How to give space to my boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

I am in LDR. My boyfriend hangs out with his work team. One girl is close to him. She is better looking than me. I just hate the fact that he may find her beautiful at any time. They hang out a lot. They go shopping and to the pub (as a team). I told him that it was hurting me and I didn't like it. But still, he is continuing to do so. I told him to at least not send the pictures to me so that I wouldn't be sad or mad. But he said he doesn't like hiding and continuing sending pictures veryyy close to her. I decided not to tell him that it was making me sad because I already told him once. He should stop doing those things. But no. He continues those things. So I decided to ignore him hanging out with her, those pictures, and him. I am unable to concentrate on my studies because of this. I am a bit secure ig

I just want to give him space without bothering his enjoyment and fun and also me not getting sad

[Oliverlogan263]

Sis, I totally feel you - long distance makes those little things feel so much bigger. But you gotta relax a bit here and trust your man.

Dudes and girls can just be friends, ya know? And he's prob just tryna include you and be honest by sharin pics. I know it sucks seeing him all close with another girl, but flipping out will only push him away.

My advice - take a deep breath, trust that he's with you until he gives you a real reason not to. Stay busy with your own life - keep crushin those studies, hit the gym, hang with your girls. The less you stress about it, the more he'll appreciate you chillin.

Next time they hang, just be like "babe, have fun but no need to send pics if it makes me sad, kay? I trust you." Keep it light and don't accuse. He'll respect you more for being secure than jealous, feel me?

Stay positive, sis! This too shall pass. Have faith in your dude and in yourself. Your confidence is the sexiest thing, trust! Keep killin it and let him enjoy his friends - he's comin home to you at the end of the day.

[mattla]

Sounds like you’ve communicated everything to him and have decided not to press on the issue anymore. But by the sound of it, he completely disregarded your concerns. When someone spends a ton of time with their colleagues especially with colleagues of opposite sex it’s understandable that you’re feeling like this. I think you deserve a peaceful mind if anything in this situation and should talk about it seriously and calmly with him. If the result doesn’t suit you from then on and is impacting your personal life you’ll have to decide if you should part ways really. Relationships should be a good addition to your life but not a detriment to it. Give it a shot and if the result doesn’t suit you - get out

[Asker]

Ah! Finally, someone who understood my concern. Thanks for your help. It really made me feel so good.

[boggboss]

Then whole situation is a mess u are insecure and thats playing a part but equally he doesn't care about making it easy on you

[In_Trance]

Smh... by LDR, you mean fairy tale