Oversharing in relationship: Does it spoil or overwhelm you?

[gayesblog]

Is it bad to overshare in a relationship? What are the negative and positive effects of oversharing?

[dynamicyandere]

I believe it’s fine as long as you’re matching each other so it feels like a back and forth.


So, it’s not good to be doing 80% of the talking if there aren’t times when they too are doing 80% of the talking.


Confiding is good because it helps people feel understood, accepted, and heard.


But it also needs to go both ways.


As long as it’s going both ways and isn’t significantly disproportionate, then it should be fine.


One last thing is quality time.


It’s not good to just ramble on about something that’s not actually of substance.


One side of the spectrum is speaking to your significant other as if this is the last hour you two have before the world ends. What will you talk about? Only that which matters the most.


The other side of the spectrum is speaking as if you two have all the time in the world to talk about anything and everything.


I believe it’s better to speak to each other as if the world is ending soon — or closer to that end of the spectrum.


That way, you remember to not take each other for granted, and to cherish the moments you still have with each other.


It’s that kind of perspective shift that ensures the time you spend together is quality time.

[coachTanthony]

Why would anyone need to overshare? If you can't get your point across maybe, if they don't listen maybe, but in a normal healthy relationship you shouldn't do it.

[Bethany22]

Oversharing too early in a relationship gives the guy the impression that you want him too much. Depending on the stage of the relationship that he is in, he will either pull away so as to not hurt you or feels you are too high maintenance, or he will take you for granted until someone else better comes along.

[turnpost]

Girls can overshare on disgusting details about themselves. But overall I can't imagine this being much of an issue for women.

For men, oversharing can lead to being viewed as desperate, voicing to many concerns she can't qwell on her own. Leads to annoyance and no more tricks in the bag to keep her interested.

Most guys dont have the option to find another girl immediately (its serious effort to get another girl that likes you just as much you like her) , but women mostly do try to get the best they can get. (Social media as evidence)

[turnpost]

The answer varies but its best for guys to not over share. and for women to share more.

[Anemone978]

I probably overshare all the time.. since I don't have many boundaries.. I don't know how my partner takes it because he barely shares anything.. but he still wants to be with me so he can't hate it lol

[Meropatrick]

Oversharing is a bad idea. Privacy is like a weapon. U dont know when u can use it and when it can be used against u. Even if u have nothing to hide. Try to keep some privacy. Its never bad not to be an easy to read book.

[midnightmoon05]

It’s important to share a lot depending on the stage of your relationship and the compatibility between the two.

[jahaims]

I don't think oversharing is possible in a romantic relationship. I'm happy to hear any of my partners thoughts or feelings.

[aceleon]

İ am afraid i am a guy of extremes so i would either over share or not even share at all.

[Lisia]

I believe it's fine as long as you guys both overshare & it's during a deep conversation

[JackCarter]

Depends on the relationship
I see no negative aspects when you are close enough or married

[sheikalana]

Yea, there are things from your past that your partner doesn't need to know.

[OddBeMe]

Over eagerness can be a turn off at the beginning. Especially now when the mass populace is used to instant gratification.

[shades777]

share what you want to share, they go ok, they stay ok, nothing to think about

[Anonymous]

In general It's always best to share ONLY what you must with a women.

[Nikki1989]

Depends on what you are sharing.

[m1tch3ll]

i love it. all i need to say