Do you feel there was a turning point or when you became more sexually active?

[Anonymous]

I’ve come to a point where I’ve begged for love from a man and he doesn’t love me. I do not have worth as a soil or personality. My heart isn’t valuable. But many men want my body. They would not pay for my kindness or niceness but they would pay to use my body for a few minutes. I don’t see the point of trying to get love. But sex feels good and makes it hurt less. I’d rather let random men who want my body use it and get something of value in return , than beg to be loved. I don’t have value as a human soul and my body isn’t perfect. I know it’s morally wrong to have sex before marriage. But I don’t feel like my body is that special. Why not give the men what they really want. I’d rather be some man’s sex slave and get used in my body. I don’t have value.

[SueShe]

Thank goodness that I did realize earlier that fornication is not the answer to happiness and a fulfilled life.

I have no such turning point because copulation does not really attract me. Tell me, what is so fantastic, nice, exciting, interesting, exhilarating or educative about those few pathetic spasms or muscular contractions when there is no physiological need to do it. Your life does not depend on them, does it?

There is more to love than copulation. What about hugging? What about holding hands, what about cuddling for example? Those are equally important and much less dangerous to your health since you have a substantially lower risk to get yourself infected with STD/STI.

[Asker]

If you hug or touch a man there’s a significant increase in the chance he or you (well maybe not you in particular) will feel even stronger of a desire to have sex.
Before when I was a virgin I didn’t know that.
But once you’re alone with a man and you CAN have fornication, even if you aren’t THINKING AYOU WANT IT, the body takes over and you end up doing it.

[SueShe]

This does not have to be. There are (hopefully) also men that don't think of copulating right away if you hold their hand or give them a hug. That would be sad if the world would be like that.

Also, you can set boundaries and ensure that those boundaries are kept by both parties.

[StarWarGirl]

I do understand your anger and frustration of not able to get love. But still I have a question. Does your value depends on what other says or from outer look or what other decides as your value?

For example a diamond stone, which is not yet polished not yet carved, just simply a stone what just came out from the coal mine full of coal dust around full of irregularities. If someone is unable to understand it's value and treat it as some stone of streets. Or if someone would give only few coins for that. Does it means that's the true value of that dimond stone?

First learn to love yourself, first value your own self. Understand your own value.

World's view doesn't make you. But yours own view does. You needs to understand this first.

[jahaims]

First of all you can't beg to be loved. That isn't how love works. You also can't find love if you have no self-respect. You just attract those kind of guys because you have no self worth and are an easy target.

[noohair]

Men used to have to make a commitment to a woman for sex.
That was love and marriage.
Women wanted freedom and equality.
This is what freedom and equality looks like.
Every person has equal value.

[catarecute]

you should love yourself. seriously its like cooking a good meal for a bunch of 20 people at a table. You should taste it first and if you like it then you know you will enjoy the meal. doesn't matter if all the people at the table are complaining telling you its gross it hasn't got enough sauce or salt or cheese. You can enjoy eating your meal and watch them complain like idiots. The chances are one of the guests would have liked it too and that's the one should should stick with at the end of the meal and let the rest of them go waist their money in MacDonald's.

[elizamichale1]

Awww I m sorry to hear that but darling u hav got to love urself n trust me there's always someone somewhere who will fall for u but only if u love urself first

[Asker]

Thanks. I thought I did love myself but I guess if I’m begging for love then I’m Not sure anymore.

[elizamichale1]

No honey u don't need to beg... what u need is just own urself n love itself for what u r n guys will come after u themselves

[elizamichale1]

R u a working girl too?
I am I work as a stripper n prostitute for my brother n he is the one who gave me confidence

[Asker]

I was thinking of becoming one honestly. I’ve thought about it a few times in the past. I need money.
It’s hard out here, maybe there’s someone who can give me confidence like your brother did for you.

[elizamichale1]

Well it's not a bad choice... I love my job I have been doing it for last 6 years or so
But hey u need to be prepared for worst comments from people specially women

[LazerBean]

Yes, after I got married.

If you don't feel that you have value, then do something to change that.

[Anonymous]

“I know it’s morally wrong to have sex before marriage.”

Says who, religion? 🤣

[Anonymous]

Men are going to have a great laugh at you and be telling there buddies

U will end up used

Try looking after yourself

[Opinion Owner]

Everyone has value

[Anonymous]

Yes, that started when I was 15.

[Opinion Owner]

I agree with you, live the life you want to live and have no regrets.

[Asker]

It’s what men (at least the ones I’ve encountered) want. I’ve been nice and given my heart or tried to love them from the heart and it just doesn’t mean anything to most of them. They aren’t after my heart they want my body for a few minutes.

[Opinion Owner]

I understand.

[Asker]

And I’m a person who wants to give of myself. But if men don’t want my heart or affection. Then why give it. It has no value. If you give a gift it has to have value to the receiver.

[Opinion Owner]

Please try to be patient.

[Asker]

What for?