for that decision. Because it would hurt our relationship I'd rather not know that because it's my mom and dad

Or

If I'm the best sex you've ever had. Don't tell me I am when I'm not. I know I'm good. Confident and all that. I'll let the results be enough to gas me up. But if you say I am then later flip it then yea I'd rather not know lol you also damaged. y trust in you by doing that

[Samoht_Sirrom1]

There is a song that sums up the answer to your question perfectly


Never Enough
Song by Five Finger Death Punch
For the time that I've been givenI am what I amI'd rather hate you for everything you areThan ever love you for something you are not
I'd rather you hate me for everything I amThan have you love me for something that I can't

In short rather know the truth and make an informed decision then live a lie. Besides if the person truly loves YOU it's not about the things you've done it's about who you are and nothing you "do" or "have done" will change that person (except drugs but if you are abusing them I'm sure the other person has noticed the changes in your behavior)

[Moose304]

Unless the partner is a sociopath the secret is going to come out. They can't hide it. I know a guy whose wife had an abortion and never said a word to him. He kept talking about children. He was even talking about names. This over time ate at this wife. Over a few years, her health started to be affected. I was told she had a series of ulcers. Finally, she got into therapy and released that venom. The man knew something was wrong for years. Yes, after he discovered the abortion he left her and finally filed for a divorce. In all honesty, you might as well learn the truth.

[TonyMetal___86]

I'm an honest man and i always say the truth, i always prefer that they tell me the truth rather than living in a lie and dreams that they aren't real and in the end everything is going to be revealed, so why all the lies?

People trust me blindly because they know that i'm honest and it ain't always easy cause sometimes truth hurts but i try my best to tell the truth without causing too much damage to the person that i'm telling him/her the truth!

A real man to me is a man who never lies and who always try his best to keep his promises towards the others!

[BeeNee]

The illusion of happiness based on a web of lies is not happiness at all; it is nothing more than the ignorance to the situation you are in and often and eventually you find out in the worst way, that it doesn't last. I'd rather know the truth because even though you may experience a lot of hurt because of it, that is not to say you can't move forward and find REAL happiness down the road.

[Aphrodite801]

Can you check your dm

[Novacane]

I rather know the truth and get hurt than be lied to and be happy. Your happiness would basically be built on a lie which is just an illusion/fabrication of your own reality, in the hands of someone else. If I know the truth and get hurt then that means I now have to chance and freedom to go about and find real happiness.

[YollyM]

I'd rather know the truth and get hurt because later on I'd heal and be truly happy. I would hate to stay in the lie, invest my time and affection on something that won't last (the truth ALWAYS comes out in the end). I know I'm less likely to be resentful if the truth comes up earlier on , before I get too invested/attached.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

People are going to say they want the truth online but in reality they want nothing to do with the truth if it doesn't benefit them, makes them look good or fit their narrative and view points.

To answer your question give me the truth regardless. I live my reality.

I know I'm a sack of 💩💩💩 and accept it. 😬

[Little_Bumblebee]

I would rather have the truth.
An example: if I was in a relationship with someone who cheated, I would rather know so I could dump his ass, rather staying in the relationship being betrayed behind my back.

[DizzyDesii]

Sounds crazy but i always said i rather live a lie and be happy... this of course is only if i dont know the lie. But now a days, i guess i rather the truth so i can be set free and move on to bugger and better things

[DaveJord]

I'd rather know the truth in most cases you already know any way and either turn a blind eye or move on anyway. So know the truth is always better.

[Kittycurious]

I always rather know the truth. No matter how much it hurts. Then I can make an my own decision in how to proceed

[LinaDaGoddess]

I’d rather know the truth… because I can handle it, even if it makes me cry. I will respect someone more if they’re honest than if they lie to me.

[Fireguy17]

the truth shall set you free!
But then you can't handle the truth.
I would not like being lied to, because at some point you will learn the truth, then that is even worse.

[t-8900]

I'm inquisitive as hell so I HAVE to know the truth, always. I won't let it rest till I do either.

[Kaamraj]

As a man, to know the truth, because in a man's world all that matters is truth, dependency and reciprocity.

[Greedier]

The truth always, living a delusional sweet fantasy hurts more than the harsh and raw truth!

[BazookaTrouper]

You missed an opportunity to show Morpheus holding the Red Pill and Blue Pill respectively.

[MCheetah]

The truth, every time. I don't like living in blissful ignorance.

[exitseven]

"Truth is like a dead skunk in the middle of the street. You can walk away from it, but it still stinks."
I would rather have the truth.

[imsocool1806]

well if you stayed in the lie you'd probably have a hard time being happy because of your conscience

[jayyohh]

Open communication and honesty, no matter how difficult, is the only way to do it

[SunnyCaliGirl]

The truth will ALWAYS reveal its self and it we just ignore getting hurt we will eventually get sick of being hurt repeatedly

[Anonymous]

Whoever comforts me with a lie is no better than those, who intend to harm me.
that being said, i won't force to "tell me something i don't want to hear". a compliment can be mistaken for a sweet lie.

[RebeccaBI2000]

I would rather know the truth. Lying can hurt even more

[gag2021]

I'd rather have the truth than to think something is different than it really is. The sooner the better.

[Mediterraneansoul]

In the context of a relationship. The truth comes out one way or another so it's better sooner than later while that water under the bridge isn't too much

[Seangreen]

I'd rather know but if they don't want me to know I better not find out

[Sorue]

Staying in the lie leaves you unhappy in the end so I need the truth!

[CallmeTheKnight]

Tell me the truth. It'll hurt a lot less if there's no lie involved

[Manuel2]

Always tell thr truth. Even in sex. As it can only improve or know time to decide. Good sex but lazy or bad sex bit keeps you happy

[MannyFrs]

i'd rather know the truth and then tell the bitch good bye

[dtweed1996]

Rather know the truth I find the truth not that painful unless it involves someone dying

[blueazure]

Know the truth and get hurt. To know it soon better than later. Like lie can be exposed at anytime. No matter how good you are to hide it.

[Shiningtempest]

@Chikky I'd rather know the truth & get hurt because getting deceived after years of staying in the lie would be way worse.

[TheAfrikan]

I hate living a life behind walls. So I would rather know the truth and get hurt than staying up my entire life loving in lies of happiness.

[007kingifrit]

depends if its a lie that will hurt me more later or if its a lie that i can have forever

[Nazgol]

Know the truth. Nothing worse than being deceived & cheated

[Twalli]

Depends on how much the truth will hurt. As well as what the truth is.

[LivingExample]

Truth Always comes to the Light one way or another!

[insecuregirl0530]

Definitely know the truth… I don’t want to stay with someone if they did something (like cheating) that can hurt or break our relationship

[Anonymous]

Know the truth and get hurt. A lie doesn't get better as time goes by.

[Anonymous]

Thrut hurets. Its true
But it doesn't give you long-term regret as lying. You'll be never be happy by lying

[pecanqueen86]

The truth and get hurt... Have enough respect for me to be honest I'll get over the pain eventually.

[and96]

Allways know the truth, bc living in lie will hurt more over time

[NathanDavis]

I like my stabs by the front... not on my back

[Anonymous]

Truth
but just because somebody says they are being truthful it could still mean they are lying. You never know

[Opinion Owner]

If somebody says they are being honest that is still no guarantee. It is still possible they could be lying

[TruthBringer]

The truth or nothing else.

[Anonymous]

Truth set you free,, ignorance is bliss.. I don’t know

[Flower7]

I DEFINITELY would rather know the truth!!!

[weysally]

just how can one be happy in a lie,?

[Idontwantausername1]

Very easy, if you don't know it's a lie, you don't know. So then you can't worry about the lie, because you can't worry about something you don't know.

[weysally]

@Idontwantausername1 sorry but that is rubbish, a lie is a lie, and as you say if one doesn't know its a lie then its a made up thing which in my opinion is the same thing

[Idontwantausername1]

Okey if someone knows he or she is living in a lie than I agree with you, but if you don't know you can be happy.

[weysally]

@Idontwantausername1 please explain to me, then how do you know its a lie ?

[JC1981]

Truth is always best regardless of repercussions.

[jshm2]

Why says the truth can only hurt?

[gabriela13]

Truth and get hurt, I would be too upset otherwise

[humpbackjack]

Truth regardless of hurt feeling’s

[SilentlyWatching]

Truth, always the truth💗

[Nik_92]

One time get hurt is better than life time lie

[DaveToo]

Nope, I have to know the truth.