How to give boyfriend some space?

[artsy_dragon]

I have not been good mentally. I am at work a lot but he still says he needs space.

How do I do this please? He says he doesn't like me going out because he doesn't know where I am?

[oceanAndSeas]

As a friend. I want to ask why you are in depression? Secondly, considering you are diagnosed, he may get bored or feel himself unattached to you by seeing that you are too busy. Though he should be considerate about your condition and work overload. I personally think that relationships always succeed on the basis of compromise. Its a give and take thing. No one ever can completely fulfill the expectations of their partner. I think you should consider consulting a mature and sincere friend who understands you to figure out whether he is serious about the relationship and is ready to make adjustments for the sake of relationship. Or is he just seeking fulfilment if his expectations without caring about yours

[NathanDavis]

ask him...

communicate

there is no way I will ever know better what he means exactly, nor his intentions, so just have a good and serious discussion about this, with him... the one you're in a relationship with

[melanieeeB]

He shouldn't be controlling what you do with your life and night outs.
Sure I always actually told the guys I was seeing where I go but it was my decision to do so and they were never like "Oh i don't want you to go out" the fuck.

Honestly give him space, by leaving.

[Summeroflove]

If he wants space. Why does he care where you are if he wants space? Makes no sense. If you’re not cheating on him.

[BarryLiverstone]

Seems like you are asking two separate questions here. Which one did you want answers to?

[artsy_dragon]

Both

[BarryLiverstone]

I’ll help answer both.

For starters you aren’t feeling well mentally. What does that mean?

[artsy_dragon]

I have depression

[BarryLiverstone]

Ok so I assume you are using medication and have a doctor to help you manage it

He wants to protect you as his girlfriend so if you fail to tell him where you are going when you go out he doesn’t like that. He wants to know you are safe.

Regarding his need for space. When you want to cuddle do you give him a heads up an hour beforehand or just snuggle in the moment?

[artsy_dragon]

I get that and he only wants to cuddle when he wants to

[BarryLiverstone]

That’s because as a guy he will focus on accomplishing a task and if you get clingy and sit next to him it’s a distraction and he feels trapped.

So I’ll ask again do you cuddle on demand or do you tell him ahead of time you want some cuddling time with him at some point that day?

[Sparkie460]

With all the things you do I wonder how you have any time for him. You are always busy.

[artsy_dragon]

No I do when I want to cuddle he says go away

[Sparkie460]

How often do you want to cuddle with him

[artsy_dragon]

Near enough every day

[Sparkie460]

What do you mean by that? Is it once a day or a couple times a day

[artsy_dragon]

Couple times a fay. I have depression

[Sparkie460]

Did you go to the doctor like I recommended or are you self diagnosed.

[artsy_dragon]

I am already diagnosed

[Sparkie460]

Pushing you away is not helping with your depression. Did he know you have depression when you first started dating

[Sparkie460]

He should be a little more sympathetic towards you.

[Sparkie460]

Can I ask you some personal questions? If you don't want to talk publicly I can dm you

[Pyrofox]

Then ask him 🤔 how much space is enough. 😉 And just be the giggly you and maybe he will realize he needs to get out of his slump.

[artsy_dragon]

He says he doesn't know

[Pyrofox]

Guys in relationships are very factual. by the way. And do'ers the fastest way to get to the core of a man is just ask the big questions and be like if they are like give me a moment. Just say your gonna brb with the coffee and be like alright I'll just wait by your side and be patient is my best tip. The best way to get to know a man or guy is just take the time to get to know them. That's genuinely the secret sauce to a man. Is just take your time with them.

[artsy_dragon]

Thanks

[tfan1]

Sit down with him face to face and discuss exactly what he means.

[spartan55]

Yeah, so what? Why does he need to know where you are? I'd just laugh at him and ask if he thought he was talking to the hired help

[artsy_dragon]

I don't understand sorry