Would you rather know the harsh truth or feel good with a lie?

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boombastik · Accepted Answer

I already know the truth most of the time so a part of me respects them trying to make me feel good but in the long run I'm gonna lose that respect if I ask you about it and keep lying,

maximumpower · Accepted Answer

Truth is truth.  Lies are almost always destructive - in at least some fashion.

Anonymous · Answer

Harsh truth along with advice on how to improve upon it. Giving someone a harsh truth about something they have very little control over (age, height, born physical characteristics, past mistakes, etc.) doesn’t accomplish anything. But giving someone advice on things they CAN change (fitness, weight, work, money money management, addictions, attitude, etc) can help them if done right.

So I will give you an example. Say you know an obese person who is struggling with health, romance and overall self esteem. And let’s say this obese person is in denial about their weight problem (and I’ve met overweight people who are).

The feel good lie is that “there is nothing wrong with them and they look good”. I guess if they are content with their health, romance and self esteem you could say that. But if they are complaining about their problems and haven’t made any effort to change then the harsh truth can help. It’s like saying “Hey Julie. I love you but the truth is if you want to feel better about yourself you need to exercise more often and change your diet. I know of a good consistent workout program. I also can give you advice on dieting.”’ But just telling her “oh your beautiful and the right man will come along” is a feel good lie. It doesn’t motivate her to improve herself.

CaptainOverthink · Answer

Depends on what it is..

Is it something you've done while we've been together or known eachother that might affect how we are? - YES, tell me.
Because I don't want to waste my time or yours, so do us both a favor and lighten your heart.

Is it something you've done before we met?
- No. It's not my place to judge but if you want to say, it's fine, here to listen.

But most importantly:
This comes down to how the person you have in mind is.
- Do they think things over or do he usually just react on his emotions?
- Are they an envious or otherwise mistrusting person?

I can only assume from my POV.
And I might not be as ordinary or a very good template.

cryscrys1 · Answer

Neither because the harsh truth according to what? To you? Who are you?
Oh do you also want to know my harsh truth about your opinion about my harsh truth?

It depends truth in what? Let say someone’s husband is cheating on his wife ~ you feel like you need to tell them the truth !
This guy is using me and doesn’t like me?

It depends what is the harsh truth about? What life department are we talking about?

If it’s about health and I am fat and you need to tell me the harsh truth I’m fat then your too skinny I don't know man I need more info for this qs

VanillaSalt · Answer

A lie you never learn is a lie is often more sweet then the truth.

Everything is a lie. Your value, your freedom, your strength… People want to pretend their the masters of their own destiny but their not. If the most important person in the world went missing right now the world wouldn’t blink. If your freedom was taken in one big push you’d notice but what if slowly over a century your freedom was taken as you acclimated to the change? You think your strong? What happens when the government says something you disagree with? Are you strong enough to fight back with force? Can you even be sure you can protect your family from your neighbors if it came to it?

“Strong” people say they rather the harsh truth, weak people say they’d rather ignorance… Personally. Ide rather the happy lie be the truth.

Rei02 · Answer

Everyone is going to tell the truth, and yes, because since we were kids, we are taught that honesty is the best policy.

However, not all the truth can make things better in the future, some lies or hiding the true can be because they are just non-important things, they are to protect someone, or maybe some people are just not ready yet in knowing the harsh truth. But let's keep in mind, true will always appear, sooner or later, no matter what.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/evolution-the-self/202208/when-truth-is-overrated-the-advantages-dishonesty

MAC1983 · Answer

Give me the truth, always. I won't you give anything but it as well. I made that decision some years ago and never looked back.

One side-effect though is, since you don't deal with lies, almost all liars are transparent to you.

That makes Life... Less buffered and comfortable, and up to something to really manage if you're around fake people.

In every choice there is a price. You accept the consequences and deal with them. That's the difference between a child or teenager and an - actual - adult.

I know some VERY old teenagers... 60, 70, 80, 90 years old... still think and/or act like teenagers. 🤷🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️

Moose304 · Answer

I know this question is asked with regard to relationships. Since I don't do relationships I can't give an answer. I did once have an executive assistant that was stealing from both me and our employer. Over two years stole over $25,000 worth of cash and other items sold at pawn shops etc. This woman was very good at her job. I went for several days not believing she was a thief. I saw the harsh truth when a Richmond County Georgia Deputy Sheriff took her out of the office in cuffs. She did 2 years in state prison and was ordered to make restitution. She took the chickenshit way out and killed herself about 10 years ago. I don't want her family's money and my employer tried to get something. I think they got about $1,000 in total. I think I rather know the truth.

magiusX26 · Answer

ah there is the rub. a balance of both. certsin lies fir comfort are needed at times. an example being a lover with some previous experience telling you that you are the best they ever had, or going in for life threatening surgery/treatment, being told that "everything is going to be alright/ok". another example being that friend who lies enough about your ability (appearance/a skill) to go try at something new such as talk to that hott someone you have been eyeing and it fills you with enough confidence to get that (a "hypeman") .

Anonymous · Answer

Depends how you look at it. If someone is lying to you, their lie is your truth, but their truth is nothing to you, it's hidden. So technically you are living in your truth and feeling good about it. It's what we do every day with daily things. Everyone wants to feel good, if you smell something good you're just gonna enjoy in it, you're not think it's a poison gas, and can't possibly know that. So there's no point in thinking about other people's truths, just enjoy feeling good because it is YOUR truth.

MCheetah · Answer

The harsh truth. It's why my heart is now so icy like a cold wind blows.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

It’s an entirely false assumption, feeling good about lies.
The truth always comes out. When it does, the person on the receiving end of deception has to learn the truth in conjunction with the fact that some lied to them, possibly someone they loved and believed loved them back.
No matter what liars try to suggest otherwise, they lie to preserve their own feelings, not other people’s. Lying is a purely selfish act. Full stop.

JadedandConfused · Answer

Definitely the harsh truth, it really sucks to find out something was a lie because it cuts deeper, especially when you've built upon something like a relationship and then you found out that some of it wasn't true…definitely hurts more and leaves you second guessing everything, good luck building any trust off of that 😅 plus sugar coating things does no good for anyone but the person who's selling it, just rip the Band-Aid off and make it a good learning experience for everyone yknow

ohsheeT · Answer

When people have to lie about anything that means that they don't want somebody to know the truth and if you don't want somebody to know the truth then that means you don't want somebody to look at you for what you have done and think of you in a different manner than what they think of you now so in reality you're not confident Who You Are you have to be somebody else and if you have to be somebody else you're not trustworthy

Haha456 · Answer

what you don't realize is that most people cannot stand hearing the absolute hard truth. Tell a fat person that she is fat, she would snap at you and act all offended. Tell someone everything of what they are doing wrong, they either get offended or try to argue with you

Amy10223 · Answer

Yes, I'd much rather know the honest truth than to be handed a lie. Even if it hurts-- at least I know what the problem is, and have some kind of closure as to how to move forward. That goes for everything; relationships, real life situations, doctor's diagnoses, etc.

White_Widow · Answer

Lol, funny to see that literally everyone who gave an opinion thus far has said they want the truth.

Here's a truth, I think a minimum of 50% of the people's who have said that they want the truth, are lying, to themselves.

I'll take the truth over a lie every time.

Pinay_ako · Answer

I’d rather you be mean than love and lie.  I’d rather hear the truth and have to say goodbye.  I’d rather take a blow at least then I would know.  But baby don’t you break my heart slow …

Chelsdope0 · Answer

A guy told me a harsh truth about myself.

did I curse him out until the cows came home? Yes.

but what he said was something I needed to hear and from that moment on I wasn’t afraid of the truth bc he can set you free and help you grow

despiteful · Answer

I prefer the truth but

Just because somebody says they are telling the truth it doesn’t always mean they are being honest. It’s still possible a person could be lying even though they say they are being honest. You may never really know 100 percent for sure the truth in many things.

DannyUk2017 · Answer

The truth, no matter how Harsh it is, it might hurt in the beginning but it will pass... As with the lie, you might feel goot at start but when eventually will come out, will create unnecessary mess, similar to when 💩 hits the fan... 🤷‍♂️

dustybiker · Answer

Brutal truth. Lies waste time that could be spent living.

Dacatme · Answer

Well of course we are gonna say I want the hard ass truth.. . After taking all the narcissistic mouth from her I could take I did ask a favor from her, " Couldn't you lie to me just a couple more days? I want some of that filthy fake fuckin love that you so easily give up for a dollar bag!"

Rockstarrrrr · Answer

The harsh truth always... Nothing is worse than being fooled

IveGotNoName · Answer

Harsh truth of course. The truth always comes out eventually, so why waste time

BlueScorpio · Answer

I want the truth but many people say they want the truth but often can't handle it so they settle for a lie. Ignorance is bliss.

lickmypink216 · Answer

I want the absolute brutal truth. Id rather know the real than walk around with false info or confidence.

Mewipaws · Answer

Harsh truth. If it is about me, then getting the harsh truth criticisms will help me to improve myself as there will be times that I dont see my flaws.

DizzyDesii · Answer

Im fine with white lies, nice truths, half truths... but if its something thats risking someones health or life then tell them the mf truth

Sour-rose · Answer

Truth. I don't need lies to tell me that there is no bus coming at me, then you're a wanka and you let me die. You son of a b-

JustAnj · Answer

The truth, lies are pointless and half trusths are cover up lies, so when I say the truth I mean I want the whole enchilada.

JBlade · Answer

“Run from it, hide from it, destiny still awaits” - Thanos

Blackcupcake · Answer

truth always… the truth can hurt yes, but it doesn’t have to be delivered harshly unless you’re looking to hurt someone’s feelings.

MoniqueTLC · Answer

Definitely the harsh truth. No one wants to live a lie <3

NathanDavis · Answer

truth... lies do not make me feel good, I always find out...

sexguru1999 · Answer

I would never confort myself, its not an option. I would go with the hard choice.

RavVid · Answer

Does any woman want to be told 'Yes your ass does look big in that dress'. I think not.

Fireguy17 · Answer

The truth. It has a nasty habit of coming out anyway.

_no_one_ · Answer

Lies give that temporary happiness with which comes a harsher aftermath so I'd rather know the truth take the L and move on

TheVigilantOne · Answer

Truth, I’ll know you’re lying anyway, so just be honest.

exitseven · Answer

I would rather feel good with a lie. I csn;t handle the truth.

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

The truth and only the truth. Lies destroy with a fantasy embedded in your mind.

Subarugirl · Answer

I'll take an ugly truth over an ugly like any day of the week

britishbby · Answer

Depends but normally the truth like 99% of the time truth

BJP21 · Answer

Id rather know the the truth than let Karma do the rest.

AndrésC64 · Answer

This ought to be good. Only here for the comments. I'll try to bite my tongue.

Blueeyes81 · Answer

Harsh truth but I understand why people don't like telling it.

Anonymous · Answer

The truth... Lies feel good in the moment, but hurt worse later

nickaboy · Answer

The truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth

Dee_smooth22 · Answer

The harsh truth. I do not take kindly to lies.

Zolly99999 · Answer

Harsh truth.. I can work with the truth... it's hard to work with a lie

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

Harsh truth. If life is just too good, something is off

Open2It · Answer

Even the harsh truth can be told in a tactful way... I prefer to know the truth, in a tactful way

more_than_a_guy · Answer

Harsh truth, as a one who always wants to improve myself.

Anonymous · Answer

I want the truth. But not the twisted types like "mgtow" truth.

melanieeeB · Answer

Truth

Bear-Naked · Answer

Truth every time, it is best to know 100% what is going on

Chthou95 · Answer

Its funny how people are saying the harsh truth but they themselves won't give the harsh truth

jimmy2 · Answer

The Truth sets one free but all can really piss someone off

Iloveall · Answer

Give me truth over everything even if it hurts will hurt more if I found out it was all a lie

DermalPunch · Answer

Harsh truth any day.

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