If you are over 30, did your list of what you look for in a SO change? Anything no longer that important or more so?

[Anonymous]

[Flatmanlewis]

My priorities, as to what I looked for in a relationship, changed at about age 35. I placed an increase value in honesty, maturity, and career & financial stability. My work (especially at that time) involved international travel sometimes for weeks on end, and some measure of danger. I wanted to know I was not carrying the weight of their life (or my children’s) knowing I was with somebody too weak to handle themselves while I was away. Them having stability and an independent income was part of that. I valued (and do) respect and understanding. My physical attraction tastes didn’t change much but I think I developed a stronger sense of attraction to a classier cut of woman.

[BoopBoopBeep]

I care less about what she does for a living. Money was really tight growing up, so I thought I wanted someone with a really good income. Then I realized that I made more than enough money and cared more about her spending habits than actual income. Other than that, pretty much stayed the same I think.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I am not over 30,

but it’s been changing during past few months or so.

I think I have learned to be more open-minded and a bit more wise, I have also learned that good looks, while might look very nice, don’t mean a man will be a good partner or will have a suitable personality.

So, I want to choose better next time.

We need to stop looking for a “perfect” partner. “Perfect” doesn’t exist. We are all flawed in our own ways.

[Nikki1989]

No, I just became better at spotting time wasters.

[msc545]

It has changed to some extent in that I have refined by my ideas of what I want in another person. Keeping in mind getting exactly what I want is probably not possible but getting most of the important things hopefully is. That said, have not found anyone that meets all of my desires in this regard. Luckily, I know at least one person at the moment who comes extremely close, but sadly lives too far away for us to really get together in any practical sense. That is a source of great sadness for me.

[Anemone978]

As for if I was divorced and was looking for someone new.. I have no list anymore just be nice and good looking.. I literally don't care, I don't want to fall in love again or live with a guy ever again so just be hot and sweet..

[m33ladmjmj]

s3x is more important now for me..

my friend is more important now, I care less about stooopid useless friends, I keep my problems to myself, I dont show off anything..

I care about myself growth and success more..

I started traveling now, i wanna see more and more places.

[BCA6010]

It changed around 25, and hasn't changed really at all ever since.

[Blueeyes81]

Yeah. When I was younger having fun was the only thing I cared about. I found a woman attractive and fun then that was all that mattered. Now you can add have your shit together to the list.

[genericname85]

i meant hat list is constantly evolving. new things being added and some things being removed.

[jahaims]

Nah, I have always required the same morals, values and goals.

[Anonymous]

No I am going to die alone.

[Fireguy17]

no, not really.