I know that it‘s normal to notice attractive people, but my boyfriend scans women from head to toe and stares at women who are attractive. it really hurts me and i‘ve told him that but he denies it or says he will stop doing it but he doesn‘t. it makes me very sad and it makes me feel like I am not enough. I blame myself for feeling insecure but I can‘t help it. What should I do?
Ya know what? Up his!! Creep! Thinks he's all that!
My last boyfriend (who died last month and can no longer torture me with doing this type of stuff to hurt me) used to do the same thing whenever we went somewhere. Especially if the woman was out walking her dog. That's how he would start taking to her, about her dumb dog! Mind you, I would be standing right there while the two of them acted all flirty with each other.
He hurt me so many times doing that. Yet, he said I love you to me everyday almost for the 7 years I knew him.
His ex-sister-in-law once told me about him that he's a really good friend to have, but he has a wandering heart. Well, not anymore! No more can he hurt me thinking he's fricken Casanova, yet always keeping in his life.
His first wife died after 24 years. He probably did the same thing to her, which caused her to get addicted to food and she gained 200 pounds. I can see it. I never ate like that, but he made me so anxious I started smoking cigarettes again after being clean from them for two years.
It happens. No one twisted our arms to eat or smoke, but having your man constantly making you feel like he's going to leave you at any minute can cause some reaction.
I think you should ask yourself why this makes you feel insecure. Has he ever cheated? Do you feel like he’s going to cheat? have you ever had a full conversation about this to him before? I think you should really try to figure this all out before dumping someone over something very very very small when it comes down to it
Is he willing to work on the issue at all? Like train himself not to look?
My older brother has this issue, and I trained myself to avoid his behavior.
He should make himself look above them, then down and stop at their eyes. Eventually, his brain will start ignoring the irrelevant information about her.
Some men are just freaks, but it sounds like he has a problem with self control.
If he's not willing to work on the issue, so you can hangout without him being disrespectful to you, then yes. He's being disrespectful.
If he's willing to work on the issue, and acknowledges his problem, then not yet. First step of getting help is acknowledging that there is a problem.
It's weird as fuck to be staring at people for any reason.
Also, now I understand why girls are so paranoid about their man looking at other women.
Because I get looks from women with their boyfriends. Peeking at me from behind his back. Making eye contact with me. Trying to have a subtle flirt.
I don't think men really do that shit. We are only looking because women are beautiful to look at. I don't think when a man looks, that he is trying to have a subtle flirt. A little validation and so on.
I could be wrong but I know I am a man and I just want to SEE.
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He Cannot Be trusted if He Does That. I am Betting He is on Porn Sites and Or even Other Sites That Deal with this Big Zeal. xoo
Any man that does this is not worth being with. Staring at others is creepy especially head to toe like not everyone is eye candy. Only you should be his eye candy
Yes because it sounds like you want a man who isn't really a man lol
Your boyfriend is a predator, just like most men are. This is worrisome because it is an indicator that they have no control whatsoever over their testosterone and would rather be the slaves of them than to attempt to master them.
If you have the slightest doubt in your mind that he is actively looking for a substitute, then you should separate while it is time. This behavior is indicative that his subconscious is targeting other women as possible replacement for you. You may be the nicest looking person in the world but for some men, that is not enough. They need the challenge because of their weak willpower.
They will deny it of course but the facts speak for themselves.
You're asking for too much. I also suffer with insecurities as a result of low self esteem and yeah it's annoying. Put it this way, you date a dude who's really caring and puts you first but then he takes issue with you talking to other men. You'd want to accommodate him because you love him but it's an unreasonable ask. I think it's important to try and see it from his perspective because from your description is does sound like he's making some effort.
Men are programed to find other women attractive, that is a very different thing than being disloyal to our girlfriends or wifes.
Just rememebr until a few hundred years ago it was common for men to actual sleep with other women and remain loyal good husbands to their wife for many thousands of years.
It may be a bit of insecurity on your part. It sound kind of a jerk though. Checking out a pretty girl is practically a past time for many men. But staring? Gawking? That’s a bit much. In the end you and you alone can only decide what’s best for you. You either must act or accept. There isn’t much in between.
A woman should have to seek counseling because of putting up with being treated poorly, it’s unfair. Ya just let him treat you loudly but get some therapy so u can tolerate him… 😬 no.
Relationships take work, especially after the honeymoon phase. It take two at all times.
Communication is sooo important and if there’s no communication between u two on a good day, it’s understandable you could feel uncomfortable in the situation u are talking about.
Sit back and decide if there’s any chances of this relationship mending and if there is, it better be both of you mending it - it never takes one person to fix two peoples issue.
Personally, it sounds like you’re done with this guy and u just need a reason to pull the plug.
I feel this is deeper. Why is he so animated when seeing them.
I assume my boyfriend sees other girls as hot, but why would he be so obvious to me?
Id he okay if you have the same behavior.
I would ask him.
Its not about him looking, it's his facial expressions tell you into it. ❤️🙄
It is normal and unavoidable for a guy to look at other women. It's different if he does this all the time. If I were you, I would probably give him a choice. Either he changes his behavior or I break up with him.
I don't know about dumping, but you should at least tap him whenever he does it so he has nothing to say.. It's kinda disrespectful to do it front of your girl.. I mean c'mon.. If he doesn't stop the behavior maybe then you could make it known that it hurts you by maybe suggesting that he goes to chase those women without you.
He's not really nice, he should at least stop this when he's with you. Especially staring is also not respectful to other women. But to be honest it happens to me, guys are staring especially at boobs when their girlfriend are here too
That's disrespectful. Of course it isn't cheating, but I get that it would feel humiliating and hurtful. Does he ever act inconsiderate in other ways?
Stop being so insecure. Every man wants other women just like we look at other men and want them. It’s just your turn babe so enjoy him while he lasts
Some people go to an art gallery to look at the artwork & as for your boyfriend he’s checking out works of art in public. Would you rather your boyfriend check out women or would you rather your boyfriend check out men?
I would break up with him. Yes, it's normal to notice attractive people but openly checking them out like that while in a relationship is disgusting and disrespectful. No guy would want their girlfriends doing that.
He's a red blooded male. I'd find it weird if my boyfriend didn't stare at hot woman. I end up pointing them out to him. Haha. However, if it makes u upset then u must talk to him about it.
No. He needs to ditch your jealous ass quickly, before you turn into his stalker ex.
You're acting like a wife when you're barely a girlfriend.
Yes.
That he's doing so is disgusting on its own, especially as he seems not to even hide it. That he does it in front of you, knowing how you feel? Even worse.
Good luck finding one who doesn't look at all, so first determine what degree you're comfortable with and where you draw the line, that way you'll know going forward where your hard lines are.
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