Would you have a long-distance relationship?

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Circlesgames · Accepted Answer

Your too young for that now, trust me your age is where loyalty is at its lowest, maybe not you but the guy as soon as he gets older before clocking his 20,21 the drive to do so many things could have happened.

Now that's just an awareness call, just putting out the big red for you before I tell you the good part.

Going into Ldr, depends on you and the person's personality, sense of humor etc, it does work for many and does fail for many, just like any real life relationship.

Fun fact Ldr that succeed end up lasting longer... That is given both parties were honest with everything during the Ldr (no fake filters, no lie about ur behaviours etc)

Another fact ldr gives you space from your partner to work on yourself and have self time which is very good.

Another fact it gives you the worse of the experience that when you meet face to face, it's so super easy to deal with issues among you guys,(depends on the leanght of your ldr, (0-1 yr before face to face, chances you would suffer a lot, 2-3yrs before face to face chances you would be at peace more because at this time you guys have accepted a lot about you guys etc)

I can write a book about ldr.

So yh once again ldr and face to face are pretty much same just a matter of preference and different benefits.

Matadorius · Accepted Answer

I had ldr for one and half a year it was literally very long distance relationship and experienced hardships about everything so i wouldn't. The thing is, even both of you loved each other so much and stayed loyal, at the end of the day you two still being apart from each other and just only this fact is enough to create difficulties to maintain the relationship.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Im in one now. After seeing each other as much as we could for one year, he had to move for his job (and can't even quit/say no). Pretty far. Not easy to fly up to. Its only been one month and its the worst. We kinda love each other too much to just let each other go. We’ve seen each other only once since he moved.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Accepted Answer

I already experienced what it feels like to love someone and be unable to touch them.  I wouldn’t wish it to happen to me ever again.

Lionman95 · Answer

It depends on how far the long-distance is because if it´s in the same country maybe. But definetely not in a different time zone or different continent. Because part of your nick is also a character trait of mine and it´s definitely not the girl part.

ddjniro · Answer

I would if it starts off medium to close distance. But deciding to do a long-distance is hard because in order for it to truly pan out well and work there has to be some sort of goal of living in the same area at some point. If not then you are really just getting a pen pal that you see once a while. While that may seem nice, if there is no goal of integrating both of your lives together, then you are ultimately just prolonging a heartbreak.

Note that this does work for some and some like the companionship. For me, if you're building a relationship starting from a long distance, you are actively doing it to yourself. There is a lot of ground work that needs to be done, and it just takes much more energy to start and maintain. Where as if it started close, the bond is already created and its sustainable.

ULTIMATELY: do what works for you. If you want it then go for it, that's all up to your preferences.

Miristheiss · Answer

No.

If I were moving then that is a break up.

If she is moving or studying abroad or going away to school. Break up.

I would have ever only dated people who lived in my area. If they move away, they are not in my town... I'll date the women who actually live near me.

Anonymous · Answer

I do for a year now. It's not easy till you see them and when they go. Any problems are also not easily fixable on long distance so it waits and gets worse. I would rather not have a long distance relationship but there is nothing to do in our case as elsewhere pays better

OfMiceandMen · Answer

Friendship yes, relationship no. I need to be able to feel her in my arms for it to be a relationship.

BourbonAndBacon · Answer

Yes. It means lots of video chats, travel and posting pics of whatever you are doing to build trust. If you're willing to put in the effort then expand your search area to find the perfect person

midnightmoon05 · Answer

99% of the time no. Don’t do it.  mine worked. But it was not easy. And also because I am a weirdo. We are married now…and he is from gag. So there…the weirdo part.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

It depends on how I feel about her. Did you have anyone in specific in mind? I've had at least 2 of them, so far. One with a girl in Michigan and another with a girl in Bulgaria.

exitseven · Answer

I had one. I do not think I would do it again it is 4 years of my life I will never get back.

Lynx122 · Answer

I'm in one right now. I will see her soon though :)

provokeesmokee · Answer

Nah. I tried it, it was a mistake. Local only from now on.

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

We went through that.  It wasn't easy.

HateyouxD · Answer

I'm not sure. I like sex. But I have before a few times when I was younger

In_Trance · Answer

It would depend on how long we were together before distance became a factor and it would also depend on when the distance would come to an end. Without those factors you're doomed

sheenagwapa · Answer

yes why not but i have to get to know the person very well first I don't know i'm just traumatized.

CaliAttorneyGuy · Answer

Nah. Maybe if it was very temporary and she was moving to my area soon. Otherwise, no.

Anonymous · Answer

I’m in one :)  It’s certainly not for everyone, but so far we’ve been able to make it work.

BigDog1989 · Answer

Tried it, hated it. My aunt met a guy long distance, after her and her ex got divorced. They live together, but, they did meet initially, LD

Staximus · Answer

No, they are dumb. Why even bother, the other person is never there. That's no kind of relationship

Emanon25 · Answer

I would if I find the right girl as long as we both have feelings and getting along together.

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