When you ask if your relationship is toxic, or how to hold onto your toxic relationship, what is going through your mind?

[caring__1]

Are you looking for others to make the decision for you?

Are you questioning your ability to determine if something is toxic?

Are you just looking for more people to agree with you?

How does it impact you when people disagree with your conclusion?

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Whether they should or shouldn't be in a relationship or whether they're ready for a relationship is not what I'm asking. I want to understand those who do post these types of questions. What is behind the questions they ask?

[DaveJord]

So for me I am not going to lie. It's not my style, I am going to keep it honest and real. I hang on to a toxic partner as long as the sex is hot and good. But even then, I only do it knowing I am not in it for the long run, I am just enjoying the right for as long as it lasts. Look Toxic people are toxic for a reason, like they don't really know or understand what it is about them that makes them toxic, that is why they are toxic.

So for all the other nontoxic people in the dating world, especially those over 35... if you honestly cannot tell the difference between a honest and sincere person, and toxic people get out of the dating pool. You're just deglutinating it for everyone else.

[caring__1]

Do you let your partner know it is temporary and just for sex, or do you lead them on to believe it is something more?

[DaveJord]

I let them know that their behaviors are troubling me or that I do not appreciate how they talk to me, the things the say and ext...

But I will hang in there for the sex... and if she does not improve it ends. But you know that a truly toxic person is not going to be able to correct themselves in time to work it out for you... so yeah... sure say wnat you want about me and the sex thing. But at the end of the day, what else is this woman really offering me other than sex... what is she really bringing to the table?

[jojoisaskingyou]

I think people are looking for signs that others noticed in their relationships. Then they're wanting to see if those signs are in their own relationship.

[Justmeagain1]

The basis or foundation of these types of
Questions- stems often from self worth issues that need work. Toxic relationships suck the life out of people in so
Many different ways - you do end up being a different version of yourself - mainly due to lack of boundaries too.

[Nikki1989]

People who ask those questions online shouldn't be in a relationship in the first place. They are obviously not ready for it.

[FellowTraveler]

@Nikki1989 - sage advice.

[Avicenna]

I'd imagine you're questioning yourself in general

[molonski2]

Well , really I don't know because I've never asked such a question , but IMHO these people who might ask that tend to hate change in the sense of finishing , and maybe there is other stuff about this person they really do " love " , I think generally the asker is a weaker style individual , maybe they think they can somehow get this partner to change.

[strateguy632]

third, people wanna hear "uou were right" about each thing especially if partner bad, blame him.

[love_conquers_lust]

Shit tons of self doubt and an inability to let go. Find alternatives.

[In_Trance]

If you're genuinely concerned about these kind of things I don't think a relationship is right for you

[krin_m]

I have always moved on from a toxic relationship. Not worth the time or energy1

[azgınteke]

What's the point of poison in relationships?

[Iron_Man]

I’m not in that situation

[BLP11520]

So it's sex for you?

[Solo3k]

Tumble weeds more than likely

[boobliker]

get out asap.

[jimmy2]

It's get toxic bye