Is it settling or love if you’re compromising more than you intended to?

[Anonymous]

You know what you are not into and don’t want to do. You know what and when you want certain things in your future. However someone seemingly great comes along, you fall in love, and although everyone else failed to change you, this one person has talked you into disregarding your dealbreakers and so much more. Its almost scary to no longer be set in your ways. Deep down you don’t want to change but you also don’t want to lose everything you two have become

Must be love

Reeks of desperation

Someone is settling

Never say never

[Joshydavid25]

We find out real quick that any list we have of people goes out the window for the most part when we actually find someb we love.. That's why you never say never.. Unless those deal breakers go against your core values.. Then yeah you might need to rethink..

[boggboss]

Truly depends why did u chamge your deal breakers is it because u are not thinking or did u work out your deal breakers wernt that big a issue

[Asker]

I feel they are huge dealbreakers. I’m uncomfortable with the idea of going against them and that I may resent myself more than the person I broke them for. However I also fear of letting go of someone that could be worthwhile

[boggboss]

If they are objectively huge dealbreakers how will a relationship even work with them

[Asker]

I ask myself that at least once a week. I think deep down, I am hopeful that I can convince them otherwise. I have not fully agreed to give up or try certain things but I told him that I am considering. I think we are both trying to get over on each other but until then, we appear to be going strong

[boggboss]

Seems u two are wasting eachithers time to be honest may I ask what the dealbreakers are?

[Asker]

Are we really wasting eachothers time though if for some, he wants the same things just not at the same time? We don’t want kids at the same time but if it happens unexpectedly, we’re prepared. The other is that one of us is religious and the other is not but debates becoming religious. Typically a dealbreaker. Another is that one of us is more vanilla and the other wants to try everything. Another is that one of us travels too much for work. Another is that one of us wants to travel the world while the other is not into that. Its so many things but the love is making me try to work it all out. he's willing to give it a go as long as I am. But I’m scared of wasting my time if everything doesn't come together next year

[KrakenAttackin]

Most women are so delusional about their "deal breakers", that "settling" is inevitable.